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Kisses on the end of text messages ?

101 replies

MillyMollyMoo · 21/01/2010 22:57

Is this the norm now to put x's on the end of messages to somebody's husband ?
There's more to it but this in particular is irritating me and I'm having to sit on my hands not to text her what the fuck are you playing at.

OP posts:
suwoo · 21/01/2010 22:59

Only if ur a hun, hun x

suwoo · 21/01/2010 23:00

Sorry Milly, I would be pissed off too, but yes I think it is the norm for some people.

DebiNewberry · 21/01/2010 23:00

yeah, think there must be a lot more to it, tbh.

I do this all the time in texts and emails, would not think anything of it if somebody put a kiss on a text to my husband.

how did you see the text, did he show you?

NomDePlume · 21/01/2010 23:00

I do it to my own husband.

In fact I sign all of my texts to friends/family with MyInitialx. Someone will prob come along and say how juvenile that is in a minute, but at least I don't use text speak [consoles self]

Remotew · 21/01/2010 23:01

Hmm not on really. I put kisses on the end to boyfriends and some girlfriends but wouldn't to my boss for instance.

Saying that my Dsis husband put a kiss on the end of a text to a female friend and when she questioned it he in all innocence thought that meant over and out. He was a novice texter at the time.

NomDePlume · 21/01/2010 23:01

I do it on emails too (personal ones, not professional ones, obv)

notanumber · 21/01/2010 23:01

I think it is just an automatic action for lots of people. I wouldn't necessarily read anything into this on it's own.

Depends what the other factors are which are causing you to be suspicious.

Hullygully · 21/01/2010 23:02

This sort of thing makes me so angry

NotAnOtter · 21/01/2010 23:02

i might text a male friend with a kiss - a good ie old friend

littlemissfixit · 21/01/2010 23:02

i do it out of habit to girl pals and certain guy pals I think YUB a tiny bit U. I think you would need to take the age of the texter into account, and what kind of relationship you DH has with this person.

bibbitybobbityhat · 21/01/2010 23:02

I send one kiss to my girlfriends, if I am asking them a favour .

Would not send a kiss to another man apart from my dad and brothers.

Irishchic · 21/01/2010 23:03

Do you mean there is another woman who signs off with a "xx" when she is texting your hubby?

I wouldnt be keen on that. And what do you mean there is more to it..what more, elaborate..

NotAnOtter · 21/01/2010 23:04

like a family friend...

MrsSawdust · 21/01/2010 23:04

Quite the norm these days between either sex IME. Unless there is more to your suspicion than just this, I would say YABU.

NomDePlume · 21/01/2010 23:04

ooooooooooooh never more than one kiss. more than one is baaaaaaaaaaaaaad.

littlemissfixit · 21/01/2010 23:04

hullgully you're very angry at everything tonight, go and make yourself a cuppa x

oops sorry!

Remotew · 21/01/2010 23:06

A friend of mine recently got an email from a male customer about business which was signed with a X and she took it as a sign he might be interested. I agreed with her. I don't think it should be the done thing, mixed messages.

NoahAndTheWhale · 21/01/2010 23:06

I end my texts with an x but only really text females and DH. Texted BIL recently and couldn't decide whether to put an x or not. I think I didn't.

fortyplus · 21/01/2010 23:06

I'm an old fogey but I put x at the end of texts to female friends, dcs, dh and one or two others including older male friend (who is respectable married man and I'm sure his wife doesn't mind!)

I'm friendly with my boss and occasionally put a big X for a joke if I send him a text about something funny. I would like to think that his wife wouldn't mind - there is certainly no intention to flirt and I certainly wouldn't put one every time.

I don't think it's anything to get hung up about.

NoahAndTheWhale · 21/01/2010 23:07

I think DH gets xx

DuelingFanjo · 21/01/2010 23:07

I dunno, is the woman a friend of his? I think it's normal for friends to put kisses and YABU if they are friends and have been for a while. Did she know him before you?

stressheaderic · 21/01/2010 23:08

I have a friend who puts them on the end of all correspondance, inc professional work emails, even ones to our top boss. She gets offended when all other people don't do it back. I have heard her say things like 'He hasnt put a kiss. He must be in a mood with me' when texting someone in a new relationship.

Drives me mental.

stitch · 21/01/2010 23:10

i get these at the end of texts and emails, and it drives me potty.
I WOULDNT KISS YOU IN REAL LIFE, SO STOP SENDING ME VIRUTAL KISSES. is what i want to scream down the phone at them. but of course i dont. it seems to be a modern phenomenon. i jsut dont seem to be getting it.

fortyplus · 21/01/2010 23:12

Actually - thinking more about it - i have one very good friend who would always put a x whether she was texting me or dh. I certainly don't mind!

fortyplus · 21/01/2010 23:13

I do tend to agree that i wouldn't put a x on the end of a text or e-mail to anyone i wouldn't give a social kiss to.

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