to feel a bit stressed and depressed about other people's decisions?

[MitchyInge]

Maybe I am slightly miserable at the moment in general but I feel v anxious about things that are None of My Business, actions other people are taking that look doomed. Two examples - friend moving in with abusive partner, other friend moving her horse (who is way too much horse for her) to a yard where she will have less support and he will be kept in and go nuts and probably kill her.

I am being unreasonable aren't I?

I read this as 'other friend moving in with her horse' which would stress me out too! YANBU to feel like this but there is damn all you can do, shows you are a caring person but try not to let other people's stuff get you down.

'moving in with her horse' made me laugh anyway

I don't stress or fret about own life either, except the stuff that matters (but it does have to be pretty much life or death stuff to matter)

worried I am turning into a control freak or something, but they are both situations where you strangely hope to be proved wrong

I know what you mean, dh was glad when I left my job as he felt i took on far too much with other peoples problems. In fact he has expressed concern about me coming on here for the same reasons

No, you are a very caring person, and as such you worry about your friends especially if you can see the folly of their decisions.

Mind you there is nothing you can do apart from point out your concerns for them and hope for the best.

Live and let live..I haven't got the time and energy to spend too much time worrying about anyone else at the moment as got too much stressful stuff going on in my own life. It may be selfish but I can only deal with so much.

(I feel much less anxious about these things now I have found my lost chicken )

maybe you feel this way because its inevitable that you are going to have to be the one who picks up the pieces when it all goes wrong?