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To make DH explain what happened to DD's picture?

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WastedYouth · 31/12/2009 09:15

Just before the chrismas holidays, DD drew a christmas scene at school and stuck cotton wool etc to it.

I stuck it to the kitchen cupboard.

Last night, I asked DH to make me a cup of tea. Admittidly I could have done it myself and I fully admit I was being a bit lazy. However he did it and then shouted of me to go and get it. I went into the kitchen just as he slung the teabag at the kitchen cupboard and shouted "ave it!"

The teabag hit DD's picture and exploded on impact leaving tea splattered all over the cupboard, the ceiling, the wall and the burglar alarm. Worst bit was though that DD's picture is totally ruined.

DH took the pic down before she saw it and I said he should admit what he's done to her. He said there is no need to upset her and it was all my fault anyway for being lazy.

Yes I was being lazy, but should he admit what he's done?

OP posts:
morningpaper · 31/12/2009 11:48

No the OP doesn't sound like a joke. The OP says she being lazy by asking for a cup of tea thus justifying her husband's reaction of shouting at her and slinging a tea bag across the kitchen which splatters over everything including the ceiling. Where's the joke?

scottishmummy · 31/12/2009 11:48

you should enter 2012 tea bag hurling event with a yell of "'ave it".

sounds like a surreal place your house

diddl · 31/12/2009 11:49

OP, was your husband throwing the tea bag at you?

morningpaper · 31/12/2009 11:50

The OP says in the second post that he was trying to be funny but "he was trying to piss me off in protest of being asked to make a cuppa"

Doesn't sound very hilarious to me

scottishmummy · 31/12/2009 11:53

wait long enough someone will rock up and tell you to leave him.citing abuse/manipulation/cruelty and 'ave it as reasons

whereas i just think he sounds like a bawbag

whifflegarden · 31/12/2009 12:44

Indeed. You MN lot are funny - quite the proffessional psychologists. A thread starts simply enough, with a seemingly inocuous issue and by the end it's turned in to a diagnosis of insecurities, control issues, NPD etc

OP's DH is a tea bag thrower. The stains would drive me crazy but each to their own. Does there always have to be more to the story than meets the eye?

Morloth · 31/12/2009 12:58

I think he was being unreasonable to make tea with a tea bag. Do you not own a teapot?

He was being silly (people do weird shit, don't they?), the picture got messed up. Wouldn't mention it to DD unless she asks and then tell her the truth (i.e. that it got tea on it).

morningpaper · 31/12/2009 13:02

This thread is weird

How is it normal for a man to shout at his wife becuase she asked him to make a cup of tea and then throw a teabag across a kitchen with such force that it explodes and hits the ceiling in order to 'piss me off'?

If my DH did those things I would thing he had gone mad. Are my standards incredibly high?

edam · 31/12/2009 13:04

MP's right. I'd add, is it normal for a woman to feel guilty about asking her partner to make a cup of tea? And to think she's somehow being extraordinarily lazy?

GibbonInARibbon · 31/12/2009 13:06

I'm not ashamed to admit I wold be be really shocked and upset/angry if DH did this.

GibbonInARibbon · 31/12/2009 13:08

And he would be clearing it up and painting over the stains on the ceiling that the tea would inevitably make.

LadyintheRadiator · 31/12/2009 13:09

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Pheebe · 31/12/2009 13:10

I'm with MP as well. I would be shocked to the core if DH even batted an eyelid at me asking him to make me a coffee let alone the rest of it . It seems to me that NONE of what he did was acceptable behaviour. Who the hell throws teabags at walls?????

LadyintheRadiator · 31/12/2009 13:16

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Tryharder · 31/12/2009 13:17

I'm with MP also. I hope the OP's DH cleared up the mess he made. I just don't get why someone would throw a used teabag and make such a mess. Have I had a sense of humour bypass because I really can't see anything funny about it at all.

[cat's arse emoticon]

shockers · 31/12/2009 13:22

Do you make him cups of tea? I don't see how asking for a cuppa is lazy.
I think he should apologise to your DD about her picture... if she had been being silly and ruined something of his, surely he would expect her to say sorry.

InMyLittleHead · 31/12/2009 13:29

I'm with MP. Why did he throw the teabag, is he 12? Why was the OP 'lazy' for asking for a cup of tea. Weird. I am also curious to know who cleared up the mess.

Rindercella · 31/12/2009 13:32

This thread is just plain weird, but the following, in particular, stands out:

By whifflegarden Thu 31-Dec-09 12:44:11
Indeed. You MN lot are funny......OP's DH is a tea bag thrower.

tiredemma · 31/12/2009 13:36

how mad.

If this happened in my kitchen I would question the sanity of dp.

whifflegarden · 31/12/2009 13:38

The thing is. We're already assuming he didn't clear up the mess, we're not aware of how much DH has maybe already done/maybe OP is a lazy partner who doesn't pull her weight in the home. OP says he was in a daft mood and was trying to be funny. As I said, no one will be throwing tea bags (or anything else) around in this house....but each to their own.

OP, how old are both of you?

whifflegarden · 31/12/2009 13:39

Rinder to you too.

GenieoftheTramp · 31/12/2009 13:40

What on earth was he thinking?

He made you a cup of tea and didn't bring it through?

Good Lord.

GenieoftheTramp · 31/12/2009 13:40

What on earth was he thinking?

He made you a cup of tea and didn't bring it through?

Good Lord.

GenieoftheTramp · 31/12/2009 13:41
morningpaper · 31/12/2009 13:41

"OP's DH is a tea bag thrower"

I was also baffled by this. It is something quite accepted and normal in the spectrum of a person's characteristics, such as being a bit shy? Is it like a sexual fetish?