to think that presents on NOT ONE OF YOUR HUMAN RIGHTS????

[coldtits]

and on that note, good night.

"one year I gave people biscuits and sweets that I made a few people openly sneered at them,"

I am so with you coldtits. I hate how people expect gifts and complain when they dont get them or when it's not what they want.

I hate the way people try to mask their ungrateful attitudes and think it's more acceptable to say "well, x didn't put enough/a lot of thought into this pressie " Oh puuuhlease!!!
It's thought enough that someone gave you a gift. It should never be expected.

I feel very strongly about this

YANBU in the slightest

Someone who feels "slighted" or that not enough thought was put into them or they didn't get what they wanted or something from every person they know or are related to will come on here and tell you that you shouldn't write a thread about a thread haha! well, a thread about threads.

TLES - I don't get that. Can you explain? the 100 presents vs 1?

Sorry, I was misunderstood. I wouldn't prefer either 100 or 1, but would be grateful, regardless of what was given and would never expect it.
For me, it's not quantity over quality nor is it quality over quantity. It's just, be appreciative of it, no matter what it is and never expect it from anyone

the figure 100 was just picked out of the air, I basically mean unlike other family memebers I am not fussed what something costs

Ok I get your point now I don't care what anything costs, either I also don't get upset when someone doesn't buy/make/give me anything because gifts should not be expected. That was my point.

I guess I am so so used to the pressies my family buy me it has become a biy of a tradition lol, anyway my mum called earlier and said she found another 2 pressies for me she forgot to wrap up woohoo plus i have the ones from my brother to still get....

YANBU am so shocked at the grasping attitudes of some MNers

well said mamamearcati "grasping attitudes" very well said.

INteresting piece in SUnday Times today. All about the games people are possibly playing when giving/receiving presents.

It's amazing how many moany ungrateful threads there are actually.

YAsoooooooNBU

I hate all the materialism and high expectations that is now the centre of so many people's Christmas

I'll just share what one of my best presents was - MIL bought me a jar of Damson Jam

Now this could have easily been a "AIBU, MIL only bought me a jar of jam FFS?" thread, but I thought it was fab

When we visited a few months ago she's made damson crumble for pud & I was reminiscing about how I used to make damson jam with my Mum as a kid (we had 3 damson trees in our garden) and you don't see damsons or damson jam much these days. That jar of jam showed me that she'd remembered this conversation & she knows how much I miss my Mum too, so who cares if it only cost a quid or two, it was a very thoughtful gift & much appreciated.

YANBU. Dh was bent out of shape at our big family gift exchange because:

bil and sil got his nephew a PS3 game plus a blu-ray movie.

bil and sil got dd one Barbie.

Sil had called and asked him wha dd would like for Christmas, and he told her barbies! So they got exactly what he told them. He is offended and says dd "got shafted" because so much was spent on nephew. FFS. I told him to let it go ad dd loves her Barbie, didn't notice or care what nephew had gotten and would compare anyway. I was offended that he was offended. How can he complain when they did exactly as he instructed?

i don't care how much/little is spent on me. But this year I was a bit bemused that PIL bought me something I specifically said I didn't want (toiletries as I'm still ploughing through last year's). I had written a list of things I wanted (Warhammer stuff) which ranged from £2 - £20.
I don't understand why you would buy something the recipient asked not to get this year when they had told you exactly what they wanted, and the thing they wanted was cheap, detailed and easily available.
Weird. I just hope they were recycled as I would hate to think they had spent money on something they knew I didn't want !

and to clarify, i would rather have had one warhammer brush at £3 than £50 of toiletries

oh, and the list was written because I was asked to do so. Not because I am greedy

madamearcati, exactly!

I might have to start a new thread in a few days along the lines of

AIBU to be furious that MIL only got me a box of Chocolate Orange segments...

when I told ehr not to buy me anything as I don't need it.
She does it every year, I don't need a gift, she gets the DD's loads and I am happy being cooked for and the fact that she does all my houseowrk when she visits through the year, but she always gets me chocolate, what a bitch.

but I am worried some peoples heads might explode

For those who commented on the ungrateful sods I made presents for, most of them did
'what is this? Biscotti? You made it? Oh. I might try some later....

Anyone who did this, workmates, boss, family, friends get fuck all from us now. It includes DH's cousins and MIL saw them and insisted I do not get them presents again until they learn manners. They are 24 and 27

Makes present buying sooo easy

Even if it's something I don't want I'd still be appreciative, and then just give it on to someone who could use it if it was such a hassle to store (like fibilou's plethora of toiletries).

I made home made truffles this year. Everyone (to my face) said they loved them and smiled and were very impressed that I actually achieved the hard shell and soft inside (cooking is not my forte).

Last year I did ... charity donation gifts and even more everyone was very touched and loved them! So glad I have grateful, well mannered RL friends...
But, who knows if they're on MN right now talking about the "crap present" I gave them that they didn't want.

want want want want
don't want
not enough thought
bought at the corner shop
only one present
I'm so tired of the childish behaviour.

She really is, although she can't cook