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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

to really hope sil gets a HUGE reality shock!

53 replies

snowedinwithJjandtheBean · 28/12/2009 21:15

Me and df are young parents 21 and 23 our dcs are 2 and 1. When announcing our pregnancy the in laws were 'devastated' in there words despite having our own home, jobs and car at the time, pretty good situation for a suprise Imo!

Anyway sil is 19 and she got a suprise meal and champagne on ice to tell the rest of the family,

The past few days over christmas i have heard, 'mine wont do that, whens it bedtime x 30000, mine will be polite, mine wont expect presents, mine wont beg for my food, mine will go to sleep on time.

By the end of two days me and dp were in hysterics, and calmly told her being smug before youve been there isnt clever, and also that she thinks its that easy!
DS is just 2, hes just realised christmas means presents, hes not rude, he sayes peeease and ta!

Saying present peeease isnt rude when your 2 imo!

And after a day of excitement loads of family feeding you sweets, juice etc, all after an early morning and a 2hr drive to get there he was a bit stressed at bedtime in an odd place, me and dp trying to pacify him can hear sil saying 'how hard can it be, say night and shut the door'

We then have another one of the in laws decide to stay at pils uninvited meaning me df and dd are then having to share with ds whos been in his own room 18mnths, he was very upset to find us in his room at 2am and screamed the place down, next morning sil is saying hes spoilt and so on!!!

SO AIBU to want her to have a non sleeping new born, and fussy eater and a general brat of a toddler?

Also may i add my two are not perfect and me and df do mess up, we will admit that, but theyre polite and ds has a fantastic routine, AT HOME!

OP posts:
snowedinwithJjandtheBean · 28/12/2009 21:17

whooops, bit of a rant there sorry!

And realised a bit made no sense, SIL asked more then ten times when the children would go to bed, having them around made her tired!

OP posts:
HumphreyCobbler · 28/12/2009 21:17

she will learn

she sounds most unpleasant tbh

sb6699 · 28/12/2009 21:20

Oh, yes she will learn. Even the most placid, contented children have "moments".

brimfull · 28/12/2009 21:22

what is df?

yanbu

she will learn and you may laugh your socks off

lilolilmanchester · 28/12/2009 21:23

my DB was EXACTLY like that - how he wouldn't let his DCs do this that and the other, how they'd behave (compared to mine). I am DELIGHTED to say his DCs are little sods - and I love them all the more for it!!!! Gorgeous kids, just full of spirit!!!

HumphreyCobbler · 28/12/2009 21:27

It is just so bloody rude to make comments like this

JeMenFous · 28/12/2009 21:28

YANBU

Twila · 28/12/2009 21:29

"SO AIBU to want her to have a non sleeping new born, and fussy eater and a general brat of a toddler?"

YANBU. And colic just to get things off to the right start.

victoriascrumptious · 28/12/2009 21:30

Snowedin:- you are very very patient.

She'll get hers

EmilyStrange · 28/12/2009 21:30

YANBU she is so rude, she deserves her comeuppance.

weegiemum · 28/12/2009 21:31

Everyone knows all about having babies before they have one.

Everything changes .....

clam · 28/12/2009 21:32

Please come back and tell us all about it!!

Can't wait.

What goes around, comes around!

SixtyFootDoll · 28/12/2009 21:33

What does df stand for?

scottishmummy · 28/12/2009 21:34

ach dont be mean!sil will find out in her own sweet time how hard babies are.so don't be sour and smile rest assured her bubble will burst too

we all talk aspirational mince pre-baby

fledtoscotland · 28/12/2009 21:36

would love to be a fly on the wall....

onadietcokebreak · 28/12/2009 21:38

I think DF means darling finance.

YANBU....I cant stand smugness

HumphreyCobbler · 28/12/2009 21:38

actually I THOUGHT some shockingly naive things before I had a baby, I was never rude enough to say them to people

I remember a friend saying to me "I haven't had a full nights sleep in twenty months" and I made sympathetic noises whilst thinking "I won't be putting up with that"

curiositykilledhaskittens · 28/12/2009 21:39

I think wishing that would be as mean as the things she said. She is young and will learn but you are older and experienced, try not to feel unkind...

Chuffinnora · 28/12/2009 21:39

Snowedin - My I congratulate you on your self control. I think I would have been unpleasant to her after all that. I'm sure the universe will reward her with a colicky, likes to be held all day poor sleeper.

YAMDNBU

PrincessToadstool · 28/12/2009 21:39

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ChloeHandbag · 28/12/2009 21:39

df - dear fiance I presume.

YANBU

scottishmummy · 28/12/2009 21:41

being supportive and emapthic will make you the better person.bellyaching about what a single gal said about kids wont

rise above it,and help when she needs
yes have a snigger hits as reality kicks in
i know i said/thought some dumb things pre baby

Angelcat666 · 28/12/2009 21:42

YANBU

ShinyAndNew · 28/12/2009 21:47

I used to be a bit like that before dd1. Of course if I ever had children they wouldn't cry in restaurants and if they did I'd take them straight home, even if I hadn't eaten my meal. I'd never bother other shoppers by insisting on taking my dc into town on a Saturady afternoon, in their huge buggies getting in everyones way and they would never have tantrums in supermarkets either.....

Oh how I laugh when I think back Actually in my defence I don't take them shopping on a saturady afternoon. But only because t'is murderous enough going shopping with them as it is.

SIL will learn. You will sympathise.

sweetkitty · 28/12/2009 21:48

I remember a friend saying her baby would only sleep on her and only sleep in her bed being BF, I was like "that's terrible she should put her in a cot"

5 years or so later I have had 3 babies sleep with me for at least a year each

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