AIBU to think that a 2 YO is not going to be massively traumatised by spending the night in a hotel??

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I know it's not the done thing to start a thread about a thread but this was a side issue and it was one that I found a bit surprising.

Lots of people on the other thread said that they thought that for a 2 year old to spend the night in a hotel would be very disruptive. AIBU to think this a bit PFB?
How on earth do you go on holiday? Or do you accept that the first 3 or 4 days will be hell with your disrupted toddlers and you only have fun in the last few days?

I await your exocets

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YABVU. The thread is not about a 2 year old spenfinf a night in a hotel but spending several nights in different hotels every weekend which was veyr unsettling.

My PFB DS regually spent nights in hotels from 8 months until 6 and he survived!

sorry about dodgy spelling

'Disturbed' 'confused' 'unsettled' is what people actually said.

Okay - traumatised is possibly over-egging the pudding but the general POV is that it is an upsetting thing for a 2 YO to be in any way diverted from their normal bedtime routine in their own home.

I think you have to understand the context of the rest of the thread. Its not really about the hotel room is it?

No it wasn't susie! It was a different hotel every time the ex came to visit. Anyway, how many hotels can one person possibly stay in over the course of two nights???!

Anyway I really don't want to make this about that thread. My DS stays with me, at his gran's, at my sister's, anywhere really. He doesn't particularly care. As long as his loving parent is there, that's all he cares about. He doesn't mind about strange coloured pillow cases or unfamiliar bathrooms.

can you link to the original pls?

I don't really see the issue

Honestly I really, really don't want to link to the original thread because that isn't the point of this one. Truly.

It was the fact that a load of people said that it would be disturbing/confusing/unsettling for a 2YO to spend the night in a hotel. Or possibly two nights.

And that's a bit nuts isn't it?

No idea about other thread, but in response to your OP: YANBU

DS (18months) have spent countless nights in hotel rooms, and he's one of the happiest little boys I know. I think if they get used to being mobile from an early stage, they see it as natural and will fall asleep in various locations.

We take the same "actions" though - e.g. feeding, singing/humming same song, etc.

Whilst I agree that babies, toddlers and children are fine in hotels for holidays, I would still prefer not to stay in a hotel generally (although make exception with regards Disney hotel.)

But I felt like that before I had children too. We like the independence of having a villa or apartment, doing our own thing, having our own pool, etc.

With a child I think a villa makes even more sense - for reasons above, also you can put child to bed and sit outside with a drink (can't do this in hotel unless you have a suite or a big enough balcony), you can eat in every so often, you have more space, etc.

We did have a hotel for a two week holiday when DD was 16 months and it was fine. But I do prefer villas.

DD is 7y now and loves having the odd night or so in a hotel

Fortunately DD has never needed a set routine and we have been relaxed about late nights, her being asleep in a buggy, etc. But I still like to make life a bit easier for ourselves.

That is great about your DS but my DD would struggle.

My DS thinks that hotels are the best thing ever, and has never been disturbed by staying in them.

But I can see that maybe a parent that they don't live with appearing and taking them to stay with them might be more of an issue tbh

fivegomad. Do you go on hols? How do you cope?

(incidentally I should caveat all this by explaining that my DS is a frankly woeful sleeper and a night where he doesn't wake is a bloody miracle, whether he's sleeping in his bed, mine or by the side of the M1)

My dd is fine in a hotel as a one off.

I however find it a nightmare as you are then stuck there and can't have dinner other than room service.

No where for her to run amok really.

Much prefer a villa or staying with friends.

Without dwelling too much on the other thread I don't think I would be happy with DD spending every weekend in a hotel room when she could be in her own bed with her own toys and things and therefore find the separation from her father every SUnday hopefully slightly less distressing.

We do go once a year but we do struggle with her, I do suspect she may have very mild autism or OCD.

what a ridiculous thread

it is totally out of context with the original, which like you say, is bad form to refer to anyways

you cannot compare a family holiday in a hotel (where presumably everybody is happy and together) to the circs described over there

YABU for posting this nonsense in the 1st place

Why not? That was considered to be the major trauma after all. It was all about the hotel. So if it wasn't actually about the hotel, what was it about?

yes, it was about the hotel (partly)

but you cannot compare the two, its not a level playing field is it ?

It would depend on the reason. A night in a hotel would be fine and we did spend the odd night in a hotel at that age and younger. However if I was booking a holiday and wanted a relaxing break I wouldn't choose a hotel as ds would have been crawling the walls after a couple of days.

I would get them used to staying in lots of different places from a very early age and then you can be adaptable.It never occurred to me that it would be disruptive-security comes from the people not the place.

I disagree AnyFucker. Either the DD in that thread was traumatised by staying in a hotel or she wasn't. If it wasn't about that, then why was that given as the main reason for it being disruptive?

sm, the dd was upset (who said "traumatised ????) by her daddy leaving her

I felt that this was exacerbated by the fact that when he did see her it was in a series of different hotel rooms

the Op was suggesting that her ex put their dd to bed in her own room and was offering this as a compromise

hotel rooms in themselves are not upsetting

can you not see that ?

thread about a thread?

My ds finds staying in hotel films very unsettling BTW - he's 11.