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Original poster

to not want to write christmas cards from ds to his pre-school 'friends'?

57 replies

Eddas · 07/12/2009 14:36

DS is 2.6, he goes to pre-school twice a week and this morning i've received lots of cards to him from the other children. That's great but he hasn't got a clue what they are or who they're from as he's 2!!

We got a letter home listing all the children's names and I think it's made people think they should send in cards

I have enough to do atm without writing cards on his behalf for people he doesn't even know really so AIBU to just pick a few kids he mentions and send them?

Is it me or is this a bit OTT, surely parents have better things to do?

Also, I overheard some of dd's classmates mum's talking this morning, saying they'd be writing cards for their dc(year 1 children) I'm making dd write them all she's 5.6 and once I tell her how to spell the names she'll be able to write them all herself won't she?

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Hullygully · 07/12/2009 14:37

YANBU - but you'll still have to do it or your child will be a social pariah and his whole life doomed.

BelleDameSansMerci · 07/12/2009 14:38

OMG!! I'll have to do this too. Noooooooo... Hell.

StealthPolarBear · 07/12/2009 14:38

wish i hadn't opened this...remember now from last year
damn

SCargot · 07/12/2009 14:39

DONT SUCCUMB TO THIS WANKAGE

i never send ANy cards and peopel still talk to me( just)

notwavingjustironing · 07/12/2009 14:39

Don't bother starting it. In DC2's class (nursery pre-reception), they have been encouraged not to do a card for each child, but to make one card at home addressed to everyone and take it in. Saves the teachers having to be postmen and us all wasting time we haven't got on cards that no-one wants. Job done.
I have given DC1 (6) some cards of his own and told them he can write them for any of his friends that he likes. I hate writing cards for my own friends so I'm certainly not starting doing everyone else's!

bamboo · 07/12/2009 14:39

YANBU. Get the glitter and glue out and do one big card to send in for display at pre-school.

Glitterknickaz · 07/12/2009 14:40

YANBU
I hated doing it.

Seona1973 · 07/12/2009 14:40

I sent a card in with ds (3) this morning but it was addressed to his whole group. I sent one in for his keyworker too - ds put the kisses on the cards. I didnt do cards for the rest of the groups as I dont really know anyone in them. DD(6) got a list home for her class but she wrote the cards herself.

littledawley · 07/12/2009 14:40

I agree that sending cards in pre-school is a bit bonkers - DD has done a few but only because her big brother was doing them. With regard to yr1 children, please be aware that they vary hugely in ability and interest in writing at that age.
Ds is in year 1 and if I made him write out all of the names it would be a huge chore. Instead, yesterday he sat with me while I did the 'Dear John, love from' he then wrote his name and decorated the cards and envelopes with Christmas stamps.

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Eddas · 07/12/2009 14:41

I didn't do it for dd when she was there and she still has friends. Last year they were at nursery one day a week too and they didn't get cards either

I just wanted to confirm it is ridiculous in the extreme and will hold my head high and NOT send cards

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BelleDameSansMerci · 07/12/2009 14:41

Bamboo and Notwaving - excellent plan! Will create some glitter festooned horror this very evening (pre-empting their Christmas party on Friday). Phew... Oooh, and I can say it's more environmentally friendly. You're geniuses!

notwavingjustironing · 07/12/2009 14:42

In fact, you've just made me think that actually, I don't have to write ANY cards if I don't want.

I might just send everyone a Happy Christmas e-mail instead. Saves two hours of my life and is much more eco-friendly!

Georgimama · 07/12/2009 14:43

There are times when I love the fact DS goes to a childminder with only 3 other mindees. This is one of them.

Actually I love it all the time but being reminded that there is much wankage (good word scargot) that at certain times of the year in particular I avoid is always a plus.

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Eddas · 07/12/2009 14:44

littledawley, I'm sure dd will be ok, she spends ours writing us little notes 'to daddy I love you love from Georgia' so as long as I tell her how to spell the other persons name she should be ok. I'm so glad as the list will be huge!! Will set her to task once she gets in from school, then if she get's bored she can carry on tomorrow

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notwavingjustironing · 07/12/2009 14:44

Actually. Might not even send an e-mail!

HAPPY CHRISTMAS TO EVERYONE WHO KNOWS

Notwavingjustironing

Which obviously, will be no-one, given it's an anonymous internet forum.

purpleturtle · 07/12/2009 14:46

Ds2 has come home from pre-school this morning, with yet more cards written by mums with nothing better to do.

Apparently, there's someone called Christopher at pre-school. You learn something new every day.

Some of us know about Mumsnet, and have no time to write cards to children we don't like know.

SCargot · 07/12/2009 14:47

i mean will anyoen NOT have a good xmas as you forgot?

NO BIN THE CARD CRAP

Fruitysunshine · 07/12/2009 14:49

total rubbish. Forget it.

mollythetortoise · 07/12/2009 14:52

I am definately not doing any cards for ds's nursery chums. He is 2.5. He actually got about 8 last year when he was 1.5.

My dd though is in year 2 so she is very keen and infact she did them all on sat night to give out today.

I bought a pack of 20 so she had to choose 20 friends.

My sister is meaner than me she has 4 kids but 3 are school age and she bought a pack of 30 and they can choose 10 each!

It is ridiculous for mums to write cards to their toddler's friends and anyone who does this is (IMO) bonkers.

allaboutme · 07/12/2009 14:55

god no, ds is 4yo and in nursery and hes got given some but no way i'm writing out 20 back!!

BelleDameSansMerci · 07/12/2009 14:56

Notwaving - please will you move next door to me? You just made me really laugh on a really crappy day!

WeThreeNinks · 07/12/2009 15:03

YANBU. My sister used to make her DS hold the pen as she was writing them all out to make it more authentic

Every year from when he was two, still does it now he's five but then she is bonkers

2rebecca · 07/12/2009 15:06

No YANBU. Some parents def have too much time on their hands. The only cards I've ever written for my kids were either birthday cards to preschool kids parties before they could write or adding them to my xmas cards. They didn't do cards to friends until they were old enough to write them and choose who to send them to. Son like many boys has never chosen to send xmas cards.

notwavingjustironing · 07/12/2009 15:35

Belle

I might well already live next door to you - but please bear in mind I won't be sending you a Christmas card this year

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Eddas · 07/12/2009 15:38

dd has just come home from school saying she's only writing them to the girls as they boys have been ripping them up!!

Thanks for re-assuring me that I am not mad for not wanting to do it. Mumsnet is fab for these situations I was thinking 'aw but he's got a card from x/y/z maybe they'll think i'm mean not sending one back' but in reality no-one will notice and i'll save myself a few hours and my sanity, plus the trees!!

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