to be mildly annoyed about double standards on the AIBU board?

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Yes, I know it's supposedly the height of bad taste to talk about how much money one has. However, it's seen as perfectly fine to talk about how little money one has. For the record, where I'm originally from, it's really bad taste to talk about either.

So, AIBU to be mildly annoyed at the double standards that exist on the AIBU board?

To pre-empt the usual hunters, no, I am definitely not a troll. Well, not all the time, at any rate ...

Sometimes having money isn't great if you have aquired it from inheritance- I know my DP would rather have his parents, grand parents aunts and uncles than cash any day.

I'm a benefit girl myself (make up that is)

I have found people on MN really happy for me and didn't assume I was shallow when I had a large budjet for my engagement ring and asked for advice.

Why should anyone wish you well just because your husband is a company director though, LeQueen?

I am the most average Riven, don't even try to compete with me.

I totally agree though that just because you like Chanel lippy it does not make you a nasty shallow person.... I go for Clinique myself - expensive but worth every penny

everyone knows these makes are for witches. Dior is so much better...

the benefits system is complex, and people require guidance and support if subjected to it.

taxation can be complex to for HWE's, but if you're in that bracket, you need an accountant, not a bunch of ladies on the web to advise you.

two good reasons for the difference commented on above.

agre with Secondcomings post re: competitiveness. My Mil is much worse than hers, btw....

LeQueen I wish you well.
I have been so broke it is unreal, but I wouldn't start a woe it is me thread on mn, what would be the point.
plenty of people are on their uppers on mn, but they don't all shout from the roof tops.
what annoys me is when I see them giving to a woe it is me thread and getting f all back.
I like reading the rich people post's, it shows the other side of the coin, they have problems just like anyone else.

ok TSC , you may have the edge there....

YABU to be mildly annoyed. That's not what AIBU is all about. Pscha.

I do find some of the "I'm poorer than yow" threads quite funny, especially the competitive super-cheap wedding ones. Those are hilarious "I stole my dress out of a skip, and my shoes from a hobo" "well, I was naked. It's FREE you know". HILARIOUS

In the "who has the worst MIL" competition, my friend's MIL just announced she wouldn't be buying the grandchildren any Christmas presents (she's not hard up). And my MIL asked me to phone her after my 20week scan "if the baby is a boy". TSC you are probably still in the lead though with piss on toilet situation.

if it's a faux pas to discuss how money money you've got either way where you are from, why bring it up here?

like, who cares?

It's not so much people talking about how little money they have, it's about how difficult their lives are because of it. Which the rich can't really join it with.

I am going to win the 'why am in this marriage?' award, I could even win the wasted lots opf money and now we have none, cupboards full of value food replacing organic, can't remember the last time we had nice shampoo.....

However to get my life into some sort of perspective I am doing two shifts at a homeless shelter over Christmas, purely selfish reasons, and all of my dcs are healthy and NT.

TBH I don't mind people talking about money on here although the ridiculous threads recently about £90 on Christmas birds and the woman talking about her DH's private jet but no money for cutlery did make me as so many MNers have no money and even moaning or asking with regards to money just sounds like back-handed boasting.

I am more average than you, Georgimama. I am average height, weight, shoe size, look!

Hm, I think there may be some rich people who have difficult lives; being wealthy doesn't protect you from say, terminal illness, family problems etc.

Yes, but if you're rich at least you can buy private care, nurses, latest treatments that NICE won't fund, know that you're leaving your family well provided for etc etc.

There's very little that money doesn't improve.