He is DP's friend from teenage years and he has lived with us for a year now, moving out soon and I am soooo counting the days. Last night DP mentioned that he might be back in few years time to which my reaction was 'if he's in, I'm out!'.
The reasons I don't ever want him back are numerous:
he is an alkoholic (and proud of how much he can drink!), he gets pissed every day with rare exceptions .
he never ever cleans his room - in the whole year he vacuum cleaned his room ONCE. He eats in his room and stashes empty beer and food cans there and it always stinks
His room is a complete mess - I actually never go in there cause I might just explode with rage if I do
He constantly walks around with a beer can - annoying and while I can ignore it I wouldn't like my son to be exposed to that in a few years time when he's older (am I being overprotective not wanting to have an alcoholic around my son?..)
He himself stinks, I had to tell him to wash himself more often recently.
I just want to be left alone, I avoid our living room because he comes down every 20 mins for a smoke outside and I have to engage in some meaningless conversation I am not interested in. I don't have the nerve to be mean so I just smile while my blood is boiling.
His drinking creeps me out when he walks around with blurry eyes and I just want to hide or run away.
To his defence I must add that he keeps himself to himself most of the time and stays in his room watching TV for ages. I can enjoy max 10 minutes of conversation with him when he's sober but that's about it. He doesn't get loud when drunk just annoying. Helps my DP to move heavy things in the house if needed. His rent money has helped us through difficult times.
But I just cannot stand his drinking. Just a thought of him comming back in a few years time makes me want to scream. How do I explain to DP nicely that I will move out or turn into fury if he comes back? DP btw, regards him as a 'family' as they've known each other for so long and his friend does not have any family. I think DP feels sorry for him but am I right in thinking that his friend should sort out his life on his own (he was btw kicked out from the last place he rented a room - I suspect the reasons were similar to mine and people just got fed up with him) and my DP doesn't owe him anything and should listen to when I say I do not want him back ever? I do feel sorry for his friend sometimes too but having an alcoholic in the house with small children seems bloody wrong to me.
Or am I being a selfish mean biatch?