to not want my nanny to eat a whole box of chocolates in my fridge?

[PanicMode]

I have had a box of Guylian chocolates (not that it's particularly relevant) in my fridge for a couple of weeks, and my brother was here yesterday, so went to open the box - to find that all bar 8 of them had been eaten. I immediately accused my husband, as he is known to be a bit of a secret treat eater, but he absolutely swears blind that he only had 2.

She's also finished two enormous bags of crisps this week and most of a packet of biscuits. I don't begrudge feeding her breakfast and lunch as her contract states, but is it unreasonable of me to expect her NOT to eat my 'treats'?!

PS. I am sure it says on the box those chocs should be eaten in one sitting??

We went over to another couple's house for dinner. There was a third couple there too. The host husband was cooking. We all had a chocolate as we chatted and when he came out of the kitchen we offered him one too.
He threw the box across the room, screamed "I can't believe you've opened and eaten some of the chocolates I got for my birthday!" and ran off to his bedroom and wouldn't come out.

They were those Lindt Lindors. Heaven knows what mayhem and violence may have occurred if they were Godivas.

That's so funny.

So where are we then? Trust the nanny with the children but not the chocolates?

jenbot that is 100% acceptable as they were lindt lindor ones!

Also, 100% highly amusing!

Lindt Lindor are just chocolate flavoured balls of margerine...the man needed to get a grip.

Lynette - I never knew I liked margarine so much then!

Lindt Lindors are yum. I'll have yours

Chocolates in the fridge? In November?? Now that is worrying.

I'm going to put my head above the parapet, as a former nanny employer and say that YANBU. Live-out nannies get their meals provided by their employers but not snacks (crisps, chocolates). I haven't had a nanny who would think it appropriate. Parly because it's not the type of food I'd like the kids to eat so I wouldn't want their carer eating it in front of them.
Live-in nannies/au pairs would be another matter since they tend to have all food provided, so I would expect to have to point out that a box of chocs wasn't for general consumption in that case.
(Also don't understand why choc in the fridge - shudder)
(And for the nanny employer/nanny mass comparison I have had nannies both smaller and larger than me )

nighbynight I love the idea of "private" chocolate and LOL at your last paragraph.

I do a job share and my "other half" had a box of chocs (that she got for her birthday) in the desk for about a month. It was killing me but I didn't eat one. Even though I knew she wouldn't mind I still had to stop myself because if I had one I would have had 14. If they had been Lindt Lindor I think they may not have survived. God I wonder if they're still there, I haven't looked in the bottom drawer for a couple of weeks now.

I would fire her immediatley on the grounds that she has appalling taste and clearly cannot be left in charge of your children.

Because everyone knows that Guylian are wank

On a more serious note, this sounds a little bit 'bingey' is there a possibilty that she is comfort eating so possibly stressing about something?

I mean a whole box of Guylian?

in two weeks?? hardly binging!

Chocoalte just HAS to be kept in the fridge. It is disgusting if it is room temperature and melty!

But it melts when you put it in your mouth which is lovely. Keeping it at room temp vital

Lindt lindors are yummy though.

Maybe you need to be like the smug Galaxy ad woman and hide them?

She probably saw the box of cheap nasty chocs in your fridge and assumed they were a gift from someone with no taste and decided to take them off your hands. If she'd snaffled a box of Hotel Chocolat truffles I would be miffed, but Guylian are right up there with Ferrero Rocher in the naff chocolate stakes.

FWIW, I only put chocolate in the fridge to stop me from eating it because it doesn't taste at all good when it's cold.

I am thrilled to have a thread with over a hundred responses - usually I only get about 4!

As I said somewhere in the thread, I was posting rather tongue in cheek because obviously, in the grand scheme of things, a box of (cheap) chocolates is not worth worrying over.

However, I think that the reason I was feeling a bit miffed was not in the least related to the brand of chocolates - but the principle. Helping herself to most of the box in one sitting is (IMO) beyond my providing her with two "meals" a day as part of her contract, and I was annoyed that she hadn't said anything to me (which she sometimes does) so that when I came to open them so as to be polite and be able to offer something to my brother with his coffee after dinner, it looked a bit pathetic! (I didn't at the time have anything better in the house because we don't tend to eat a lot of chocolate/cakes/biscuits etc and I hardly ever buy chocolates for myself/the cupboard (or fridge)!

It's also raised some issues as to what I'm actually paying her for if she's sitting around eating boxes of chocolates in one sitting - but that's probably a whole other AIBU thread (which will no doubt lead to people cracking themselves up with their wit over how "one can't get the staff these days".....!

Oh, and thank you to millarkie for putting your head above the parapet and understanding where I was coming from!

YANBU I would not expect a nanny to help themselves to chocolates in the fridge unless I had specifically said help yourself to anything you find! I would on the other hand provide some kind of snack (like biscuits) for her because its a nice thing to do. Saying that my employers don't give me biscuits or chocolate, in fact it's hard enough getting them to buy teabags.

There is simply one solution to this. But chocolates with chili in and sit back to wait for the fireworks.