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Original poster

to not want my 8mo DS to bath in wee?

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Undercovamutha · 04/12/2009 10:24

Last night my DH was bathing DD (3) and DS (8mo). We have recently started bathing them together now that DS can sit up confidently in the bath. DD did a wee in the bath (DH had forgotten to put her on the toilet prior to bath). Now to my mind, DH should have quickly bathed both children, rinsing them off (especially DS) in a bit of clean water, and washed their faces in clean water too. What DH actually did was tell DD not to tell me , and then kept them in the bath splashing and playing for another 10 mins. He also washed them in the water too (couldn't bear to ask if he'd washed DS's face in the wee water!!!!). Whilst DH was changing DS, I came upstairs and asked DD if she needed a wee, she said she didn't cos she'd had one in the bath. I then caught DH later telling DD not to tell tales on him!

Anyway, DH is so sure that he is in the right that HE asked me to ask on MN if IABU to be annoyed about the whole thing. He thinks that as urine is sterile (apparently?) there's no problem and I was getting het up about nothing. I know I have a tendency towards being overly hygienic, so am starting to doubt myself.

What do you think?

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SoupDragon · 04/12/2009 10:25

Do you never take them swimming?

SoupDragon · 04/12/2009 10:25

Did he make them drink it?

RealityIsHungover · 04/12/2009 10:26

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SpawnChorus · 04/12/2009 10:27

Erm... I tend to turn a blind eye

apparently it is good for the hair

PrivetDancer · 04/12/2009 10:27

I expect DS had done a wee in it too. YABU

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SpawnChorus · 04/12/2009 10:29

PrivetDancer - I do like your name

MadameMoe · 04/12/2009 10:29

YABU, get a grip!

Oh, and urine is sterile.

RainRainGoAway · 04/12/2009 10:29

Meh -

knickerelasticjones · 04/12/2009 10:31

I wouldn't worry about it. Urine is sterile and won't cause them any harm.

Have you ever been swimming? I'm sure swimming pools are at least 10% wee

Original poster
Undercovamutha · 04/12/2009 10:34

Damn, I am going to have to tell him he was right!
I know that DD has weed in the bath a hundred times (and I'm sure DS has too), but I guess I was just a bit 'eugh' about the fact that DS was also in the bath and then DH presuably washed his face in the water.
I shall go and hang my OCD head in shame!!!

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kreecherlivesupstairs · 04/12/2009 10:34

YABU. Unless she stood up and peed into your ds' mouth it is so dilute and sterile it isn't going to make the slightest bit of difference.

CitizenPrecious · 04/12/2009 10:34

I am sure that, over the years, at least some of the baths my twins have been in have had a higher concentration of wee than water

MadameMoe · 04/12/2009 10:36

Lol! Surely it won't be the first or the last time he has wee on his face? He probably secretly wees in every bath he has!

My DS was always weeing in his own face at nappy change time when he was tiny. Didn't yours?

theyoungvisiter · 04/12/2009 10:37

well think of all the times your 8 month old Ds will have weed in the water and you never knew?

Agree with everyone else - not a big deal and urine is sterile. At least it can pick up bacteria from the genitals on its way out, but then since those same genitals are being bathed in the bath water, they would be in the water anyway iyswim?

oldwoman · 04/12/2009 10:37

My DS deliberately stands up and wees in the bath and laughs even when DD is in it as well and even when I am in it.

Then everyone baths in wee. It is no problem! They even chuck bathwater in bath toys over eachother. It will be fine!

theyoungvisiter · 04/12/2009 10:38

oops, sorry x posted with your response.

I don't think it's OCD, but just not very logical.

diddl · 04/12/2009 10:39

Well it´s not quite bathing in wee is it?

Perhaps you´ve cleaned hair & faces before in "wee water" as no one has told you that they´ve wee´d?

That said, I never washed faces or rinsed hair with the bath water-is that just me?

Sassybeast · 04/12/2009 10:40

YABU - it's only a little bit of wee.

But those of you who say that urine is sterile are wrong Urine is only sterile when it is enclosed snuggly in a nice clean infection free bladder. The second it comes into contact with a urethra or genitals, it becomes contaminated with all sorts of bugs and bogies, including faecal matter, many if which are harmless. But it's not sterile.

Original poster
Undercovamutha · 04/12/2009 10:41

DH doesn't go on MN, so AIBU to tell him you all thought I was in the right? You know, female solidarity and all that????
He really is a terrible gloater and this will keep him in smugnesss for days!!!

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MadameMoe · 04/12/2009 10:41

Could you not shower them both if it really bothers you?

GoldenSnitch · 04/12/2009 10:42

Urine isn't sterile (it starts building bugs from the moment it leaves the kidneys - looked this up for a thread a few months ago) but the concentrations are so low I wouldn't have thought it would make a huge difference in a huge bathfull of water.

I would have left them in there but not washed faces or hair I think.

MadameMoe · 04/12/2009 10:42

X posts!

YANBU not to tell DH he was right! My DP would gloat too

thatsnotmymonster · 04/12/2009 10:43

Lol was going to ask if you had OCD

YABU. I'm sure nearly all children wee in the bath fairly regularly.

My youngest dc 19mths often does a poo though and that does result in a very quick bath!!

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