to think that when you say " a plain cheese and tomato pizza for fussy kids"

[DanDruff]

you mean not one with REAL tomatoes and green stuff on it?

arf i know i ABU really - but if you knew the kid was fussy would you go green?

Works for me always never had a single complaint.

I often get requests though. Especially for my coffee beef.

I was taught that if someone has gone to the trouble of preparing food for you, you damn well choke it down (even if vile) and smile and say thank you.

"The kids are usually big lumps as well, missing a dinner isn't going to hurt them, it might even do them good."

• so large child=eats too much then??

....and yet the unfussy members of the DanDruff family, who will happily eat all manner of delicious fare, get fed gravel.

The woman is MAD.

no I would never complain either- that's just blooody rude.

But if you knew that someone genuinely didn't like a particular food item you'd still serve it up to them regardless?? I'd find THAT rude.

I am confused. When arranging a dinner party I check with guests for any allergies. Then I cook what I am going to cook.

Would never in a million years tell my host that there was something I didn't like (and have never been asked nor asked anyone else).

Same goes for kids. I check for allergies, take those into account and any visiting kids can eat or not as is their wish.

YANBU because a margarita pizza is what you expected and you got one with tomatoes on,.

always In the adult world we don't bleat to our hosts "buu-uuut I don't like beetroot". We smile graciously, push it to the side of our plate and exlaim "This is simply marvellous, you must give me the recipe for this goat's cheese/monkfish/toffee dream". Then go home via the Driv-Thru.

The tomato sauce on the base has tinned tomatoes, basil, garlic and oil.....nothing else.

i think if you are inviting a child to lunch you want them to a) have a nice time and b) not be bouncing off the walls with hunger because they didn't want to eat the food

so it's worth at least attempting to provide something you know they will eat

I would be hacked off [again] at the fussiness of my children. Not at the real tomato and green stuff or the person who produced it.
I have picked lots of real tomato off pizza and heard a million times 'what is this green stuff?'
Sigh

lol skihorse

It wouldn't even cross my mind to not put herbs on a pizza base - that's how they're meant to be made. Thank the Lord I don't know any fussy children. (and picking bits of herb off plain pasta - wtf?).

OBVIOUSLY they were scrimping on the cheese thus making [usually well hidden] herbage visible.

I have no reasonable explanation for the presence of real tomatoes - they could have at least hand skinned them fgs.

My dcs are not fussy however some children are and if I was having a child for tea I would go proper bland....(said with Indian accent)....no herbs and little flavour.

I have this with my kids.

They love pizza, but if it comes with visible tomatoes pieces on they recoil in horror.

luckily pizza express don't do this.

But there are 1001 ways for kids to fussy so hard to anticipate others kids fussiness.
(I do think tomatoes seems a common one though, and 'sauce' on things-put suace on side for kids I say)

Spaghetti and meatballs in a tomato sauce is what kids get here for visits. With ice cream after (vanilla, chocolate or strawberry [with sprinkles of course]). There is water or milk for drinks.

They usually wolf it down and then go and bounce off the walls anyway. Or they are already too bouncy and unable to sit still long enough to eat, both is fine.

The kids I know are all well nourished and unlikely to suffer from missing the occasional meal through choice.

one of my friends doesn't lime mushrooms, in any shape or form. On the odd occasion she's been here for dinner I make damn sure I don't cook with mushrooms. It's not exactly hard, there's are 1000 other things that can be used.

My mum used to entertain regularly, full on 3 course meals, with every ingredient under the sun (I still vividly remember eing served up nettle soup and salad with various flowers on it ). She always checked (in advance) not only for allergies, but if there were any foods that they really didn't like as well.

I'd love to know how you're "no nonsense" approach would have worked with my self starving DS1 as a toddler.

However - in the case of the OP then yes I think she's BU about expecting a cheese and tomato pizza not to have cheese and tomato on it.

It may well not have. But in our house we do it this way and my kid(s) know that they eat or they go hungry.

As I said I simply can't believe that an animal (and humans are still animals) would willingly starve itself in the presence of food unless there was something very wrong with that animal.

This is another of those topics that just go round and round.

I agree that adults do have preferences, a friend that hates fish, one that's always dieting, another that's a vegetarian.... all get catered for here!

I have stopped justifying myself to those with non-fussy eaters.

I just get on with making sure DS doesn't starve.

Everybody knows that Fussy Kid Pizza is tomato glurpo topped with yellow melted glurpo. Nothing else. T'was always thus.

My brother wouldn't eat as a child either. My mum was told a child will never starve themselves and they were right. He didn't eat solid food for ages but he survived. He lived on liquids - anything from normal drinks, to milk, to smoothies and milkshakes, to yoghurt and ice cream and sometimes soup.

I'm a fussy eater. I get annoyed when I order a steak pie in a pub and when I start eating it, its got mushrooms in it too. If they meant steak and mushroom , why not say steak and mushroom. Sorry, rant over...

They probably thought - 'Jesus! Poor fucker only wants a cheese and tomato pizza. Yuk! Well, let's at least try and make it the best possible cheese and tomato pizza.'

I'd be if a cheese and tomato didn't have tomatoes on it.

And at someone's house? You/your children certainly shouldn't complain. They're gonna have to "cope" with green stuff eventually.

YABU.