Ive just rang my mum to ask if she can dig out my old gold (from an ex-boyf 20yrs ago) so that I can sell it. I cant remember exactly what there is but I definitely recall a gate bracelet.
Anyway, she hesitates and tells me that she sold the bracelet a few months ago. I asked her why she had done that because it wasnt hers to sell. She tells me she didnt think I'd mind because it was broken. Now I know she sold some jewellery a few months ago because she told me how many hundreds of pounds she got for it. I didnt think to ask if any of it was mine. And to be honest, I wouldnt be surprised if my gate bracelet wasnt the only thing of mine that she sold.
My mum has no money worries, I know that for a fact, and my dad doesnt bat an eyelid with what she spends. Although I am not broke, the money would have been nice for xmas.
I know she felt embarrassed on the phone. I asked her to look in my old box for the jewellery & she did this and then rang me back to tell me there were a few things there. I said I would call round in the next few days to collect.
Now, I think she is totally out of order. But she is being arsey with me because I have pulled her up about it. She even asked how I could be so bothered after all that she does for my DC. Admittedly, she buys things for my DC and has given me some money towards their xmas clothes, but I think she is missing the point. I dont think the fact that she helps us out makes it ok for her to have a reward from the sale of my gold jewellery behind my back. If she had sold it and then said "Oh I bought the DC this with the money from your bracelet" then that would be different.
Even if she had sold it without asking I would have thought she would have given the money to my DC. Its not really about the money, its about what she has done, and why?? for heavens sake.