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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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but I don't actually like children

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CDDA86 · 05/12/2009 22:28

Obviously I like my own, but I find everyone else's annoying, unpleasant and basically a pain in the neck. Am I alone in this?

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Monty100 · 05/12/2009 23:09

You are all deluded, you have never seen my dcs!

I quite like some other children. Not many, just some. I have a niece that I quite like. And I quite like some of my friends' dc's and some of my dcs' friends.

When I had my dcs the nurses told me they were the most beautiful babies they'd ever seen.

AnnieLobeseder · 05/12/2009 23:10

Ooh, children, yuk!

As a good friend said, children are like farts, you can just about stand your own, everyone else's are awful!

minxofmancunia · 05/12/2009 23:12

YANBU and i work with them! However i try to do the adolescents rather than the younger ones as i find them more bearable.

As the saying goes "hell is other peoples children" .

Have a fleeting fondness for some of my friends kids esp the ones who're friendly and boisterous. But not generally into kids.

must admit to getting exasperated with wet wimpy type kids who wail at the slightest thing and hardly speak (this was me when i was a child btw how ironic )

have a fiends child who's 3.5 same age as my dd who never bloody says hello!! Everytime you say "hello j" and he just turns into his mums/dads leg and refuses to speak! If it was dd she'd be made to say hello just as she has to say please and thank you, it's so rude!

Brunettelady · 05/12/2009 23:12

I trained to be a teaching assistant and I really couldn't stand some of the children, it wasn't really for any particular reason but I think others felt the same as other TAs would often say they didn't like "xyz".

I actually think it is quite common but one of those 'taboo' subjects.

ronshar · 05/12/2009 23:13

Monty have a look in your notes. Were the letters FLK written anywhere?
I think the staff have to say that to all the first time mums. Because obviously their babies are the most beautiful in the world.

TheCrackFox · 05/12/2009 23:14

Obviously my DCs are beyond perfection, as you can imagine, it goes without saying.

However, other peoples children fall into 3 camps:

1 Lovely
2 Bearable
3 Fucking awful and I hope my Dcs don't elevate this friendship into best friend material.

IA86 · 05/12/2009 23:14

CDDA86 - do we have something in common?

MollieO · 05/12/2009 23:16

2 yrs old wasn't the 'peak of yumminess' in this household. At that age we were in the middle of a war of attrition. Ds would lie down and refuse to move when he either did want or didn't want something. It would happen everywhere - supermarkets, car parks, middle of the road - usually accompanied by blood curdling screaming (especially in shops - we usually got an audience for his performance).

TheCrackFox · 05/12/2009 23:16

Yeah, your names are shit.

esselle · 05/12/2009 23:16

I am happy to admit that I am only friends with people who's DC's I like.

I also encourage DD's friendships with 'nice' children.

I think that because I was a nanny for so many years I have used up all of my niceness towards children which I haven't given birth to. I absolutely adore my own children!!

LynetteScavo · 05/12/2009 23:17

I used to love other peoples children before i had my own. I thought all babies were so, so cute, and all toddlers funny and all kids gernerally fun.

Then I had my own, and realised no one elses chidlren are anywhere as fabulous as mine, infact some of them are down right annoying.

McDreamyingofawhiteXmas · 05/12/2009 23:17

oooh I loved children before I had my own.

DippyDino · 05/12/2009 23:18

I detest spoilt, slack-jawed, rude, ignorant children. Especially those with snot covered faces.

Monty100 · 05/12/2009 23:20

Ron my notes did not have 'FLK' on. Whatever does that mean?

My notes simply said 'dramatically beautiful.' They had no other words.

Neither did I. I was stunninged with their beauty.

ronshar · 05/12/2009 23:21

Dino, a good friend of mine has become a more distant friend because I cant see her anymore with out wanting to shake her silly and tell her that her two boys are rude, spoilt, aggressive, spiteful, and worst of all have long blond hair. Get it cut woman.
Because when the eldest comes home from school crying that the other boys said he was a girl its because of his hair.

chegirlwithbellson · 05/12/2009 23:21

Awwww Mollie he sounds adorable - so cute.

ronshar · 05/12/2009 23:23

Monty I was being a bit silly sorry.
It means Funny Looking Kid and was an accepted medical term until fairly recently.
As I have never seen your DC then I couldn't possibly know if this applies.

upahill · 05/12/2009 23:26

No CDD you are not alone.
Even my own kids get on my nerves at times . However I work with young people and some I can't stand. Especially those who refuse to listen to basic saftey stuff and think they know better than me because I am female and old enough to be there mother (therefore past it in their eyes) I can't stand the young people who throw chairs at me and tell me to 'Fuck off, you fat c..t' because they don't like authority. eg when I tell them to take drugs away from the building because it's illegal for a start.

I can't stand my DS2 friend who walked into my house and opened my fridge and said what can I have to eat on the first visit and that my house was small and you should see the size of his!!

I can't stand another friends child who came to my house and sceamed saying ' You can't force me to eat this food, it's horrible!' when I cooked her tea. My DS was 10 at the time and said 'How dare ou speak to my mother like this. She spent time making you a meal she thought you wold like'

However there are many kids that I know that make me feel proud to do the job I do (No I'm not a teacher or a teaching assistant or anything like that!!)
I am proud of our youth MP who is an absolute credit to all teenagers.
I love working with many teenagers who trust me to tell me stuff about their lives and to act completly natural in front of me and make me laugh(and sometimes nearly cry listening to their heartache and fears)

Funny Old World!!

ronshar · 05/12/2009 23:29

Upahill. Your post made me angry and happy. All at the same time. Thank you.

CaptainUnderpants · 05/12/2009 23:43

YANBU - children are little people and we cant like everyone that we meet.

I like most of my eldest friends (9yrs) , he is tending to find a group that he has interests with and chosing his own circle of friends not friends because I am friends with mother etc.

I have a really good friend and I can't abide her two .

I work with pre schoolers and the majority of children are great the ones that are a pain are the ones with parents that are a pain as the parents truely believe their child is not only the centre of their universe ( fair enough) but also the centre of everyone else universe !

CheerfulYank · 05/12/2009 23:46

Sometimes I barely like my own!

I work with children actually and I quite like them, but I have no tolerance for the rude ones. Especially the ones whose parents refer to them as "precocious" and they actually just have no manners.

At the school where I work, I'm known as the lady who won't give you anything unless you say please and thank you.

rasputin · 06/12/2009 00:03

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Monty100 · 06/12/2009 00:52

Ron I never knew that . I was just messing around. That's outrageous really though.

Do you work in the medical profession?

hmmmm there seems to be a lot I don't know.

As you were everybody.

Still don't like some kids and love loads.

pigletmania · 06/12/2009 11:07

Oh dear in that case we will all be keeping our little ones indoors so as not to offend other mothers, there wont be a child in sight

teameric · 06/12/2009 11:19

Love my own even though sometimes when their being annoying little fuckers I just don't like them very much. Feel the same about my friends DC's really.
although I love all newborns because they are all adorable IMO.

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