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Kisses on the end of text messages ?

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MillyMollyMoo · 21/01/2010 22:57

Is this the norm now to put x's on the end of messages to somebody's husband ?
There's more to it but this in particular is irritating me and I'm having to sit on my hands not to text her what the fuck are you playing at.

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melrose · 21/01/2010 23:15

I do it, never thought it was wrong tbh, did it to DH mate earlier and he is married...

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MillyMollyMoo · 21/01/2010 23:16

No she didn't know him before me, they are at Uni together he's known her 3 months. He has also been to the cinema with her at 1am after they'd been for a meal with a group.
Am trying to not get wound up nut this text coming in this evening wishing him luck with an assignment and ending with a kiss has really hacked me off.
He knows im on his phone now and have seen the text and says that's just her way. What a friendly 32 year old single lady she is

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melrose · 21/01/2010 23:22

..have alos realised I did it tomy married boss the other day after asking if his poorly Ds by txt

littlemissfixit · 21/01/2010 23:24

maybe its me but i would need more proof thats shes trying to fire into my man than a late cinema viewing and a x at the end of a text message. I might be a little have you met this woman before? If not is there anyway you could so you could asses how she acts around you dh?

DuelingFanjo · 21/01/2010 23:25

to be fair, if your husband isn't interested in her then a kiss means nothing. Is he open about the cinema visit etc?

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MillyMollyMoo · 21/01/2010 23:27

I can't meet her, I'm sure I am over reacting but it still annoys me, she knows he's married and im pregnant and I just wouldnt behave like this to somebody elses husband.

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MillyMollyMoo · 21/01/2010 23:28

No he lied through his teeth about the cinema and then a week later stayed out all night after he'd dropped her home apparently.

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willsurvivethis · 21/01/2010 23:28

I do put an x (oh dear or even two sometimes so shoot me) at the end of a text to a few very married male friends that I would also hug/peck on cheek in person. So I would not notice/be upset if a female friend did it to dh, I trust him. So her intentions don't matter.

willsurvivethis · 21/01/2010 23:30

So Milly this is about things that are faaaar bigger and more concerning than a text then. I think if you would ask AIBU to be peed of and suspicious after that you would get a pretty positive response i reckon, certainly from me

fortyplus · 21/01/2010 23:33

tbh I think it's your dh who is being rather insensitive with his behaviour rather than athe over-friendly 32 yo. He should know better than to stay out all night with other women when you're pg - that's just not fair. Don't lay the blame at her doorstep - take it up with him.

DuelingFanjo · 21/01/2010 23:33

does he know you know he lied? Seriously I would be giving him a whole heap of shit over that.

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MillyMollyMoo · 21/01/2010 23:34

I keep trying to believe him and then the kisses on the end of texts set me off again. I've had it out with him and got nowhere,am so tempted to text her and ask what she's playing at but I'll sound like a fruit loop won't I ?

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littlemissfixit · 21/01/2010 23:35

oh dear milly, If it was me i would discuss my concerns with my dp, the more he see's her the worse you'l feel. If he knows how you feel he may be able to reassure you.

juneybean · 21/01/2010 23:35

I do it automatically except to my male boss, I do it to the female boss though?

DuelingFanjo · 21/01/2010 23:36

Personally I am a big fan of the 'change her number to your number on his phone' trick.

skidoodle · 21/01/2010 23:36

Putting an x or two at the bottom of a text message can be pretty meaningless.

Staying out all night and lying to your wife are a lot more important.

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MillyMollyMoo · 21/01/2010 23:38

I did give him he'll but I found out on Christmas eve and then we went on holiday so he got off lightly. But it's not him adding kisses to texts too be fair it is her.

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ElephantsAndMiasmas · 21/01/2010 23:38

Agree with willsurvivethis - you could have come on here saying "AIBU to think my DH is lying through his teeth about staying out all night when I'm pg?" and everyone would be on your side. So how come you aren't asking that question?

Hope you're ok, you must be having a horrid time. Where does your DH claim he was all night the bastard ?

littlemissfixit · 21/01/2010 23:39

think i was writing as you were writing! Think you might well sound like a bit of a nut job. and you dh could be really angry that you txt her behind his back

kauters · 21/01/2010 23:39

I'd have the hump, DH and I have agreed we don't sent x's to anyone except eachother o family. It can send out the wrong signals.

mumeeee · 21/01/2010 23:39

I usually put x on the end of my texts unless it's to someone official.

nappyaddict · 21/01/2010 23:40

NDP why no more than one kiss?

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MillyMollyMoo · 21/01/2010 23:40

He claims he slept in the car at services.

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skidoodle · 21/01/2010 23:40

She's the one putting "kisses" on texts (which she may do on every text she sends to anyone.

He's the one telling you lies and staying out all night.

littlemissfixit · 21/01/2010 23:43

see the tricky thing is if he knows you go through his text messages he 'l probably delete any 1's