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Original poster

To think my Friend/ neighbour is a meany by not lending us her sledges?

110 replies

TheDevilWearsPrimark · 13/01/2010 15:37

Her sons go to boarding school so aren't here to use them.

I asked very nicely and she said she wouldn't in case they got broken or if someone else asked for them?

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TheDevilWearsPrimark · 13/01/2010 17:43

LetThereBeRock, are you letthemeatcake?

Surely not?

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LetThereBeRock · 13/01/2010 17:49

No. Who is LetThemEatCake? The name is vaguely familiar but I couldn't tell you a thing about them.

MorrisZapp · 13/01/2010 17:51

Have I understood this correctly.

You started a thread about something, then took the piss out of a poster who answered you, on the grounds that you have better things then this to think about?

mistlethrush · 13/01/2010 17:52

Ds would have shared his with you TDWP... he really enjoyed sharing on Saturday with two slightly older children (and their father!) - he got a few rides on their saucer too.

Hope you find something that works a bit better if the snow stays for tomorrow...

paisleyleaf · 13/01/2010 17:54

She maybe felt they're not hers to lend out.

pantomimecow · 13/01/2010 18:05

We hit a stone with a plastic sledge and cracked it last year.Fortunately we had borrowed it from my mum.But plastic sledges do eventually get brittle and crack.

pantomimecow · 13/01/2010 18:07

Oh and
1 why are you putting money through your neighbours door.If she has kids at boarding school and drives a big 4X 4 it doesn't sound like she is on the bread line
2 If you do it anonymously how would she know who to return the favour to.

AnnieLobeseder · 13/01/2010 18:08

FWIW, TDWP, I think that we're alike in that, in general, we'd do anything for anyone, any time, and you kinda expect everyone else to be as free with themselves as you are. So it can be quite a slap in the face when you find that they aren't. But, we're all different, and the world would be mightly dull if we weren't.

EmilyStrange · 13/01/2010 18:10

YANBU, she is a meanie. You can borrow ours. I already told my neighnour he could borrow it if he wants to take his little girl out. Such lovely neighbourly spirit these days. And if I borrowed something and broke it I would replace it as would most people I know. Frankly John Lennon was spot on - too many possessions and too much selfish materialism these days.

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TheDevilWearsPrimark · 13/01/2010 18:17

My neighbours DH has just buzzed, then asked if we want to borrow them.

I politely declined, but said I'd be happy if we still have snow at the weekend to go out with their sons.

Ah nooo I hope she's not a mumsnetter.

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littlemoominmamma · 13/01/2010 18:23

Thank you Morris - she was taking the piss out of my reply, however I was being sarcastic but that obviously went over her head!

This is a thread about a thread if I'm not wrong (going in other peoples gardens to nick their snow?) so I'm not taking this seriously in any way - x

alurkerspeaks · 13/01/2010 18:39

Damn - wish I had thought of the storage box lids as locally there is a sledge shortage.

Last week when there was v. heavy snow I turned my parents shed & garage upside down looking for one left over from my (much younger) sister's childhood.

I was sure it was there too - think my brother had nicked it for his lot to use.

IncontinentiaBotox · 13/01/2010 18:50

LOL, it's another crazy MN thread

the capacity of some people to produce bucketfuls of indignant arsiness over fuck all never ceases to delight me

neighbour is a petty twat

and all these people who are saying "Hmmm, I don't like lending people things" -

MillyR · 13/01/2010 18:57

It is madness to pay £70 for a sledge. DS lost 2 sledges last winter.

BendyBob · 13/01/2010 19:03

I'm just wondering if you can go sledging on the bendy muffin trays?

scottishmummy · 13/01/2010 19:04

my neighbour wont lend me her credit cards.cow

i expect your neighbour doesn't want her lovely posh sledge used by scruffy non-boarders with working class arses might cause nasty indentations on the sledge

piratecat · 13/01/2010 19:05

why didn't you say, thats lovely, thanks' to the offer. Maybe they are expensive or maybe she had someone else who was wanting to borrow them, or she needed to find out from her dh.

Not worth posting about imo.

Heifer · 13/01/2010 19:49

I lol at the end of her comment "if someone else asked for them" .

So it's not that she doesn't want to loan them, it's that she doesn't want to loan them to YOU.

I wouldn't have asked myself, but does seem rather mean of her to say no.

We used a plastic tray on top of an orange survival bag, it flew!

Undercovamutha · 13/01/2010 20:08

Don't know if I would lend our sledge. DH spent AGES making it for DD, and he would be gutted if it got broken or lost (and so would DD).
YAB a bit cheeky to ask.

Ripeberry · 13/01/2010 20:20

I lent my friend's daughter our sledge. But also made sure that my name, house number and postcode was on it with permanent marker (grin)

nappyaddict · 13/01/2010 21:26

TDWP It sounds as if she wanted to check it was OK with her sons/DH first then. See people aren't as mean as everyone thinks.

MsSpentYoof · 14/01/2010 00:54

YANBU, If she is all good to borrow your muffin trays then she should be fair and lend it to you, especially if they're not going to be using it.

Have you raided your shed? I found our skim board that I never thought we would use (got in a BOC from Boffer) and have been going down hills on it on my front with DS on my back.. He has loves it

Maybe you have a body board/small surf board type thing (so fun) Or like 60ftdoll using a kiddies rocking police bike like this
We also have some corrugated plastic stuff that my granddad brought home from work, it's like the stuff for sale signs are made of.

I have been hunting around my house looking for anything remotely sled-able

edd021208 · 14/01/2010 01:10

yabu...she said she didn't want her sons' belongings to get broken - what is the problem with that? we had the same sledge all through my childhood and i was looking forward to my dcs having a go on it and then it was lent last year and broke...obviously not a major crisis in the scheme of things but a little bit of a pity. My dp's dad brought home two sledges from switzerland for my dp and his brother in the 80s and they would be gutted if they broke so why would they lend them? On the so many threads on here about maternity clothes/baby clothes being returned in a poor state posters advise the OP not to have lent things if they didn't want them ruined so this is the same, no?
I'm not sure why all this stuff about you asking nicely or talking politely or you and your mum pushing cash into letterboxes of 4x4-driving boarding school-going people is relevant.

lowenergylightbulb · 14/01/2010 06:33

YABU. As someone else said, buy your own sledge.

It doesn't matter how many alleged stealth acts of altruism you have carried out, she doesn't have to lend you anything.

My kids don't have a wii - maybe my neighbour will lend me one to keep my kids occupied and happy

nancydrewrocks · 14/01/2010 09:05

I'd lend you my sledge if I had one.

I can't imagine refusing to lend someone something I clearly wasn't going to use before they could return it. Seems odd. And a bit sad