to be mildly annoyed about double standards on the AIBU board?

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Yes, I know it's supposedly the height of bad taste to talk about how much money one has. However, it's seen as perfectly fine to talk about how little money one has. For the record, where I'm originally from, it's really bad taste to talk about either.

So, AIBU to be mildly annoyed at the double standards that exist on the AIBU board?

To pre-empt the usual hunters, no, I am definitely not a troll. Well, not all the time, at any rate ...

have you met Spod on my profile?

DS1 is in love, I tell ya.

He is a bit spikey looking to have had to squeeze out VirginPeachy ....

He is very handsome though - has your eyes.

HAs my personality too (I should probably apologise to DH about that shouldn't I?)

only times money talk annoys me is bragging

i is so riche that i wash my hair in a gold basin

YANBU. I like it, puts things into perspective for me. I always think we're skint then someone worse off comes along and I realise how lucky we really are.

So,I rpesumeif its rude to discuss poverty I shouldn't have offered ds2 a quid if he responds to the routine 'Oh what do your family have for Christmas Lunch debate today (school Christmas Dinner day) with 'Please Miss, my family are soooo poor that this year we are roasting the cat'

Dammit.

(and yes, I will be paying him if he does- goodness yes LOL)

I agree that it's a silly idea to think that someone who has made lots of money has suddenly become shallow and vacant. And I of all people would encourage the buying of Chanel lippy if it's in your budget, it's bleedin marvellous.

But still this idea that some people don't work 'hard enough' to get out of the poverty trap bothers me so much. A lot of people work crushingly hard, and it's not lack of initiative or laziness that means they don't make enough money to live on. Some of it is misfortune, and impossible to manage.

Life is essentially pretty unfair sometimes, and as my Dad says, your luck is often 50/50 good and bad, but it's trying to turn round the few extra percent to the good that makes the difference.
But some people get a run of bad luck that doesn't end with a fairytale happy ending of hard work equals nice house etc. They have no control over it, and I really feel for them. I don't begrudge them talking about it here, it must be a lot more stressful than not getting a pat on the back for having achieved what you want.

I think money can make people shallow and vacant, although I think that is more to do with the people than money.

I know when I had money I was rather a selfish, shallow bitch who was obsessed with having stuff. I had a well deserved crash and burn after my daughter was born and had to meet all the people I had been quite rude to on they way up. It did me the world of good.

I now have a comfortable life but will never be rich but have worked very hard for everything I have rather than leeching of a husband. My security means much more to me now as I look around and see things that I have worked hard to achieve. However material things mean very little to me as I know that when I had them they did not make me truly happy. But being piss poor is not a recipe for happiness either.

I look back now at the people who were in my bubble of empty wealth worship and feel sorry for them and feel sick that I was ever part of that.

But having said that I know lots of people with money who are good people who have worked hard to achieve what they have.

haven't read it all - cba.

However, I'm skint, no really I am - admittedly not a bad as it used to be, but still pretty "eek" on the debt side of things (it's ok - nominatios for Secret Santa are already in ), I have a computer that would have been well into 4 figures.......had it not been built for me for a fraction of the cost.

I like using MN as a venting place for when money woes are getting me down. As lovely as my RL friends are they can't just walk away when I get boring..........you lot can hide the thread and ignore