To find this disturbing and distasteful?

[standingonmyhands]

Just been watching the programme on C4 about the tsunami in 2004. The programme was heartbreaking, it interviewed people who were there and whose family members/friends had died or, luckily, survived.

A couple were interviewed and were laughing on camera, I mean bent double laughing, about the fact that they'd 'had a shag' on the morning in question. All ok, I imagined their story would go on to say that the tsunami hit and they were all ok. But then they went to talk about how their daughter died in the tsunami.

I just found this so awful hat they found it appropriate to find anything amusing about that day. I appreciate that shock can make you say things you may not mean at the time but this documentary was 5 years after the event.

I just found their comments so awful. Am I overreacting?

Yeah I thought they were awful. I mean really they should have been wearing black and stopping every 15 mins for a spot of self flagellation to show how upset they are.

I'm wondering why this has been bumped 5 years after the OP...

It was on SKY due to the ten year anniversary. Didn't want to start a new thread if one was already in existence. Typical forum rules.

Their reaction got a lot of heat on Twitter a few nights back

New children can be created to replace them???

To be honest it's pretty shit to bump a thread slagging off the couple that is 5 years old.

If their reaction got a lot of reaction on Twitter why not just react on there rather than bumping this judgy crappy thread.

How weird.

Started reading and then saw that I had posted and realised this is 5 years old

I agreed with SGB then and I agree with her now.

And it is not MN rules to bump old threads, people get really pissed off about it.

Why was this thread even allowed to stand originally? Is it only posts about one particular set of parents that are "not in the spirit of mn" and deleted?

Bloody hell happy you must have the
Memory of an elephant to remember there was a thread about a particular programme from 5 years ago!

A shit stirring elephant.

sharon, i'm guessing he searched "tsunami programme on sky" or something and this was the first thread that came up, and he replied without seeing the date on the op?

Yes beyond something like that

Yeah, I just searched the subject! Apologies for the bump

I think it is a perfectly justifiable question that was asked by the OP, and latterly on Twitter. Laughing hysterically did seem a bit odd.

However, this comes down to the fact that the parents are the core of the relationship, and the children are add ons. They are wonderful add ons who make our lifes better, but without the relationship between the parents there are no children. That is why, quite soon after the tragic incident they were creating new life. The core is there, the add on isn't. Still, it is a space that can be filled whilst they remember the few good years they had with the first child.

The idea that the relationship with the partner always takes priority goes back to caveman days ( and in some countries now to be fair) when you deliberately had loads of children because you kind of accepted that living conditions mean there were going to be a few casualties. If two out of five made it you were doing well.

This 'acceptance' is still ingrained in our brains, even if society has changed a little in what is considers 'social norms'.

Therefore it is unfair this couple are attacked. There reaction was actually quite normal.