to want my step daughter out of my life

[Pissedoffandfedup]

After living as a single mum I finally met the man of my dreams. We moved in together three years ago and my kids love him and he loves them.

He has a daughter from a previous marriage, she is seventeen years old and I'm starting to hate her. She comes to visit every other weekend and she spends holidays with us.

From the start she was being awkward and rude but instead of it getting better it's gotten worse.

She always sits next to her dad, kissing and cuddling him like a much younger child. She slaps my children, criticises my cooking, my looks, my kids. She has taken money from my purse, "borrowed" my makeup, poured expensive perfume in the loo and blamed my youngest, killed my other childs goldfish by putting chemicals in the water and many many other things.

I've tried to talk to my partner but he wont listen and is refusing to believe that his daughter could do anything nasty. He says that if he has to choose between me and my kids or his daughter he will always choose his daughter. And she knows it. I can't see a way out of this except for breaking up with my partner. Which I definitely don't want to do!

[Ronaldinhio]

blardy hell

[kinnies]

I do worry thet she/he has contact with children. tis not right and a bit sick.

[TheCrackFox]

Has the 12 17 yr old DSD sorted out her hygiene issues? Is it the same troll? Weird.

[zanz1bar]

seemed plausible.....oh well, a slow night.

[E45]

And I get nothing for mentioning spotty yoofs ??

:Hoists Bosoom: and leaves in high dudgeon...

[Pissedoffandfedup]

tahnk you for replies can't write more because she is around and needs the computer

[Pissedoffandfedup]

plus haven't a clue what you're on about regarding the posts about doing this before?? Soz.

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[SoWhat]

[Pissedoffandfedup]

I know that she still is a child technically but that doesn't excuse her behaviour. I have never seen her slap my kids but I know she has done because I believe what my kids tell me. I could never call the police on her, that would end my relationship for sure.

As for those who think I've been posting for months and months, well, MNHQ can see that I registered in November. NUL points to all the the disbelievers. I have changed a few details, but not her age or the things she's done.

My partner was separated when we met but as far as I know his daughter always thought that her parents would get back together again. I truly wish that I could leave every time she comes to visit but I can't. Have no relatives near and can't afford a hotel every two weeks.

What I hate most of all is that I'm really starting to feel extreme dislike for my step daughter and it's not a pleasant feeling at all.

[BitOfFun]

Good evening to you

[BitOfFun]

Hahahahaha

He will kill me

[MeltedTreeChocolates]

Haha, BoF and shine you always make me laugh

[ijustwanttoaskaquestion]

i feel sorry for the girl, she has had to cope with her dad leaving and getting a new family - whats more, her step mother (the adult) hates her. Yep, bet she feels really secure and happy and able to behave reasonably. Have you even tried to make this girl feel like a part of your family? After all, he is her dad - whats he supposed to do??

[GypsyMoth]

Is this the 'tights' one??

[MeltedTreeChocolates]

Just 'meltedchocolate'. Changed to that name a month and a half ago?? I think?? Have been on for over a year though so seen you and BoF at it together on many threads . Things changed in RL so thought a fresh start on here also would be nice.

[TLESinChristmasStockings]

I saw the title and I thought.........

BOX ROOM

[Pissedoffandfedup]

Of course I have tried. And tried. Trust me, I've tried until I'm blue in the face but after all this time with no response other than sullen looks and bad behaviour, what can I do more? Leave?

[ijustwanttoaskaquestion]

hmmmmm, sullen looks and bad behaviour? and shes 17!! when my DD was 17, you know, my own flesh and blood, all i got was sullen looks and atrocious behaviour! yours will be the same i promise you. If you love your DP, i suggest you try harder - because if he does chose you over his DD, he is quite frankly, not worth it.

Yeah, if you cant accept his daughter - do the decent thing

[MeltedTreeChocolates]

Have to agree (if this is real) that your DSD is at 'that age' just now so anyway she would have reacted is just amplified.

[ijustwanttoaskaquestion]

waves madly at BOF i'm LEM, just back for a bit, i see its not changed around here!!!

[Pissedoffandfedup]

I accepted her long ago but she never accepted me! I did not come between her parents and yet she acts as if I took her dad away from her.
It's incredibly hard to keep reminding myself that she is only a child when she looks like a woman and acts so hostile.

Whenever I try to talk to my partner he actually walks away says he can't handle it. He never tells her off even when she acts very badly right in front of him.