to want to kill my mother .........................

[mosschops30]

am sitting here now crying ds is 5 days old and yesterday we decided on his name, txt everyone and of course everyone txt back apart from my mum and i was a bit
this morning she sent flowers and teddy, no rference to name just 'baby boy'
so i called to say thanks and she said 'hmm unusual name' and i said 'i was wondering when you'd txt' and she said 'i felt i needed time to get used to it'.

Im so upset, some of you may know from previous threads how demandingand selfish she is, yesterday she rung me to ask advice on buying a winter coat for herself and now this, im sobbing to dh as i type. Along with comments like 'ive never heard anyone call their little boy that' and 'i'll just keep saying it to myself to get used to it'

Mosschops - My nan was surprised I didn't name my son the male version of my name. Must be a grand parent thing.

Take no notice of her. It isn't about her, it does not matter what she thinks of your fabulous names for her grandson (hello?!?!) as it isn't her choice. Take no notice.

Mosschops, Noah is a beautiful name. It's long been one of my faves

Whenever I hear about comments like this from mothers, it just makes me more determined to tell mine we're calling our LO Zaphod Beeblebrox Glastonbury Ibiza, regardless of whether it's a boy or girl .

My mother is also going on holiday (nowhere special - just away with my brother and his little girl) and won't be around for due date, so we're going to tell her that's what the baby is called and see how long we can carry it on for

Sorry this is delayed, but it's your son to call what you like, at your choice is entirely reasonable. Not that it matters if you called him Moonunit.

Hope you are feeling cheerier today.

Gorgeous name! What is she talking about? What name did she want?

It's a lovely name. My mother still goes on about the other names she would have preferred for DS1 and is now nine (name not odd or strange and also biblical).

She should be thankful you didn't name him him Bubbles as one poor little girl I came a cross the other day was called. Now that would be something to get upset about!

My mother was odd about my ds' name too. He has a fairly ordinary Welsh first name, then the first names of his grandfathers as his two middle names. When we told my mum what his name is, she asked us twice what name we were going to call him by, as if she couldn't really believe her ears the first time round.

She now refers to him, when she mentions him at all, as 'the baby', never using his first name at all. Mad as a box of frogs.

YANBU
My mother-in-law refused to tell her friends the name we chose. She came over on the day that we were supposed to register our ds with a new 'Baby Names' book, and urged us to reconsider.
Of course that was 6 years ago and now it's just another name.
Everything is highly emotional at this time. But that really is hurtful.

deep breath and prioritise your family and health

she sounds obnoxious and you cannot change that. so move to acceptance that is how she is, and don't let her pollute you

smile politely and disregard her mitherings

Jeez..I just looked up the name of your babe. Its a stunningly beautiful name. Really, really really.