to think that when you say " a plain cheese and tomato pizza for fussy kids"

[DanDruff]

you mean not one with REAL tomatoes and green stuff on it?

arf i know i ABU really - but if you knew the kid was fussy would you go green?

its true, surely you knew what it would turn into... and this IS aibu

I'm a fussy eater - or rather discerning .

As long as a person isn't rude - I don't have any problem with them not eating something.

Wasn't there some research that showed that some people have more taste buds on their tongues than others - hence food tasted more extreme to them? How unscientific does that sound.

Smugness about having unfussy children is dull though. Am sure the majority of parents on here have tried introducing different foods but I know I've got bored of throwing uneaten food away.

Also if you have a very slim child you do get a little less complacent about them not eating meals.

I was a fussy eater. The memories of being sat at friends' dinner tables being forced to choke down things I hated still haunted me. this was not a behaviourial thing - the stuff just tasted bloody vile.

fussy eaters are therefore pandered to chez farquhar. although I am blessed with a salt and pepper squid eating, waitress impressing, mini gourmande myself.

you asked for a cheese and tomato pizza - that's what you got!

For the first time ever, I'm replying 'You are being unreasonable'

Riven, you seem to be implying that it's OK to be a fussy eater if you have Aspergers but otherwise it's the parents' fault? Lots of children have sensory issues, even if they don't have an SN dx. I think there is probably a "spectrum of fussiness" and there are certain children at the extreme end of that who can be fed all the boeuf bourguignon in the world as babies and will still end up eating plastic cheese on cardboard.

"Clumsymum, just out of interest, how old is your DS, and do you have any other children?"

DS is 10, and no I don't have other children. I was, however a bit of a fussy eater myself as a child. Mainly because I spent a lot of time in hospital as a very young child, fed/weaned on VILE 1960's hospital food, and then a little bit spoilt by my Mum, who was trying to make up for all that.

However, I can remember going to other peoples houses for tea aged 8 or 9, and ALWAYS trying to eat what I was given, because I knew it was rude not to. Even if I only ate a small portion, then said "I'm sorry, I'm full up", it was better than making a fuss about what I was served. TBH I often found new things I liked that way anyway.

I do think children should be allowed to have likes or dislikes, and I have never forced DS to eat things he really doesn't like, as long as he gives them a proper try. He also has to be reasonable. If you like the tomato stuff on the bottom of a pizza, it's unreasonable to complain about 'real' tomato on the top.

I did used to get a annoyed about my step-kids (now grown up), who both refused to try any sort of cheese at all "Noooo, don't like cheese" but would munch down pizza or cheeseburger.
I tried to explain that all cheeses taste different, but they would have no truck with it at all.

Yes some kids like a wider range of tastes than others, but I do think some of that is taught, and those who don't like many things can at least be taught to be reasonable in their reactions to foods they don't fancy.

A very fussy eater, I was sent to stay with a strict aunt who was astounded at my terrible eating habits (marmite toast/sandwiches only) and made it clear to my mother I had been a difficult guest (even though I brought my own marmite sandwiches.) Her three would eat anything of course as they had been 'properly brought up'.

How we all laughed when Cousin No 4 arrived and was the fussiest little madam in the world (and still is, grown-up.) All the usual techniques that had worked so well with Cousins 1-3 were tried, to no avail - the small, mutinous lip stayed firmly zipped. Auntie still apologises to me for this now - 'I never realised till I had one of my own...' as they do.

Too late, Auntie! I am scarred for life having been made to eat those boiled carrots. (I quite like cooked carrots now... but only cut in strips - never discs. They taste different in discs. Yes they do.)

I am a super taster and can't bear the taste if certain food - sadly it all grown-ups type of food- prawns, spinach, strong coffee, alcohol etc. SO I have some sympathy.

But to go back the the poster early on who had to pick off parsley from the plain pasta. Who puts raw parsley on plain pasta? Sounds revolting. I don;t understand the need we have to indiscriminately sprinkle raw parsley around as a garnish. Yuk.

dandruff as another parent to a fussy eater I feel your pizza related pain, but have to say YABU a little, as those fortunate enough not to have a fussy eater just wouldn't realise that plain pizza means no evidence of whole tomato etc.

Am I the only person with a DD who eats anything and a supremely fussy MiL?

We had a great moment over the summer when MiL was turning pale green at the thought of eating cold tomato soup with leaves and chili in, and DD cheerfully passed her plate for third helpings, saying "please may I have a little more gazpacho?"

(We do try to cater to MiL when we can, as I think she has an eating disorder of some kind. The gazpacho was a guess that backfired.)

DH was brought up by MiL to believe that pizza was horrible, pasta was horrible, fish was horrible, most meat was horrible, rice was horrible, most vegetables were horrible... He said that he first ate all these things at friends' houses, with mum's who insisted that you ate what was on the plate, and was amazed to discover that actually they were quite nice!

Blimey GM, that must be a trial. What did your MiL actually feed your DH on? There are foods I don't like, but ensure that DS gets an opportunity to try them and decide for himself. We have a list of things that DH & DS will have for dinner on those rare occasions when I'm not here.

I did once meet a bloke via work who, despite being in mid-20's, would only eat crisps or beans on toast.
I was running a week long training course he attended, and I had to send out for crisps each lunchtime, as he wouldn't touch the buffet.

Grendel - couldn't you have heated it up and called it "tomato soup"?

Meant to say, BTW the guy who would only eat crisps or beans on toast was the most pastie looking individual I ever met. Yellowish complection, greasy hair, stick thin. Best advert for a balanced diet I've ever seen.....