No homophobes allowed on this thread (lennin, over here!)

[ijustwanttoaskaquestion]

As you have suggested, ive started a new thread.

I am a straight person (or at least ive not met a woman yet who i fancy) and i do have a few questions.

I have often wondered, and i suspect this is a bit of a non question, how a homosexual relationship works? There are definate differences between a man and woman. Those differences are biological in origin and affect the way we behave. Those differences i guess contribute to how we rub along together in our relationships?? Women being more alike - does that mean that there is more potential for "power struggles" within same sex relationships.

Also, and i did mention this on another thread - but im not entirely happy with my body, my DP clearly likes it, but i don't have any hangs ups about him looking at me, i might if i were with another woman as i would be comparing all the time.

Sorry, these q probably seem a bit trivial and trite but its something i have often wondered and don't know any gay people well enough to ask

I have also often wondered about this too. Although I personally don't feel sexually attracted to women, I have often thought that having a relationship with another female would be much more intense, and that there would be a lot more understanding of each others needs? (emotionally I mean, not sexually)

Lesbian women tend to be very possesive.

Lesbian relationships tend to be a lot more about a mental connection leading to a sexual one rather than comparing each others bodies, it is not like that at all.

Women tend to know how to pleasure each other instinctively a lot more than men do to women.

Statistically Gay and Lesbian couples have equally the same amount of DV (domestic violence) as straight couples although most Gay and Lesbian couples I know say it is more.

Gay and Lesbian couples tend to be a lot more openly promiscuous within their reltionships and many more are openly not monogomous.

Some male Gay couples either give or take, they don't "take turns".

I compare dh's body to mine all the time! and there were times when he looked more pregnant than me!
The key is, you say that you are not entirely happy with your body but that your dp likes it. Don't you think that could still be the case if your dp were a woman. And very likely a woman who might not be 100% happy with her own body unless you managed to pull Cheryl Cole!

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Women tend to know how to pleasure each other instinctively a lot more than men do to women"

i guess so, however i wouldnt knwo where to start!!

ijustwant.....are you a guy???

"...There are definate differences between a man and woman. Those differences are biological in origin and affect the way we behave. Those differences i guess contribute to how we rub along together in our relationships?...."

What kind of differences do you mean? Personally I think that most differences are individual, based on temperament and background rather than sex/gender. I'd be interested to hear what differences are generally ascribed to gender.
thanks

Poo - i genuinely don't know what they are, but i do know that there are recorded differences between male and female brains, also male and females are raised differently, i guess to conform to what society expects gender to be. (very rusty from some biology lessons on sexual differentiation - the whole, why women cant read maps debate - although i can read maps very well thankyou very much).

I certainly dont question homosexuality at all, just interested in how relationships work. Or nosey - but certainly not anti - just curious and a bit ignorant i guess.

lady - why would you ask that?? sorry, i didnt mean to offend.

Im not sure there are actual 'power struggles' in gay relationships tbh

Having experienced both myself i can honesly say that when i was with another woman there was no attempt made by either of us to be moredominent or whatever

Also the thing about being able to pleasure more instinctively is true imo, you know what works and what doesnt

Im in hectro relationship at the mo and im just as satisfied though

best of both worlds then viva

Certainly

thanks lenin, i hope your baby feels better soon!

I had a male friend, who persued a lesbian who's mother was a lesbian, who eventually agreed to her surprise that she was hetrosexual.

Now I don't understand what was at work there!

I sometimes wonder with this whole debate at whether the majority of people could actually be a bit of both, except that society expectst them to be one way in particular, and for the majority they are pretty comfortable there and so don't much bother investigating the alternative, but with a bit of imagination, exploration and creativity there a new worlds out there!?

I wonder if this is the reason that homosexuality is more present in the creative industries and arts, rather than being homosexual makes you more likely to be creative and artistic iyswim.

Probably as clear as mud, but anyway......

I think this is quite a good question, its something I feel a bit ignorant about. I have some gay friends but not people I know well enough to ask intrusive questions about their relationship. I am in a heterosexual rmarriage but also have fancied women from time to time, so have geniunely wondered what it might be like, what differences there would be, and also have wondered whether I would feel more self conscious about my body if there was another female's body to compare it to

FNN, just read your post properly. Yes, I've often wondered the same, I'm sure I can't be the only person who has tendencies both ways, but hasn't had the guts / opportunity etc to explore the other option (and am definitely quite uncreative/ artistic which supports your theory I guess)

i value love and affirmation and if you find that same sex what is the big deal

so much discord and angst,so why have hissy fit about consensual same sex adults loving relationships

I think homosexuality is more accepted in the arts and creative industries which allows people to be more open about their sexuality. It might mean that people are then more attracted to those careers, IDK. I work for IKEA which prides itself on a fairly laid back working culture (it tries to make it like a big family) and I've never worked anywhere else where people are so comfortable to be open about there sexuality.

And, also going on what FuckingNinkyNonk said, personally I tend to go with the theory that everybody's on the bi scale, but I'll admit I'm biased because I can't wrap my head around not being bi (although for me it just means there's more people that aren't DH, that I'm not allowed to sleep with)

there = their, sorry. It's late, I'm tired.

I guess Lenin has gone to bed- shame, as I missed the Quiz A Lesbian window

I will wait till I'm not pissed to post, but I have some snippets to chip in with. I agree that many people would have a more fluid sexualty if convention didn't make it so difficult though.