AIBU to think that a 2 YO is not going to be massively traumatised by spending the night in a hotel??

[spicemonster]

I know it's not the done thing to start a thread about a thread but this was a side issue and it was one that I found a bit surprising.

Lots of people on the other thread said that they thought that for a 2 year old to spend the night in a hotel would be very disruptive. AIBU to think this a bit PFB?
How on earth do you go on holiday? Or do you accept that the first 3 or 4 days will be hell with your disrupted toddlers and you only have fun in the last few days?

I await your exocets

spice, come on, this is stirring. A family holiday in a hotel is a very different thing from the scenario in that thread. It is very disruptive for a 2yo to be spending every or every other weekend in a series of different places (happens to be hotels in the thread you mention) away from her primary carer.

thanks edam, I was seriously considering I might be better off talking to the wall {grin]

All in all it's just
another brick in the wall

I really didn't want to make this thread about that thread because actually I think this is about a much bigger issue. It's about the rights of non-resident parents to spend time with their children overnight.

And yes it is disruptive. But then moving your child 300 miles away is also disruptive.

If your relationship breaks down and you are the primary carer then I think you owe it to your DC to allow them to spend time overnight with their non-resident parent. I thought the dad in this particular case was making a huge amount of effort to see his DD. And a load of people giving him grief for having the audacity to want to stay in a hotel rather than at his ex's house was frankly astounding.

Is this thread about a thread day?

Can't you just get your feelings across on the other thread??

This is just rude imo.

you didn't want to make this thread about that thread ?

you ikkle fibber

I really didn't. I wanted to talk about the hotel thing because I thought it was a bit odd. And a bit of weird excuse.

But never mind

yeh, never mind

< shrugs >

although, I will admit to having a little extra knowledge (if you will) on that thread because I was a prolific poster on her old thread where the dp was an absolute twat to her

hence, the move to be with family/friends

she didn't elaborate about that

but it was a huuuge factor

Doesn't it depend on the child? Ds has always been adaptable to sleeping in different places, meals at different times because he has been raised like that. If you have a child who is set in very fixed routines I imagine they would find it hard to adapt.

[I have no idea what other thread you're referring to].

I didn't know about the history AnyFucker so I was just reading it at face value. I dunno - it's really hard because sometimes the background stuff is massively relevant and sometimes it only serves to colour judgement. And tbh I have no idea whether it's the former or the latter in this case.

I am lucky in that my DS has no dad so it's not a situation I'm ever going to have to deal with.

yes sm, I think wtw didn't post too much background in order not to influence posters

so in some ways, has to accept that people may think she is BU

IMO, that was a mistake, because in life, there are always reasons why we do what we do

out of interest..."no dad" for your ds...he has died ? or is not in your life ?

Haven't read the other thread ... but dd would be fine going to bed at 2 in a random hotel room. Ds had his first night in a hotel at about 2 and it was hideous. Took him hours of screaming to settle, followed by multiple waking in the night and more screaming... hellish.

Combining hotels and small children is not my idea of a good holiday...

So personally, even without any added complications, I think some 2 yos don't cope well in hotels.

I meant mtw, sorry

I'm a single parent by choice AF - had DUI. I feel a bit of a cow now - had no idea there was loads of other stuff

I see spice

moo lol

spice, go back and check the other thread

it will make you feel really bad lol

Hey Spice, why don't you come onto my orginal post and say what you have got to say there.... ? Such poor taste to do what you have done? Can someone tell me where I have mentioned traumatised??

I came on for advice not for your sarcasm, which makes me sad from a MN'ers point of view Its not just about the hotel room its about her being upset which I have admitted that it maybe her just missing her Daddy in general. He is so disorganised in booking rooms, he stays in any old room he can get in our area, so its not like she is going on holiday?

Anyfucker - Your fantastic thank you xx

I feel terrible now and wish I'd never started this.

Spice - its in Relationships if your interested?

I'm really sorry mummytowillow. It really wasn't about you and your situation. It was about staying in hotel rooms. It was meant to be light hearted but it was really thoughtless of me.

I'm sorry you've had a rough time and I'm sorry if this thread has made you feel even worse. I don't know if I can ask for it to be deleted but I'll try.

Hope you find a way through everything.

aww mtw, thanks

kudos to you for taking the comments on your thread on board

you have reconsidered your stance in the light of them, what more can you do ??

your ex-p has to make compromises too...

to be fair though, I think maybe spice has logged off for tonight ?

but I bet you get an apology tomorrow ???

she is a good egg I think

< accepts that was very patronising to spicemonster >

ah, cross posted

see lol

aww {smile]

Thanks for the apology Spice, I'll get over it!! x