to sneak into my dds bedroom whilst she is sleeping tonight and ........

[famishedass]

cut the shag bands off. She is only 12 and today decided she would wear them.

I want to snip the bloody things right off.

AIBU?

Yes you are. She's 12, not 2.

Either reason with her or tell her she can't wear them - but don't "go behind her back" when her guard is down.

dunno what a shag band is ? sounds ghastly though so i would deffo chop it off!!

YABU. Sounds like the perfect way to alienate a budding teenager.

I've tried to reason with her and guess what - unsurprisingly - she won't listen to reason.

So, I think i'm deffo leaning towards "chop off"

yubu

Are these like friendship bracelets, only more, ahem, friendly?

FFS she's not a pet or a piece of property. Leave her alone. How would you like it if she cut up your clothes because she thought they were minging?

someone tell me what a shaggband is- am very intrigued

Why would it be such a terrible thing to do? It's only a piece of plastic.

here pipsqueak

shagbands

Can someone explain them to me [ignorant parent of young DC]?

We used to wear them at school, were just jelly bracelets and we made flower rings from them.

shag bands i feel are just a phase, as long as DD is sensible then you should have nothing to worry about, i had them when i was younger and it was way before i had done anything.

i know most parents hate them, but you would be making things difficult betwen you and your daughter if you go behind her back like that.

JUst googled.

I don't suppose at 12, or indeed any age, people are going to become sexually active on the advice of some jewelry!

The worst they can be is a conduit to discussion, surely.

Can you ask her to take them off at home, or when out with you?

I'm gonna sleep on it. Thanks ladies.

IIWY (actually, that would involve being entirely more rational than I normally manage, but still) I would tell her exactly why you object to them, ask for her response, and then leave it to her to decide.

She's 12. The harder you push the more of a battle it will become. If you lodge your objections but tell her she is old enough to decide for herself, chances are it will blow over in a matter of weeks/months.

All the kids are wearing them.
Even the altar servers had them on - I dont think they really promote sexual freedom and its just a trend - leave her be.

yanbu, cut them off and replace them with a tattoo and a lip piercing.

well i'm going to say YANBU chop them off!

they look like shit too, i can't believe they are still around, we wore them at school.... although i only ever wore the black ones and going by that description i was a little slut in the making (i wasn't though)

but yes i would cut them off go mama