to be mildly annoyed about double standards on the AIBU board?

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Yes, I know it's supposedly the height of bad taste to talk about how much money one has. However, it's seen as perfectly fine to talk about how little money one has. For the record, where I'm originally from, it's really bad taste to talk about either.

So, AIBU to be mildly annoyed at the double standards that exist on the AIBU board?

To pre-empt the usual hunters, no, I am definitely not a troll. Well, not all the time, at any rate ...

Yeah that wouldn't be bad. Glad the parents are finally spending at 68 rather than working, saving and investing. A hell of a long time coming..

PMSL at most of thesecondcoming's comments.

We are very average - can I put my entry in for that?
We were better than average but now down to one income. So now have the average wage for 2 people. Have an average baby (50th centile all the way!)

I do love a thrifty thread. I am gradually turning into my dad who has always been "careful" when it came to the pennies

TSC, My FIL likes to get pissed and go all over the bathroom floor to the loo and not flush or wash his hands.

However Christmas has come early here as I have managed to get GoGo hamster house £20 less than in the shops and sold my Bumbo for £26 on ebay!!!!

YABU. Because having enough money isn't an issue is it? Why would anyone post in AIBU, or anywhere else, about having no money worries. It's a non-issue.

Thanks!! You are MN royalty, I have been quoted in the Times, doncha know!

I flew first class once, they did have really nice cutlery. I didn't pay for it though, does it still count?

I think that when you read, most of the peoplewith issues financially have or do work hard in one way or another, and they're struggling

I just don't think MN attracts the can't-be-bothereds but it does have (like life does) a alrge proportion of recently redundant, single mums, carers, etc

Sio having a PC that you bought a while back is irrelevant really- or that you got from family fund, or your Mum gave you, or that you use for work becuase you are working poor (very, very possible).

A lot of the hardest working peoplearepoor- and a lot of bery well offpewople worked very hard to get there, anyone who doesn't know that is in denial but life can throw a curve ball at you and give you the slog without the pennies, look at Riven as an example.

I don't get it when people envy people their money becuase it is only one aprt of a life and if ther est is shit- ah no ta. But its not fair toa ssume anything about the broke people either. In fact, most people I know will occupy both camps across their life- student days, marriages, mortgages, illness.... life is long and varied.

DS takes them to school for his yoghurt and they stay there.

I know people who have oodles of money.
one lady(and she is a lady, very proper) is rolling in it, but she still has to deal with having a severley disabled son.
likewise people I know that have one thier cases, yes money helps, it buys cares and all the equipment, but thier child is still disabled. so it is a bumper, but it doesn't solve everything.

I think that people are happy to celebrate your good fortune if you are a 'nice' person. The only person I know who thinks that everyone begrudges her her 'wealth' (Which is probably all made up anyway given her previous form online ) is a fairly spiteful, odd little woman so I think she automatically sees negative in every one. And using the fact that the nasty poor people don't like you because you are considerably richer than you are isn't a good way to make friends and influence people.

riven rich means carers to me and a house big enough to have room for them.

perfect description I think 2shoes - money is a bumper.
None of the bad things that happened hurt any less because I had a few quid. But having moeny can free you of the mind numbing exhaustion that comes from trying to do the best for your family with no money to spare.
If you are going to face adversity it feels the same but you are freed from additional burdens.

I don't think it is reasonable when people attack those whose posting is about a purchase or with a genuine money related query- I actually think it is really patronising to suggest that talking about buying an expensive coat is too much for the sensibilities of those strapped for cash. But I think there are threads which are boasting via enquiry " I really am not sure whether I should stick to D&G this season or go a bit more Marc Jacobs" It is a little 'god damn the shine from my diamond shoes is giving me a headache'.

FWIW the worst bit of having spare cash is going out to dinner with friends who don't have much. If you offer to pay you risk looking like a twat. If you don't so as not to offend, you risk looking like a twat.

But " I worry about looking a twat sometimes" is pretty small beer compared to " I can't afford some school shoes for DD"

Pag, you can pay for my dinner, I won't think you're a twat....

Riven, I have met you before in Quakers friars.....you were with your dd and her PA.

that I shall.....

Pag I agree

When people have posted 'OOh do you like this bag' i've posted yes or no and then someone has gone ooh you'll offend someone without much cash- er no, you won't honest!

If they posted 'oOh look at my bag you peasants who cannot be bothered to work hard enough', then mayhap

And the Christmas threads- PMSl at the copmpetitive stinging, I felt ashamed to admit I bought DS's DSi's. Why? Don't get that at all.

I only get offended if someone assumes a low income means I am less than capable, deserve it or am lessvalid.

Otherwise I really don't care.

Besideds my needs are allmet, we'rewell fed, boys clothed- I may be dim but barring a house / pension I can't actually work out what we're supposed to be doing with all that extra money anyway? Which would suggest it doesn't really mean that much.

Agree baout bumper as well. Nice to be able to afford a taxi and a carer for hospital visits, still doesn't stop your heart being ripped out.

"Nice to be able to afford a taxi and a carer for hospital visits, still doesn't stop your heart being ripped out."

I think I'll get that put on a t-shirt. Perfect description.