To bllody hate 'Im not doing doing cards this year....I'm giving to Charity'

[Madascheese]

I hate hate hate this.

Fine, you can't be bothered to write a few poxy cards, don't try to guilt me out by telling me you're giving money to the poor starving children.

I give money to the poor starving children, and the homeless adults, and the people with no water.

DS and I also regularly take part in sponsored stuff and give toys and gifts.

We recycle, we freecycle we spend our time thinking of exciting to new ways to save the planet, we cook food from scratch and walk our 10,000 steps a day, we feed birds responsibly...

But you know what?

We also find time to buy, write and send Christmas cards to people because it's bloody CHRISTMAS.....

Don't put messages on facebook/or email to say you're not sending cards, don't put a poster up at work. Just don't send the card if you don't want to....

GRRRR

and breathe..........

Hey MrsJammi it's not me who's having a go about your 200+ cards being posted.

As it goes, I give the equivalent amount to charity at Christmas as I spend on cards we have a kind of 'thing' in our house as I'm sure many other do about giving to charity(and as I've mentioned in this post I'm not exactly financially flush I just count it as part of the Christmas budget which I save for during the year)

For honestly the last time, I'm not having a go at giving the blummin money to charity, I'm having a go at publicising it. If you don't want to send cards, don't send them, if you want to send the same amount of money to colony of ants in outer mongolia, I don't care, just don't be bloody advertising that you're holier than thou because you're giving some money to charity. We all do it. I choose to send people I care about Christmas cards and donate AS WELL but I don't shout about it (err except on this thread obvnov)

Hmm.

There are charity Christmas cards I guess but YABU.

Waste of paper.

what about people who make their own cards? How do we all feel about them! The bastards

yes, bloody recycling bastards, saving the planet and walking around to deliver them by hand and spread Chirstmas Cheer not using up ANY fossil fuels...

offers a glass of wine to anyone who wants to come rant with me after the day I've had

YABU

yeah! The smug bastards

YABU
I don't send cards.
We get maybe half a dozen Christmas cards in total each year because most people we know don't or don't because we don't.
We do do Christmas and I get prezzies for all the family and that, but cards for everyone I have an address for is not something I want to do.

YANBU.

Better to give up some other small luxury now and again (an extra makeup item? an unnecessary car journey? a bottle of wine? a magazine?) and donate the proceeds to charity, instead of picking on Christmas cards which bring goodwill to other people.

I love receiving Christmas cards and to know someone thought of me to send one means far more than the monetary value of the card.

Christmas cards are not wasted, they have one of the best purposes, which is to bring happiness and good wishes to others. And they can be recycled.

Hi Madascheese,

I am not sending Christmas cards this year. I have given rather a large sum of money to the charity which supports people who suffer from the illness that killed my mum last year. In this large sum of money I have included the cost of posting over 100 cards which I would otherwise have given needlessly to Royal Mail. (About £30 extra which wouldn't have gone to the charity even if I had bought the cards directly from the charity). And no trees have been killed on my behalf. I shall be emailing everyone to explain what I have done, and I don't expect a single one of the recipients to have a problem with what I've done. It's in memory of my mum, and it's a charity donation.

I'm really sorry if this lack of card-sending offends you, but your OP offended and upset me greatly with its sheer insensitivity. (Don't tell me I shouldn't have read it - until you read a post you have no idea what it contains!).

Merry Christmas to you, and apologies that I shan't be sending you a card.

Hello Mummy

Sorry you were so offended and also my condolences on the loss of your Mum, that must be hard.

However I do feel bound to say that my post was not designed to upset you or indeed anyone else who is in a similar situation - I wouldn't dream of saying 'you shouldn't have read it then' because that's just a daft thing to say. Though to be fair, my title was pretty clear it was an AIBU about hating the fact people say I'm not doing cards this year I'm giving to charity - therefore the clues on content were there more than if I'd said charity and Christmas cards for example.

All that said, I think I've made clear in subsequent posts that I'm talking about a very particular sort of situation which would not relate to the type of thing you are talking about here at all.

I hope you and yours have a peaceful Christmas.

Thanks

I hate it too. And it's almost always the people who can well afford to do both! It's up there with the smug, holier-than-thou types who buy you a goat!

But is it better or worse than the people who simply sign their names at the bottom of a card - don't even bother putting your name at the top! I always write a little personal message too - only a line or two - but I think that's nice, shows I'm actually thinking of them and wishing them well rather than just trying to get the whole ghastly task over with.

Grrrrrr.