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To make DH explain what happened to DD's picture?

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WastedYouth · 31/12/2009 09:15

Just before the chrismas holidays, DD drew a christmas scene at school and stuck cotton wool etc to it.

I stuck it to the kitchen cupboard.

Last night, I asked DH to make me a cup of tea. Admittidly I could have done it myself and I fully admit I was being a bit lazy. However he did it and then shouted of me to go and get it. I went into the kitchen just as he slung the teabag at the kitchen cupboard and shouted "ave it!"

The teabag hit DD's picture and exploded on impact leaving tea splattered all over the cupboard, the ceiling, the wall and the burglar alarm. Worst bit was though that DD's picture is totally ruined.

DH took the pic down before she saw it and I said he should admit what he's done to her. He said there is no need to upset her and it was all my fault anyway for being lazy.

Yes I was being lazy, but should he admit what he's done?

OP posts:
morningpaper · 31/12/2009 13:43

Maybe other husbands specialise in throwing other things... "Oooh, my husband loves throwing the chicken carcass" "Oooh I know what you mean, mine can't resist lobbing a sausage, tut!"

Rindercella · 31/12/2009 13:44

MP

DuelingFanjo · 31/12/2009 13:45

oh surely he was just having fun with the teabag! Like splatting someone with a spoon of mayo or something. He sounds funny

morningpaper · 31/12/2009 13:47

Like splatting someone with a spoon of mayo

?

Do you live in the circus?

I thought you were all obsessed with Farrow and Ball, but apparently it is a jolly wheeze to throw food around the kitchen? How the evenings must fly by

THIS IS NOT NORMAL

hippipotamiHasLost77lbs · 31/12/2009 13:48

Splatting someone with a spoon of mayo??? Are we all back at uni or something?

whifflegarden · 31/12/2009 13:50

Look. People do strange things in their own homes. And there's no back story, just a strange habit. Could be the continuation of a silly game they used to play in their shared student house. We don't know.

The point is why jump to all these conclusions....sheeesh..... without evidence of something sinister going on. There are things I see friend's DH's do and think there's no way I would put up with that...in the same way I think there are things my DH does that they wouldn't put up with.

Flame · 31/12/2009 13:51

DH is looking very baffled - first at me crying with laughter over "THIS IS NOT NORMAL" and then at me explaining that a man throws teabags at a wall on a regular basis.

DuelingFanjo · 31/12/2009 13:51

well, you know - yoghurt, bread sauce.... that kind of thing. What i meant to say was it's not abusive behaviour it's just pissing about!

Not that I have done this in recent years but it's hardly a crime.

Anyway - in answer to the real uestion. yes he should explain to her but perhaps wait to see if she's that bothered. She may not even notice.

morningpaper · 31/12/2009 13:53

OK SO

In NORMAL houses around the country, adults are having arguments and throwing food at each other

ARE YOU QUITE SURE?

whifflegarden · 31/12/2009 13:53

Throwing food around = not normal for you MP Normal for many others and I certainly don't see how it makes him a bully.

morningpaper · 31/12/2009 13:54

Neither of my husbands have ever thrown bread sauce or yoghurt at me

God, no wonder Relate are busy

morningpaper · 31/12/2009 13:54

HOW IS THIS NORMAL

Flame · 31/12/2009 13:56
whifflegarden · 31/12/2009 13:56

OK, now this is a joke

OP make sure he cleans up the mess. I'm sure your DD will be fine. If she notices and gets upset make him do an art project with her to recreate the picture.

Flame · 31/12/2009 13:56
DandyLioness · 31/12/2009 13:57

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edam · 31/12/2009 13:58

It isn't MP, don't listen to the oddballs. Unless you are a member of the Bullingdon club trashing a restaurant - maybe you've stumbled upon the upper class yah-boo MN clique?

Throwing a teabag doesn't necessarily make the OP's dh a bully, but throwing it AT her in a fit of temper and calling her lazy for asking for a cup of tea does suggest he's not a particularly nice man. Not at that moment, anyway.

Pikelit · 31/12/2009 13:59

'ave it, my arse. We are shurely being 'ad here?

whifflegarden · 31/12/2009 14:03

MP
Why soooo abnormal? Maybe OP's DH is 19 and thinks food fights are fun. Not my cup of tea but not worthy of the high pitched voice? My friends DH thinks it's a hoot throwing people in the pool at every opportunity irrespective of what you're wearing, hair just done etc. I hate it and think it's "so immature"...but normal for him.

morningpaper · 31/12/2009 14:06

no one who does the cleaning up thinks food fights are fun

but I am starting to suspect this is something that actually happened on the telly or something

DandyLioness · 31/12/2009 14:08

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Flame · 31/12/2009 14:09

i suspect you may be right

DuelingFanjo · 31/12/2009 14:10

it's only a food fight if more than one person is flinging food about.

This wasn't a fight, it was one person pissing about. No doubt he called her in so he could play a trick of splatting the teabag, and YES this kind of playful pissing about does go on in households all over the world. It's a bit over the top to considerit some kind of bullying or abuse unless there are other issues at play.

morningpaper · 31/12/2009 14:10

did anyone read this case of a man who was jailed after throwing a TV remote at his wife

I thought it was very interesting because he couldn't possibly have forseen the consequences

whifflegarden · 31/12/2009 14:11

Fair enough Dandy.
All seems moot in any case as OP appears to have done a hit and run on us.

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