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Original poster

to be annoyed with Dh who always says he is ill whenever I am?

91 replies

ilikeyoursleeves · 15/12/2009 17:01

I woke with a cold today and I turned round to DH and said 'my throat is killing me and I have a headache'. His reply was 'So have I!!!'

He seems fine and it just really annoys me because he always has to have whatever I have! And worse!

Bloody man flu. He is whistling away in the kitchen just now while I still have my headache after a full day with the 2 DS's.

OP posts:
Jamieandhismagictorch · 15/12/2009 17:59

Sorry if you've seen this before, but here is

man flu

amystev · 15/12/2009 18:00

DP is always more anything. More tired, more ill, more stressed, more of a pain-in-the-arse. He's only right about the last one.

IdrisTheRedNosedDragon · 15/12/2009 18:04

Mine also does it. And when he actually is ill, or has a migraine, surprisingly I don't have the same symptoms

waddlelikeaduck · 15/12/2009 18:52

my dh had to have a lie in until 1pm while i was in hospital after my emcs three weeks ago because he was 'tired'.... Came into hospital at 5pm and was suprised that i was upset with him!

He never just has a sore tum or a cold, its always life or death and won't take anything for it either! Men!

TheInvisibleManDidIt · 15/12/2009 19:00

Dh does the competitive illness thing too. And the competitive tiredness. Tis very very annoying.

Tbh I just pretend to sympathise and tell him to go to bed. At least that way I get peace and quiet. Although my boys are old enough to amuse themselves and make themselves some cereal and a sandwich when I'm ill.

So selfish of them to do it if you're are pregnant/ have young children.

Although I will still never let him forget when both my boys (2 & 4 at the time) and me all had chicken pox at the same time, and he took to bed as he was so tired, and used the baby monitor to call down to me to take him up a beer. You can imagine exactly what he was told to do with the beer.

cathcat · 15/12/2009 19:06
cathcat · 15/12/2009 19:09

Actually I had a very competitive boyfriend who copied everything I did.
I bought a lamp, he bought a lamp.
I made a cake, he made a cake.
It was weird.

SnotChristmasYetBaby · 15/12/2009 19:10

Mine too, I will have a cold for 4 days before I mention it and suddenly he feels one coming on, too, and wants to obsessively compare symptoms:

"Did it start with a sort of earache? Did your chest feel tight? Did you get aching joints? Because I have."

lovechoc · 15/12/2009 19:25

if I'm tired, DH is even more tired. OP know what you mean!

Undercovasanta · 15/12/2009 19:29

Bloody hell, my DH is EXACTLY the same. I thought it was just him - didn't realise there were others.
AND he always has to describe every tiny symptom to me. Really annoying!
And on the (very very) rare occasion that I go and lie down in the day (e.g. when I was heavily pg), he comes and joins me, and the children follow! And after ages of hinting at him to go, I finally just end up shouting 'just leave me alone', and then he gets in a strop!

CherryPopTart · 15/12/2009 19:29

my dp is the opposite, never ill, at all, he stood on a nail and it took me two days to get him to hospital to get it checked out and he refused to use the crutches they gave him
he is so clumsy that he ends up doing stupid stuff like that so often and yet he wont admit that he might be a bit ill

i find it so damn infurating

poinsettydawg · 15/12/2009 19:32

lol - my dh is like the op's. He doesn't even realise. Then I point it out and he denies it and goes all huffy.

IwishIwasmoreorganised · 15/12/2009 19:33

Blimey - they're all the same!

That's strangely reassuring but it's still bloody annoying!

OP - YANBU

Why do they do it though - anybody know the answer?

Jux · 15/12/2009 19:34

Mine is always much iller than I am, no matter what - unless I point out that mine is ms related, and then he shuts up!

(I don't do it often mind you.)

Original poster
ilikeyoursleeves · 15/12/2009 19:37

Oh thanks ladies you have made me laugh and reassured me that it's not just me living with a total wimp poorly husband.

DH was the same with my pregnancy symptoms:
DH-'oh I'm sooooooooo tired!'

And my labour pains:
DH- that was really tough wasn't it?

And newborn baby sleep deprivation:
DH- 'he's been up all night, I'm sooooooo tired' yes, he was up with me you twat while you snored the whole night!

Men!

OP posts:
PlumBumandBaublesMum · 15/12/2009 19:38

No,
mine always waits until after I've recovered,
then he says there is no way you could have felt as bad as this

PurpleLostPrincess · 15/12/2009 19:43

Yep, my DH has always been like this - I had a hysterectomy early November and I wondered what he would come up with! He only ended up with a bloody chest infection!!!!

HalfMumHalfBiscuit · 15/12/2009 19:51

OMG - mine is the same. He even managed to feel tired while I was pregnant. V interesting.

somanyboyssolittletime · 15/12/2009 19:57

Mine too, I'm afraid. He phones me EVERY morning from work to ask how tired I am, and to tell me how tired he is (more tired than me obviously!)

And of course, I am never allowed an illness to myself.

PoppityMerryGentlemen · 15/12/2009 20:10

Somany- mine does that exact same thing, every day!

The night feeds thing always made me laugh, up all night BF and somehow he would be more tired than me. Oh no actually I remember the reason now, I am better at doing without sleep than him apparantly- WTF!?

moondog · 15/12/2009 20:13

Lol at Happybump and the ripped penis story!

Moaning about being ill is the singulalry most unattractive thing a man can do I find.
I tell mine the moaning puts me off shagging him.
That shuts him up pdq.

maxpower · 15/12/2009 20:14

I thought it was just my DH who did this!

SerendipitousHarlot · 15/12/2009 20:18

moondog I am so going to try that!

Another one here with one of those. I cannot BEAR it and it genuinely makes me think about divorce.

Ooh I'm getting angry just thinking about it

ByTheSea · 15/12/2009 20:22

Mine is the same way. Drives me batty!

domesticslattern · 15/12/2009 20:24

Too funny, I thought it was just MrDomesticSlattern who did this!

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