to give school a list of foods/additives etc. which ds cannot eat at the class christmas party?

[tispity]

the other alternative would be to keep him off that day. he is not allergic as such, but it turns him into a little devil. i feel strongly that it makes no sense to let him eat everything one day a year while carefully controlling his diet for the remaining 364 days. i would even be willing to provide a selection of food for ds and others on his table. i don't know whether the mere suggestion would offend them as they are rushed off their feet this week and the oher parents don't appear bothered (especially those sending in haribos and value cola!).

OP - with the greatest respect, you're a loon.

Little story: my aunt was very controlling over my cousins' diets. They were never allowed to eat any sweet stuff growing up, often having to stand by whilst their friends enjoyed themselves at parties (as is completely normal).

Far from growing up eschewing junk food, the opposite is happened and they are all compeltely obsessed by it to the point that three of them are morbidly obese with compulsive eating disorders and one who is only thin because she is severely anorexic.

I just think kids need to learn about moderation and self-control (and have frigging sweets at Christmas!) rather than it be outlawed.

ROFL @ menopausal numpties

YABU, unless he is allergic to those kind of foods, let the boy be a kid fgs. How would you like it if someone said to you now, sorry you cant have any chocolate (things you like) because it will make you fat and make you a bit high, even at Christmas or your birthday. Let him have a bit of what the kids are having, you CANNOT control him once he is a teen/adult let go a bit, cut some slack.

No, don't listen to them! They all want your child to fail so theirs can succeed, I see this all the time - it's a vested interest in fattening up other people's kids. You keep tight control as long as you can.

i have already said that ds does not eat only organic and walk around in an oxygen mask - we bake cakes and biscuits, i make jam, yoghurt and all kinds of bread, he is even allowed some chocolate - you can do all that without resorting to additive-ridden rubbish and kow-towing to the original MNs; the multinationals.

(wipes tears from eyes) - marvellous way to start a very dull day at work - keep it up tipsy lady

Haven't had a chance to read the rest of the thread so hoping that it turned out to be AIBU by stealth and that there are mitigating factors for OP's seeming lunacy

I'll be back.

Titspitty - Am absolutely with you. Mine do wear those masks tho.

Chill out Tis you sound very very controlling, i homecook everything that dd eats, only have mostly home made cakes that i bake, her fav treats are dried fruit, but i would never ever for one or two times a year deprive her of a normal childhood due to obsessive behaviour. What harm is it going to do?. You wont be able thank god to control your ds forever, you are what is known as a helicopter parent. I hate party food with a passion, but would never deprive my dd or make her miss out. What did you do op as a child then?

Tittypie doesn't have time for all that. She is on a mission. I'm with her. Storm the supermarkets! Ransack the shelves and burn the additives!

"And has a well dodgy relationship with her brother" well, that's another thread. lets make a date for 2010

I cannot believe what i am reading from the op poor poor boy

Tispity, YAB-completely-U. My DD is allergic to eggs and nuts. She has her reception party on Friday and I have to trust the school to manage this properly and ensure that she doesn't have any potentially life-threatening foods. They have epipens on hand just in case. If there was an accident and I was informed that the teachers were also having to deal with a child who was having to be kept away from certain foods because it might make he/she a bit excitable then I would find it hard not to strangle said child's parents.

Send in as much healthy food as you can and then trust your DS to make (largely) good choices for himself. I have to trust my DD not to swap food with other children in her classs every single day.

Bah humbug to both of your Tistheseason and op

We wouldn't TOUCH humbugs.

tispity 99percent of people on here think your views are bizzare so what does say about your mental health. sort yourself out and get a grip.

i thought as much oh dear oh dear.

My sister had a lot of food allergies as a child.

So for parties or going to other people's houses, school/brownie holidays she always had to take a seperate lunchbox. She could never have the treats everyone else had.

It is very isolating. And has a big affect on the child. It marks them out as very different to the other children - and they notice.

Why the hell you would inflict that on a child when you didn't have to is beyond me

What a sad time your dcs are going to have missing all these parties because of your obsessions and i mean obsessions. Fair enough control what they have at home, pack them a healthy organic lunch but to expect them to make healthy choices at parties is vvvvvvvvvu imo. I like to control what dd has at home but cut some slack on special days christmas/birthdays etc. I also know that i cannot do this all the time and that it is actually OK for dd to have a ittle bit of junk every now and again, it will not hurt her or kill her.

By doing this OP you are creating a very unhealthy obsession with food that could go further later on in life, dont be under the illusion that your ds will choose healthy things later on as an adult, if he does it might be because he has an eating disorder and take it to the extreme, or that he gorges on the stuff as he was deprived of it as a child.

What a sad lonly time your ds is going to have as he will miss out on parties due to party food being there, or if he does go has to eat his own specially prepared lunch and not have the food on offer, not because he has allergies but because his mum is obsessed. How

Piglet - are you saying that her ds will have a sad and lonely time?

Well, he might. But he will have a healthy time and that is far more important in the long run.

tistheseason i eat what you call junk and i am very happy and very healthy. i cant remember the last time i was ill.

Yes totally, gosh you are both as bad as each other. A few bits of party food at a party will not kill or harm him fgs, you both need psychological help. In the long run being so obsessive like this can be harmful and detrimental in the long run and yes i have studied psychology and health psychology to postgrad level so know a little about these issues.