The term "Partner".

[marantha]

Am I being unreasonable to find the term "partner" intensely annoying when applied to those in a relationship? Particularly when they are actually married so it should be like, er, husband, wife or spouse instead?
Partner in what exactly? Ballroom dancing, bridge-playing. Isn't there something just a teensy-weeny bit smug about the term?

Marriage does not have to be preserved at all costs. But the right in decent society to cohabit without legal ties MUST be.

OK, unquitedad - want do I introduce my ?? of 30 years and the father of my children to the Mayor as?

You come up with a better word and I'll use it. It can be gender specific if it matters to you, but it can't be twee, vulgar or silly.

Hooray for Marantha!

If you want to behave as if you are married, then get married. It makes a lot more sense that going to a solicitor to draw up a bespoke contract, when there is one already made.

As for the term partner, I hate when people refer to my husband as my partner, or refer to me as Mizzzz. Ugh!

As for unmarried, co-habitees, I think 'companion' is a much nicer word than 'partner'.

i am a ms and i have a partner
and we went to solicitor to protect our children,assets,individual accounts,and property

and actually i agree if you want married rights get married

A registry office ceremony and marriage certificate (in England) is £43.50. I suspect your solicitor bill was higher, SM?

All you need to do for a civil marriage is drum up a couple of witnesses. There is no need to have invitations, flowers, special clothes, special meals - or to call yourself Mrs Hisname afterwards.

it most certainly was!i dont want to be married so lame comparison

I'm currently engaged, with no immediate plans to marry. There are other more important things for the money to go on. So I call my fiance my partner, and yes, we live together and I don't see how can be seen as any less comitted to each other just because we don't own a piece of paper saying so

Your 'piece of paper' would cost a humungous £43.50. How much was your ring?

'I don't want to be married so lame comparison'

However you have sorted yourself exactly like that of a married person... without the label, no?

Apart from it would be quicker to break up (not a good thing in my opinion as it gives you less insentive to try and sort out your relationship) (and the 'you' I refer to is a general 'you', not directed at anyone)

"Your 'piece of paper' would cost a humungous £43.50. How much was your ring?"

Much much less.

If you had some sort of complicated solicitor agreement, and you broke up, would you need another complicated solicitor agreement to alter some of the agreements?

marantha some of us have nothing to 'prove' to society

I used to call DH my man, my chap, my trained monkey... Partner just makes me think of couples who wear crocs and fleeces. Just go all out and call him your lover! To the mayor!
(Our ex-mayor was caught cottaging in the park loos a few years back... Ooh the scandal)

It's not the money. I just don't want to be married! I've explained why at some legnth. Why should I get married if I don't want to? I am happy to put in place all the legal arrangements to protect my children and me if anything disastrous happens. There are people on here who think that i should get married because somehow it's good for society if I do. I think it's good for children and terefore for society if people can be in long term monogamous relationships. However, I really don't see why that relationship should be accompanied by a certificate!

i never liked Mrs. Sounds so 'staid'

other half is just the worst in my opinion

i have always liked her indoors

me too

Is that not a reference to the wife who is inside being the housewife type bit (because of course, where else would a wife be??)

Doesn't that kinda go against your morals?

i don't think there is a [face] for my current emotion

del trotter fools & horses UK gold.v funny

I was married.
Got divorced.

Never ever want to divorce again.

So can't marry