to really hope sil gets a HUGE reality shock!

[snowedinwithJjandtheBean]

Me and df are young parents 21 and 23 our dcs are 2 and 1. When announcing our pregnancy the in laws were 'devastated' in there words despite having our own home, jobs and car at the time, pretty good situation for a suprise Imo!

Anyway sil is 19 and she got a suprise meal and champagne on ice to tell the rest of the family,

The past few days over christmas i have heard, 'mine wont do that, whens it bedtime x 30000, mine will be polite, mine wont expect presents, mine wont beg for my food, mine will go to sleep on time.

By the end of two days me and dp were in hysterics, and calmly told her being smug before youve been there isnt clever, and also that she thinks its that easy!
DS is just 2, hes just realised christmas means presents, hes not rude, he sayes peeease and ta!

Saying present peeease isnt rude when your 2 imo!

And after a day of excitement loads of family feeding you sweets, juice etc, all after an early morning and a 2hr drive to get there he was a bit stressed at bedtime in an odd place, me and dp trying to pacify him can hear sil saying 'how hard can it be, say night and shut the door'

We then have another one of the in laws decide to stay at pils uninvited meaning me df and dd are then having to share with ds whos been in his own room 18mnths, he was very upset to find us in his room at 2am and screamed the place down, next morning sil is saying hes spoilt and so on!!!

SO AIBU to want her to have a non sleeping new born, and fussy eater and a general brat of a toddler?

Also may i add my two are not perfect and me and df do mess up, we will admit that, but theyre polite and ds has a fantastic routine, AT HOME!

yep, at least you can smirk, knowing how naive she is

I've had to listen to preaching from an idiot, who had a perfect pregnancy, "exhilirating" birth, easy baby that slept, no problems breastfeeding.

Of course all these things going so well, were down to her getting things right. Luck had nothing to do with it. Days after my DD's nightmare birth, when I was exhausted from visiting the SCBU, the silly cow kept me awake explaining in detail how marvellous her birth experience had been compared to mine, and how it would have been better if I had chosen not to have an epidural. She made a face like a cat's arse when I said that I really had not wanted pethidene, which she'd had. I could not help but feel ill will.

Now she's had a miscarriage, and the pain was "much worse than childbirth because the contractions were continuous". I feel really for her, and somehow guilty.

you don't want to feel like this if things don't go well for your SIL - just wish her well and use sarcasm when she is rude.

Have a friend like this, recently told her to fuck right off during a particularly irritating conversation [sigh]
Try and keep your cool, she'll soon have a ruuude awakening.

Oh, and my

is mixed with a little that she still doesn't grasp that some people just have a harder time of childbirth etc, through no fault of their own. My labour pains were continuous (preterm induction), as were those of a mutual friend.

But I wouldn't wish her loss on anyone.