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I know it's petty, but HOW petty?

69 replies

WastedYouth · 19/01/2010 09:56

On friday, me and DH bought ourselves a big bar of chocolate each. This was very much a one off as we're both supposed to be on diets.

So, friday night, I eat half of my chocolate. DH eats all his before declaring that he felt sick

I said it was his own fault, wrapped my chocolate up and put it in the fridge.

Next day I go to grab a square of chocolate to find that my bar has become considerably smaller I casually say to DH "did you eat some of this?" he goes bright red, pretends to know nothing about it and then says "yes, a bit fell down the back of the fridge and I didn't think you'd want that so I ate it".

I truely wasn't all that bothered so I just said "ok"

Last night, big brother was on and I like a few nibbles when that's on so I said to DH "Think I might have the rest of that chocolate ... " He goes red again.

I went to the fridge and there was only two 'lines' of it left.

This time I did get pissed off. He ate his and I can't even put a bloody bit of chocolate in the fridge without it going missing. I have to hide it just to make sure he doesn't take it. It's ridiculous. He thinks I'm being petty but he does it with everything.

He used to drink ALL the orange juice in one go so I started buying one just for myself (so I could be sure of getting some in a morning ) needless to say he drank all his and then drank mine too.

DS had a bag of turkish delights. Being sensible he ate half the bag and said he'd save the rest so not to make himself sick. Next time he went back to them, there was ONE left.

DH apologised and bought him another bag ... which he promptly ate again as soon as the coast was clear.

DS has now started hiding his sweets in his room.

We shouldn't HAVE TO!

So I know it's a bit petty, whinging over a bit of chocolate but wouldn't this piss anyone else off??

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TheArmadillo · 19/01/2010 09:58

YANBU - that would really piss me off.

Coldhands · 19/01/2010 10:00

How old is your DH ffs. Younger than your DS by the sounds of it.

It does seem like a petty thing, but then if he is like it with everything, including your DSs sweets, he really needs to get some self control and consideration for others IMHO. YANBU.

Poledra · 19/01/2010 10:01

It would piss me off too - I bought DH a box of toffee for Christmas, and wouldn't dream of taking a piece without asking him first.

My BIL got into big trouble with my DSis once, when he ate a Fudge my 6-yo niece had been saving - as she said, it's bloody obvious it belonged to one of the children, why would he take it?? He ain't done it again....

GypsyMoth · 19/01/2010 10:01

did you have a thread about the orange juice? i remember one...

WastedYouth · 19/01/2010 10:02

You see, what pisses me off the most is that if DH had some chocolate in the fridge and DS "stole" some, he'd hit the roof!!

We bought a multipack of wheat crunchies for the kids packed lunched on friday too, DH has eaten half the pack.

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MaggieNilAonSneachta · 19/01/2010 10:02

He obviously likes his chocolate cold. You need to leave it in a cupboard where it will be warm.

I wouldn't be tempted at all by chocolate in a fridge, because it would be like a tasteless lump of lego. But if it was kept in a biscuit tin I would not be able to resist it!!

I mean if it was wrapped up in an unopened box, but fgs, a half open bar of chocolate belonging to spouse is fair game in the war of chocolate and life.

nickytwotimes · 19/01/2010 10:03

Good Lord, the guy has not self-control!

I'd be annoyed. Fair enough, pinch a bit of it, but not the kids stuff and not the lot!

sillyoldfatcatpuss · 19/01/2010 10:03

YANBU, I would be pissed off (noone eats my choccy ) but you are both behaving like students rather than partners. What next, own shelves in the fridge, names on the packets?

bibbitybobbityhat · 19/01/2010 10:04

Sounds like your dh is a compulsive eater.

MaggieNilAonSneachta · 19/01/2010 10:05

ps, the orange juice thing would annoy me more because it's not even a treat it's a staple , to you. he has drunk your breakfast!!

so he has no control at ALL. you need two fridges. if there's a nuclear war he'll eat your space food. so upon reflection, nyanbu. i'd be exasperated too.

kinnies · 19/01/2010 10:05

I'd have the right hump with him.
He is greedy

WastedYouth · 19/01/2010 10:07

He is greedy. He'll open a bag of crisps whilst he's serving dinner. It really annoys me.

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Poledra · 19/01/2010 10:11

I won't even let the children have a drink of juice while I'm making dinner (they can have water), never mind something to eat. He needs to learn some self-control, I think.

GetOrfMoiLand · 19/01/2010 10:11

PSML.

Sorry but it is a bit funny re chocolate and turkish delight theft.

You are not being unreasonavle to be pissed off however, especially as he nicks you and the kids stuff but would go nuts if you did the same to him. Yes that is also selfish re quaffing all the OJ as well.

I don't really know what advice to give though, other than the fact you must tell him that it is not petty to you. To be honest I would stop buying all the treats he likes to eat, however that would be cutting off you nose to spite your face.

Tell him he is a greedy git and he is pissing you off.

lostinwales · 19/01/2010 10:12

YANBU, my DH is the same with savoury food. I try to buy only exactly what I need and plan meals in advance with a list of who's where and when due to 3 x DS's and their sporting activities. Half the time he's snacked on an important ingredient after everyone else has gone to bed. Grounds for divorce IMHO.

FabIsGoingToBeFabIn2010 · 19/01/2010 10:13

YANBU.

There is something more to this than him wanting chocolate. He seems to have a problem.

lostinwales · 19/01/2010 10:14

Oh and I've given up buying ANY juices as he's the only one who will see any of them and the Ds's get annoyed when they ask for some only to find the containers in the fridge are EMPTY .

Ingles2 · 19/01/2010 10:17

I don't get this,..really I don't.
This is your dh, what's mine is yours and all that.
So he can't help himself to what he wants in the fridge cos some of the food is yours ?
As for him going nuts, telling him not to be so bloody ridiculous.
Peharps if you kept more than the bare minimum in the house it wouldn't become such a big deal.

HerHonesty · 19/01/2010 10:17

husband does this all the time. its SOOOOOOO annoying. yanbu. grounds for divorice. or at least a serious strop.

AmazingBouncingFerret · 19/01/2010 10:18

YANBU It would really piss me off. He needs to learn some self control, stealing his DS's sweeties!!
My DH has a thing for pickled onions (weird I know) and can quite happily munch his way through half a jar when watching TV in the evening. So whenever I go to have one with my lunch theres never any left, it drives me mad! Id be even madder if it was chocolate that he was scoffing though!
Divorce him.

Ingles2 · 19/01/2010 10:19

I agree Fab. Has he visited the GP recently? any chance he could have low blood sugar/diabetes?

lostinwales · 19/01/2010 10:20

AND he makes toast or cheese and biscuits when I'm cooking dinner, AND he eats the boys packed lunch stuff. GRRRRRRR. I may be having some issues here, will take myself into a corner and mumble to myself for a bit. Sorry, I think it's because after all these years he is still a toned 12 stone whilst I am a heifer not.

HerHonesty · 19/01/2010 10:20

its the way my dh leaves the empty wrapper/jar/packet in the fridge/drawer that is most annoying.

AmazingBouncingFerret · 19/01/2010 10:20

Ingles from the sounds of her DH it would be unwise to keep anything but the bare minimum in the house, he would most likely still eat it all!

Morloth · 19/01/2010 10:20

DH will hoover up anything that happens to be around. But he can be told that something is specifically for someone else and won't touch it.