To be upset for my daughter regarding Birthday cards

[LesbianMummy1]

My daughter turned 8 yesterday so had her birthday treat today cinema and a meal for 10 friends most parents got short notice due to cinema not releasing times of film until this Tuesday however my daughter has been best friends with one child for over 5 years now. His mum and dad are divorced he moved away in October to live with his dad but I have been in regular contact with both parents that whatever happened for my daughters birthday would be today So they have had over 2 months notice.

Of the 10 children that came 7 children had bought presents for my daughter 2 had bought cards and generously put some money inside but this friend did not even bring a card am i being unreasonable to feel a card for my daughter even home made one if money was tight would have shown some thought this has happened 3 times now but we always mark his birthday and both his younger brothers

I am talking about compassion for the child.

His parents e-mailed you 20 times telling you where to hold your DD's party?

It sounds like the boy has a bit of a mixed up home life and odd parents, and if your DD can see past his odd manners then maybe you should too.
I'd tell her to toughen up about it at the same time.

Honestly, I wouldn't be encouraging my 8yr old if she was so upset over a card. People forget, or some are just rude, that's life.
You'll have a hard time of it if you dwell on such small things.

I NEVER SEND CARDS TO KIDS PARTIES

there shoot me

kids dont LIKE cards

This little boy does seem to have a very complicated life right now and it probably isn't fair to judge him on the basis of one card unsent.

I also think that while it is very sweet to keep cards for the memory box and talk about them, you are setting yourself up for a constant series of disappointments. There will always be someone who doesn't quite meet expectations so far as a card or present is concerned and you've a lot of birthdays to look forwards to. So the "talking about" could soon deteriorate into a maudlin analysis of those who failed your dd. Not the chance to share happy memories of good times.

I think you have every reason to be miffed. But for possibly deeper reasons.
Do you feel that this friendship is all one sided on your part. you give give give and get nothing in return ? because it seems that way.
The card thing , as far as having upset your dd is not that big a deal. but it signifies a general lack of care of his mums part.
(the ds bringing to a party is rude.)
is that what is really bothering you ? why didn't you mention it last time, if this is the third year.
a friend of mine, took took, alays me callign , visiting, sending cards. in the end i realised. and just stopped.

maybe you need to review who is giving here. it may be that she is a good friend, going through bad time, fine. but if that cintinues , then maybe question.

in the meantime, why don't you be strong and phone her and tell her upset.. last 3 years. whats the point of friendship if yuo can't be honest ?

lack of card is only the superficial problem here.

Jesus the child didn't bring a card! You sound like my cousin who is still bitter 3 years on that I didn't send a card when her DS was born, only bought a present.

Get a grip!