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To think that nearly 3 year old DS should

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Annya · 15/01/2010 08:57

be able to play for a few minutes in the morning by himself, while I lie in bed dozing, er, I mean waking up slowly.

He has a bottle of milk and a cuddle in bed with me and DH but is reluctant to even get off our bed without a clear commitment from one of us that we are getting up too. Now.

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WashwithCare · 15/01/2010 09:05

YABU

He's 2 fgs!

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Annya · 15/01/2010 09:06

Er, nearly 3, I think you'll find.

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belgo · 15/01/2010 09:10

HaHaHaHa
you're not serious are you? He's two!

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Annya · 15/01/2010 09:13

I was led to believe that by nearly 3 he'd be able to get up on his own and pop the telly on for a bit. Obviously I'm not expecting him to make me a cup of tea or anything like that... yet.

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Triggles · 15/01/2010 09:17

DS2 is 3.5yrs and has just in the last month or so started learning the whole "wait patiently" thing. He is finally now to a point where I can say "You play here with your toys while I pick up the bathroom (take a shower, do the washing up, or whatever..), and I'll be right back." In the mornings, he is usually up between 5-5:30, but sometimes he wakes up around 4:30-5, in which case I will go in his room and turn on his light for him and put on a CD for him to listen to, and tell him it's not time to get up yet, but he can play in his room for a bit and then we'll get up. It seems to work well, as he has something to occupy him.

It's also worth noting that he has a safety gate on his door, so he can't just leave the room and come into our room. He can, however, stand at the doorway shouting "oh muuummmmmy, oh daaaaddddddyyyyy, where arrrrrrrrre yoooouuuu?"

happymatleave · 15/01/2010 09:17

Why don't you get up with him, pop the tv on and get a few toys out for him and then have a sleep on the sofa while he plays? That way he knows you are there but should be occupied enough for you to have a little rest if you are still tired.

ChilloSTOPFOLLOWINGMEhippi · 15/01/2010 09:33

YABU.

Vivia · 15/01/2010 09:37

This reminds me of the time we visited friends who have a two year old. Their house is massive - the child was sleeping in a different wing from me and my DH, with her parents in a nearby room to her.

I got up at around 4am (middle of the night to we childless!) and went to the loo. She must have heard the flush and started singing 'Muuuuuuummmeeeee! Is that yoooooo-hooooo?' She wasn't distressed, just singing it with increasing volume and I honestly didn't know whether to leave it or go entertain her so I shuffled guiltily to bed. After a while, my DH got up and went to the loo and I heard him respond (without going to her) 'Nooooo-ohhhh! It's me Jiiiim!' We could hear our friends laughing hysterically from bed at that point.

So YANBU, just leave DC to it if there's no distress and it's stupid o'clock.

kinnies · 15/01/2010 09:40

Annya,
The whole baby thing was mi-represented to you.
I'd get my money back!

CirrhosisByTheSea · 15/01/2010 09:45

I was just going to say that kinnies! I mean, if someone is led to believe something, and it doesn't come off, it's time to send the child back, surely.

I love how on lots of threads where people are (understandably, often) frustrated with their kids, they always round the age UP to the next year...my 'nearly 3 year old' sounds way older than 'my 2 year old'!! It's never 'DS, who is four" it's 'DS who is five in two months'......

Trikken · 15/01/2010 09:48

vivia that story did make me chuckle!

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Annya · 15/01/2010 09:55

Or perhaps it's just that those with older kids don't remember with absolute accuracy exactly when their LOs did stuff. Sleeping the thru at night before they were even out the womb etc...

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Annya · 15/01/2010 09:56

Woops, sleeping thru the night, obv.

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Annya · 15/01/2010 09:58

So it's unlikely he'll be able to drop himself off at school either, then? Gah...

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NewYearNewKnickers0nMaHead · 15/01/2010 09:59

YABU for giving him a bottle of milk.

nickytwotimes · 15/01/2010 10:02

Sorry, yabu.

I have a pal whose ds will play by himself for half an hour in the mornings, but that is very unusual and we all hate her.

And a BOTTLE? Really?

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Annya · 15/01/2010 10:11

What's wrong with a bottle?

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nickytwotimes · 15/01/2010 10:13

He's a bit old for a bottle, isn't he?

Really bad for teeth.

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Annya · 15/01/2010 10:18

Is he? He loves them and would be very upset if I took them away, plus his teeth are absolutely fine.

So when is a child too old for a bottle then?

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MiladyDeWinter · 15/01/2010 10:20

They're supposed to have a cup from six months I think. DS is two but still won't use one. I'm not stressing too much about it because he wouldn't have a bottle for the first 18 months either so I reckon he'll be OK.

DD used to get up and destroy the sitting room play for half an hour at this age. I'd be on the sofa resting my eyes. But then she did get up at five

nickytwotimes · 15/01/2010 10:21

Recommendation is 12 mths, but more realistic till a bit older, maybe 18-24 mths for a lot of kids.

Ds stopped at 12 mths, but wasn't too bothered by them, lucky for me.

LadyintheRadiator · 15/01/2010 10:24

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MiladyDeWinter · 15/01/2010 10:24

Oh that makes me feel even better nickytwotimes. I hid DS's bottles when the HV came round last month!

mistlethrush · 15/01/2010 10:27

We got to the stage at about 3.5 that ds was allowed to go downstairs, put milk on his cereal (left out) and water in a mug, and go and watch TV. Unfortunately, he has decided that he really likes our company, so now that he's 4.5 he won't go down and do this on his own anymore

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Annya · 15/01/2010 10:32

Ladyintheraditor - ironic, eh?

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