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To bllody hate 'Im not doing doing cards this year....I'm giving to Charity'

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Madascheese · 15/12/2009 06:42

I hate hate hate this.

Fine, you can't be bothered to write a few poxy cards, don't try to guilt me out by telling me you're giving money to the poor starving children.

I give money to the poor starving children, and the homeless adults, and the people with no water.

DS and I also regularly take part in sponsored stuff and give toys and gifts.

We recycle, we freecycle we spend our time thinking of exciting to new ways to save the planet, we cook food from scratch and walk our 10,000 steps a day, we feed birds responsibly...

But you know what?

We also find time to buy, write and send Christmas cards to people because it's bloody CHRISTMAS.....

Don't put messages on facebook/or email to say you're not sending cards, don't put a poster up at work. Just don't send the card if you don't want to....

GRRRR

and breathe..........

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grenadine · 15/12/2009 10:37

YANBU - It is nice to give and receive Christmas cards and keeps postie in a job.

Email greetings cards are tacky.

Its all very well for people to smugly say they are not sending cards and giving to charity yet they are I'm sure happy to receive cards and might feel a bit sad if everyone did the same as them and no cards were exchanged.

If people want to give to charity they should give to charity as well as sending cards. If they are worried about the environment why not reuse last year's cards by sticking them on a plain card and buying new envelopes.

mrsjammi · 15/12/2009 10:39

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MrsVik · 15/12/2009 10:40

If I didn't send cards to my loved ones, I think I'd have to send them each a letter to explain why :S

My poor old gran wouldn't understand.

I love writing and receiving Christmas cards. Not sure why charity and Christmas cards are mutually exclusive. Unless of course you spend tons of time actually fund raising and simply do not have a chance to write them.

DuelingFanjo · 15/12/2009 10:40

Oh - I think people who stew over missed Christmas cards are nuts too.

It's the whole 'I am giving the money to charity this year' line. Or even worse "I give to charity throughout the year so I am not giving cards this year"

What pants!

People should just say they aren't giving cards without trying to justify it by coming over all charitylicious.

MABS · 15/12/2009 10:42

oh i do love being called a twat by someone who knows nothing about me.
totally agree that i HATE email xmas cards tho

TerryWogansCock · 15/12/2009 10:44

i dont give the money to chareedy, i jsut think cards are pointless

DuelingFanjo · 15/12/2009 10:44

Oh chill out, I didn't mean you!

TerryWogansCock · 15/12/2009 10:47

pmsl at people getting angry about this

noddyholder · 15/12/2009 10:48

No no no to email cards!

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Madascheese · 15/12/2009 10:54

Crikey I admit I was feeling a bit fighty this morning - I didn't think would kick off quite so much though.

looks a bit sheepish

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flockwallpaper · 15/12/2009 10:55

I don't hate people that do this - 'tis the season of goodwill and all that and charities need all the donations they can get at the moment.

I send cards to people I don't see regularly but still care about. They are a waste of trees as I know they will get thrown away in January, but at least the recipient knows that we have thought of them. Each January when I take the cards down that we have received, I phone everyone who sent one to ask how they are doing and if they had a good Christmas.

I don't bother with cards for friends and family I see regularly as they will be invited around for mulled wine instead.

MsDoctor · 15/12/2009 11:05

THis year I have:

Bought cards that support my dcs school.
Bought charity cards.
Volunteered at my local shelter for a couple of shifts over Christmas.
Recycled last years cards as tags fro presents.

SantaWears2shoes · 15/12/2009 11:22

yabu
but i must admit I would be sad not to hear from the people I don,t see and my family

tinierclanger · 15/12/2009 12:37

YABU. I always do this at work, because I think the whole exchange of cards at work is pointless. I still send my 'normal' (charity) cards to family and friends. So some charity gets extra money, and I don't waste a load of cards.

hollyroger · 15/12/2009 12:40

YANBU - it's the whole publicising the fact that they are 'considerably more caring and pious than yow' thing I find hard to swallow.

hollyroger · 15/12/2009 12:41

and i give money to charity all year round and i make my cards out of all sorts of recycled bits and pieces!

StrictlyKatty · 15/12/2009 13:23

Jammi but 200 cards plus stamps would cost a lot more than £10, so don't you feel it looks like you're saying you don't want to waste that much money on cards so will give a tiny donation to charity!?

When people say they are donating RATHER than cards they should donate how much they would have spent on the cards and stamps. You don't out 5p in a collection tin and tell someone that was instead of a present?

PuppyMonkey · 15/12/2009 13:27

I'm not doing cards this year and Im not giving to charity either.

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Madascheese · 15/12/2009 13:34

I've had some rescue remedy now...

Flockwallpaper I don't hate the people who do this - I hate the way it's used. I don't think it's a God given right to get Christmas cards, I just think it's nice. It's nice for my elderly relatives, it's nice for the friends who too far away to visit. It's just nice to send a bloody card.

I send Brithday Cards as well sometimes ......I don't go 'Oh Happy Birthday friend, as a gesture for your birthday I've donated the equivalent of what I would have spent on a nice box of chocs/some much needed pampering stuff etc on a water diving rod for you. Unless they say that's what they want me to do and I'd be pretty miffed if someone gave up my card/present/treat for the same thing.

Why the bloody big deal about sacrificing sending cards just because it's Christmas? Why don't the same people go 'I wont be sending any brthday cards to people I care about this year I'll be giving all the money to Shelter'

And WHY would you give cards to people at work just for the sake of it anyway? Sounds like a bit of a bizzare thing to do. thinks this may be why I'm not good with cliques

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TerryWogansCock · 15/12/2009 13:37

i send birthday cards, thats different

lovechoc · 15/12/2009 13:41

I'm not giving out cards this year OR giving to charity.

againandagain · 15/12/2009 14:37

YABU

I wouldnt care if I do not receive any cards. However I do know that some people do feel it is necessary to be sent cards and feel like they should receive.
The envrionmental issues bother me more than the money side of things, so for that reason I only buy Oxfam ones (they are cheaper too so could also donate actually, thinking about it) and only send to very close friends and family.

Although so very people dont have internet accsess these days am thinking of doing a cyber space christmas card next year, with a please dont print off sign on them. Even people without internet often have family with internet so it should be possible. And also what with facebook you can find most people!!

mrsjammi · 15/12/2009 18:33

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WidowWadman · 15/12/2009 18:46

"i have a strong feeling that the people who do this - get lots of cards. I don't think they would think this way if they only got a card from their dh"

I think if my husband got me christmas card I'd have him sectioned. We live in the same house, why send cards?

BrianGiggs · 15/12/2009 18:47

i never sned cards
have about 30 so far

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