compo yes 2 of the dc will eventually share, but as ds has the bigger room I was thinking one of them plus baby, depending on if boy or girl. DS bed and dd bed will be a squeeze, to say the least.
TBF dh has said no don't cook for him, he can do his own, but I wonder if it will work out like that. My friend as suggested like one of you, to clear out a cupboard and say this is for your groceries. I don't wish to be churlish and not include him if I am cooking, but I know he will just take the piss even further, it won't even occur to him to offer to contribute.
He and his family live in Ireland, moved there a few yrs ago from north of england as his wife is from there. Was laid off this summer and could not get any work so came over here and stayed- rent free obv- with FIL.
Dh has always been treated imo as a bit of a dogsbody by fil and bil- dh is the younger of the 2. If we were to go out for a meal, fil would say oh dh go and get the drinks, or go and order the food, for eg. AFAIK it has always been thus, and it really frustrates me that dh doesn't stick up for himself. I think he is a cock at the moment, but generally he is very easy going and would do anything to keep the peace
earlybird I wish I knew. DH views this as further evidence of my hatred for his family and says I am always bitching about them- tbh I do a lot, but they give me good reason, like this for example!
Zachary I did say oh great, not sure I fancy that. Then the subject was not mentioned for a while and I stupidly hoped it was because he had found somewhere else. He hasn't even asked anyone else.
I know for a fact that it will have been fil who "told" dh about this, as bil cannot speak on the phone so we dont have a lot of communication with him (he is deaf) and fil's way will have been to say "X will have to stay with you when the site shuts". For those that asked, fil and his brother (so dh's uncle, keep up now! It's v complicated) are conveniently pissing off to spain for their annual 3 months holiday in their mobile home. Dh's mum not alive- if she was there would be less fucking about in caravans and things would be very different. This I do know, and it probably does upset dh to be treated like this.
golgi I did consider insisting on camp bed in living room, but thought that I might want to kill him at weekends when he doesnt need to be up and out of the house early.
Eighties and Annh- I have already spat at told DH in no uncertain terms that it won't be happening next year, assuming bil still working over here, as I am not going to be made to feel uncomfortable when trying to breastfeed in my own house.
thumblebells you have hit it on the head I am not saying no, rather please join with me in acknowledging what a ball ache this is going to be. He isn't telling me per se, but keeps saying "what do you expect me to do, tell him he can't stay." I cannot see a solution to this. I think it wouldn't be as bad if I got on better with bil, not that we argue or anything, but have nothing much to say to one another.
Gosh this is long, think of it as therapy for me! Yes bil knows I am pregnant. Seems it makes no difference or needs no consideration. I'm feeling well at the mo, ask me again in 6 weeks! I am still utterly livid AND upset about this, thanks for listening. And I should have gone to bed hours ago, but cannot sleep for fuming.