To be irritated by pal who swore she didn't care what sex her DB is,when obviously she did!

[Earplugs]

Not hugely irritated but mildly .

Pal swore blind her and her DH didn't care about the sex of their 3rd child. They already have 2 DD.

When she told me she was expecting,I was (and still am!) thrilled for her but made the mistake of mentioning the baby's sex. I was almost verbally attacked by daring to suggest that they might be hoping for a boy and was told in no uncertain terms that the sex of their children wasn't of importance. I was actually a bit hurt by the way I was spoken to.

So fast forward a couple of months (never mentioning the sex again!) and after a scan, she has discovered she is expecting a boy and from their reaction you would think they had won the lottery.

Not a day goes by without an announcement on facebook declaring how 'shocked' and 'totally thrilled' they are at the wonderful news, and I'm getting a little sick of hearing about how she will manage buying blue baby clothes.

Since the news, she has also shared with me the details of how they were actually timing sex to increase chances of having a boy.

So AIBU wish that she'd just have admitted to wanting a boy in the first place?

And AIBVU to think that if you genuinly didn't mind about the sex, then you wouldn't be making such a fuss?

No, I am boiling mad

No, I am boiling mad (thank you for asking)

Hully is apopleptic everybody

I am

Does Hully need to start a thread to explain?

YABU, it's not about you. If she's a pal, let it go!

I was fortunate enough that my 'pals' had the good sense grace to make no mention of my 4th childs gender.

(Which was a blissfull relief given no-one else was so considerate!)

I know the friend very well. Well enough as I thought to ask the question if she would like a boy. It was just that, a question, not a statement such as 'as you have 2 girls you must want a boy'. But obviously from her reaction, she had been asked the question several times before. Still doesn't give someone the right to be very rude IMHO.

Isn't talking about the sex a fairly normal thing that you'd do with a close mate? It is what I do with mine, as they did with me when I was expecting.

As I said in my OP, I am thrilled they have a healthy baby on the way.

It wasn't your friend talking about sex that amused me, it was the fact she believed that she could in some way affect the gender of the baby by having sex at different times of the day!

Yes, my friends talked about it with me, when I brought it up.

Regardless of how you mentioned it to her, it would have been impossible for her to answer without potentially 'betraying' her unborn child. No matter how close you are to her, her bond is stronger with her baby! I can understand why she was defensive.

No, maybe they haven't 'won the lottery' it's better than that! A child, a healthy pregnancy, regardless of gender, is something to be celebrated, surely?

OP, I think perhaps you should think it through from her point of view and choose to be the bigger person in this. You're right that she shouldn't have been rude, but maybe you should just swallow this one and be happy for her.

She sounds like a dick.

You were thoughtles YABU.

Nicely put TSC

I secretly wanted a girl last time but did not ever admit that to anyone except bf, as i knew that if i didnt have a girl ,people would be commiserating with me and making me feel bad, ruining the whole excitement of new baby thing. I had a boy, I was ecstatic as was rest of family. My bf has not once mentioned that i had wanted a girl as it isnt important anymore. A new baby is a gift whichever sex. YABU

"i genuinely don't care-it's a fucking stupid question bordering upon 'inane' as wanting a boy isn't going to make your girl spout a cock in uterus is it?"

I guess you're not going to start tell everyone about how you were shagging at special times in order to make a little cock, are you?

I agree with Diamondhead about three posts in. Anyway, there's nothing for you get hot under the collar about- it's your friend's life experience, not yours. How she reacts to it not really any of your concern. Be glad for her that she got what she secretly wanted.