Hi,
My husband and I are a couple of months off ttc our first child. He has always wanted children, as have I, but it is only in the last six months or so that we have both felt now is the right time.
Anyway, after much discussion with DH, yesterday I made an appointment for us to see our GP in a couple of week's time. It can be tricky getting appointments at our surgery, especially as he is a teacher and works half an hour away so has to have appointments last thing in the day.
When I told him I had booked it, he just said 'well, I hope I haven't got an after-school meeting that day. I'm sure I haven't, but if I have, I won't be able to go'. I said that I would expect him to be there whether he had a staff meeting or not - they're hardly important and it wouldn't matter if he missed one for a doctor's appointment. He said that staff meetings are compulsory and that he wouldn't miss it, even for this appointment, especially as it the appointment is hardly necessary in the first place.
I know he's got a point - I could just get another appointment - but this is supposed to be our first step towards creating a family together and to me it is a big deal. I want to feel like he is as excited as me, and like he's going to put our family before his stupid nondescript staff meeting that every other person in the world would just get out of if they had a doctor's appointment. It's not a big deal to miss it, and if he's going to be like this about the moment we start to ttc what's he going to be like for all the other appointments we're going to have?
The stupid thing is, he doesn't even have a meeting, so it's a pointless argument anyway. I just can't believe that he would raise it as an issue.
AIBU?