To ask DP to pronounce it properly when we go out?

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DP always pronounces "Fajita" exactly how its spelt. I.E. faJita.

I have told him its pronounced "Fa he ta" but he says he's just "used" to saying it wrong now and continues to do so.

However, at weekend we are going to Chiquitos and he intends to order fajitas. I asked him to at least pronounce it properly in there because its embarrassing if he says it wrong in there. He says I'm being stuck up and he'll just say it how he normally does.

Am I being stuck up or would it embarrass you too?

yes you are being stuck up and yes it would embarass me nevertheless

in this house we call them FANJITAS which is your lady garden, after some comedian i think but no idea now who that it is

oh yes also i cringe inside when i hear Tortilla pronouced incorrectly. so my inner snob weeps but my outer reasonable non stuck up side tells it to shut the fuck up. Likewise with people wielding their knives pen-style.

ok really will stop wittering now sorry

in summation, YABU

I'd be more embarrassed about being seen in Chiquitos, to be honest

That sounds very annoying.

Is there something you can do to embarrass him, or would escalation not be a good idea?

YABU. It's fanjitas in our house too. Chiquitos won't notice if you say it correctly or not, don't sweat it.

We say fa gee tas.

Its just a word, no need to get embarresed if he says it in public, unless hes getting his cock out under the table at the same time, then YANBU.

If he won't pronounce it properly, could you ask him to at least pretend that he's doing it on purpose?

It wouldn't embarrass me, but I'd probably fall about laughing like a hyena and clutching my sides in a non-supportive-wife manner. We tend to be quite happy (and quick) to take the mick out of each other though

hey Squeezin - high five!

OMG Elf i just spat tea on my keyboard

We call things silly names as jokes. The trouble is that they stick and you get used to calling them that. I tend to say Fadge-i-taz, it's a joke between me and DH. I can just see me forgetting though and asking for some when we go out

I'm not really into one person telling other people how they should be pronouncing things, especially when it comes to words from another language and it doesn't matter. He's just saying it in an English way, leave the poor lad alone

YANBU I would be embarrassed by that too. Perhaps we're both being ridiculous! Sounds like he's determined to say it wrong just to annoy you

How is it being stuck up to pronounce something properly?

If he knows he´s saying it wrong, why would he continue to do so?

Does he enjoy sounding like a twät?

fanjitas here too.. Chiquitos will be used to people mispronouncing lots of things.

I had a bf once who loved mexican food so there was one restaurant we went to quite often. He insisted on ordering me a " penis tomato"........any guesses? Pina colada. We are no longer together.

Oh yes "the English way"=not saying a word properly because it´s from another language!

I am with the OP. I'd want to slap him. He knows he is pronouncing it wrong and is obviously doing it just for annoyance.

Then again, if you act like you don't care and don't rise to it, will he still get the same kicks and carry on annoying you???

Only my opinion diddl, but it's stuck up because it's the whole scone/scone thing of 'I say it like this so everyone who says it differently is wrong', and I've heard a few of those debates in RL get into the realms of an argument, which to me is stoopid, just over a few words.

It might be pronounced fahita in Mexico, but the OPs DH isn't Mexican (I'm presuming) he speaks english.

It might just be a defiant Brit thing and we like to make words our own as we've always been like this with other languages eg Wipers for Ypres in WWII.

"Oh yes "the English way"=not saying a word properly because it´s from another language!"

isn't this the way for most people saying a foreign word regardless of where they're from? i mean you wouldn't call it embarrassing if a french/chinese/brazillian/egyptian had problems with an english word consisting of silent or softly pronounced letters would you?

fwiw you do sound stuck up and while i do pronounce fajitas properly surely the only way to pronounce jalepenos is a trailer park boys-esque ja-lop-en-Os

We pronounce it fa-hee-tas but only becuase round ours 'fadge eaters' has a whole different meaning

We pronounce it fa-hee-tas but only becuase round ours 'fadge eaters' has a whole different meaning

Really? What, you mean like spaghetti, art nouveau and brunette? How on earth do we manage, I wonder, with all this foreign in our language?

Btw - do you mean British or English? You seem a bit confused...

Not confused, her DH speaks english, but we are British or is that a sly insinuation I'm somehow not including all of the British Isles countries in my post and making a presumption we're all English?

If you said spaghetti in an Italian accent every time you used the word you would sound stuck up, yes.

But the English way to pronounce fajita is fahita. It's not like Florence/Firenze where it would be very poncey for an English person to insist on using the Italian name.

English doesn't exactly have clear phonetic spelling rules that let you go immediately from the written word to the spoken word.

I think your DH sounds very funny, would make me laugh.