To refuse to start taking oral contraception?

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Been living with DP for just over a year now. At first, I started taking the pill (loestrin) and I rapidly gained a stone in weight. I stopped taking it and even months later, I couldn't shift that stone. I'd tried all sorts of diets, nothing worked. I was becomming so fed up, none of my clothes fitted, I felt frumpy and flabby and I couldn't even enjoy my sport properly because I just felt too heavy.

However, for the past month or so I have tried a new approach to dieting (eating regularly but in very small portions) and FINALLY the weight is starting to creep back down.

Since I stopped taking the pill, we've been using condoms but now DP is saying he hates them and he wants me to try the depo injection. After much worry and anxiety, I reluctantly agreed to try it and he's been counting the days ever since.

However, after a chat with the nurse, I'm convinced I will put weight on again. The nurse actually said its likely.

I'm torn between trying to keep him happy and thinking "fuck it, its my body and I don't want to put anymore weight on so I'm not taking it".

He will go off on one completely if I tell him I'm not even going to try it but I'm so scared of putting weight on again.

AIBU to refuse having it done?

I simpy CANNOT risk getting pregnant as it would have to end it abortion so anything less reliable is a definate no.

I've had a mirena for the last 10 years with no problems, but it's due to be replaced soon so I'm going to ask about something called Evra, which is patches.. not sure how widely known/used they are tho

Hi, anastaisia, of course it was a user error, but that, and your explanation (thanks, it was interesting) underline why I don't consider this sort of thing very useful contraception: who knows how to do it properly? And there is that danger of "spontaneity".

If you follow the rules for natural family planning its as effective as the pill - failure rate of 1 in 100.

It does mean charting, taking your temperature each morning and keeping an eye on other fertility sypmtoms. But I think knwing your body well is a good thing anyway.

There can be problems with women coming off hormonal contraception getting pregnant because they frequently have irregular cycles or don't show 'normal' fertility syptoms in the early cycles. You can still pinpoint ovulation with temperature and have unprotected sex between ovulation and the next period (the post ovulation absolutely infertile phase), but its safest to use condoms in the pre-ovulation relatively infertile stage if you definitely don't want a baby, at least until your body has time to regulate cycles properly.

Its most effective if you can find a teacher who'll show you how to chart and interpret them, and then be on hand for queries about what to do if you have out of the ordinary charts.

The Family Planning Association have information about all types of contraception - including natural family planning here

(just wanted to add - not pushing this as though I think its the right choice for the OP. just wanted to give information because like WingedVictory said it isn't really thought of as a real option by many people)

Hi, anastaisia. I'm sorry if I came across as intransigent. Those are very good odds indeed, and it sounds extraordinarily well developed as a method, so I am sorry I was so dismissive and thought it unscientific and chancy.

However, there is the user error you mentioned. I'm afraid I never managed to get on with Pill taking because it needs to be habitual, and I could never get into the habit. I only just managed to remember my folic acid/vitamins in pregnancy, by taking it at night with my shower! I am feckless, I know, but know my limits, and it seems everyone has her limits with various sorts of contraception. I guess those limitations are what we are talking about here, with RunSpotRun's not getting on with the Pill.

Pax?