No homophobes allowed on this thread (lennin, over here!)

[ijustwanttoaskaquestion]

As you have suggested, ive started a new thread.

I am a straight person (or at least ive not met a woman yet who i fancy) and i do have a few questions.

I have often wondered, and i suspect this is a bit of a non question, how a homosexual relationship works? There are definate differences between a man and woman. Those differences are biological in origin and affect the way we behave. Those differences i guess contribute to how we rub along together in our relationships?? Women being more alike - does that mean that there is more potential for "power struggles" within same sex relationships.

Also, and i did mention this on another thread - but im not entirely happy with my body, my DP clearly likes it, but i don't have any hangs ups about him looking at me, i might if i were with another woman as i would be comparing all the time.

Sorry, these q probably seem a bit trivial and trite but its something i have often wondered and don't know any gay people well enough to ask

Right then- I have slept with girls in the past as a one-off{ish} and not followed it up, and I've nearly ended up living with a girl I was good friends with, slept with once, and she wanted us to live together and both look after my dd (years ago). I was quite up for it, as I liked her, but I guess if I'm honest, it wasn't with any big passion, it just would have been nice IYSWIM. As it turned out, she got together with a guy (no hard feelings) and stayed with him for years, and backed out. I wasn't bothered, as we stayed friends, but it's funny that I might have drifted into a relationship with her and be forced into the whole "coming out" thing. Thing is, I never really felt like it was about sexuality, just having a bond with a person who happened to be female. If I'm honest, the hassle of all the discrimination etc would have pissed me off too much probably. And I did feel a bit weird not having owt special to bring to the party, given she had all the same bits.

So, I am bisexual? Or was I just slaggy enough to not be too bothered about who I slept with? < disclaimer- I did sleep with men too at that time, just none of them were nice enough to contemplate sharing a flat with >

Or lazy...if it's on offer

I think she would have driven me nuts though really- she was a bit sulky, and I can't be arsed with that kind of thing. It felt a bit like agreeing to go out with the nice boy at school because he was lovely but I didn't really fancy. But who knows?

I hope Shiney doesn't see this in the morning- I'm staying with her tomorrow, and she is already worried I'll dry-hump her leg after a drink

Hell, Lenin, I'm feeling a bit like that.

Confoozed.

how oldisyourbaby?

sorry, not sure if that was a space bar problem ora cherry wine problem

Going crazy for a woman. Well, 2 women, 2 men, but leaning much more towards the women, and one in particular.
But hey, I always fall for people I can't have, so it probably makes no difference.

My first relationship was 5 yrs long with a great guy who pampered me..then came ds1's sperm donor while i was with him i had urges towards my female friend, she responded to them time and again and instigated many a night together just the 2 of us. It opened my eyes to who i really was/am.

I then had a wonderful relationship with a friend who is an outright lesbian which lasted 9 months. At the time I was with DP, he knew, knows and accepts this is me.

He knows I will fancy women as well as men, and just deals with it.

Am I bi? or am I just greedy lol

I second the fact that women know instinctively (sp) how to please another woman.....

No no sorry, just personally confused! Becoming a permanent state of mind, nobody will ever want gibbering stupidme.

Just friendly curiosity about baby...have had 4 myself but they mutate and turn into children.

Puking babies are hard work...hope you can both get some sleep. Are you bf?

Good luck.
Hope to see you about again.

you still about?

Have namechanged...
I'm bisexual and had roughly similar numbers of relationships with men and women.

People are different. The 'women instictively know what other women want in bed' is total bollocks and has led to some of the worst sex I've ever had. Men or at least the ones I'm willing to shag are aware they don'gt know how my body will react and ask!

I think men and women are a heck of a lot more similar than people given them credit for, and queer people and geeks both tend not to be at the gendered extremes. Since I had kids dp and I have found ourselves adopting some stereotypical gender roles which is very odd - me at home with babies, him out at work. Was fine for a bit of variety but v glad to be back working too.

re body image - nothing like an all-women sauna to get you to realise female beauty comes in all shapes and sizes and the exact details of your backside or whatever aren't important. My girlfriends tend to look different enough to me that I don't compare any more than with dh.

I think the 'bisexual index' website explores some of your questions