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To want to strangle people that keep asking me "Is the baby here yet?!"

86 replies

ErikaMaye · 05/11/2009 11:10

AHHHH

Its driving me absolutely bonkers. I know I should be greatful that people care etc, but UGH. One friend is texting me EVERY DAY to ask if I'm having contractions. Surely people realise that I will actually let them know when he arrives??

Admittedly I might just be very very hormonal right now, but am only 38+3, and all I keep thinking is that I could possibly have three weeks plus of this!!

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StealthPolarBear · 05/11/2009 11:10

yanbu

StealthPolarBear · 05/11/2009 11:10

but have to admit i do it, not every day though

susiey · 05/11/2009 11:11

yanbu
no way 38 weeks I would stop answerting the texts put the wind up her a bit

VinegarTitsOnFire · 05/11/2009 11:12

YANBU

Any twinges yet?

ErikaMaye · 05/11/2009 11:13

I tried not replying - she text our mutural friends who then bombared me with messages of, "OMG are you in labour?!" and "Hope he arrives quickly!" etc

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StealthPolarBear · 05/11/2009 11:14

oh no, worst thing you can do is not reply!

ErikaMaye · 05/11/2009 11:16

Bog off Vinegar

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TigerFeet · 05/11/2009 11:16

I always felt like saying "oh yes, she was born last week, we knew we'd forgotten to tell someone"

but I bit my tongue

esp with MIL who was the worst offender

piprabbit · 05/11/2009 11:17

Send her a text saying, 'ErikaMaye will be issuing a statement at the appropriate time, until then she has no comment to make'.

Resend text every time she asks, or at least daily.

pixiestix · 05/11/2009 11:17

Have you not had that baby yet Erika?

Just text back the single word "NO" every time she contacts you, and she might get bored?

ErikaMaye · 05/11/2009 11:20

Ah I feel so much better getting that off my cheast I might have to use several of these suggestions...

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DiamondHead · 05/11/2009 11:22

YANBU.
Why would you even want to discuss early labour signs with this person. Has she had children herself.

KimiTheThreadSlayingRocket · 05/11/2009 11:24

Erika have you had the baby yet??
Is Colin here?
Whats taking so long
/Pokes Erikas tummy

ErikaMaye · 05/11/2009 11:25

No she hasn't. Don't get me wrong, I love her to pieces. Its just bugging me! She's text me just now saying "Remember - if you're having twinges, go to Boots; free stuff!! Hehe!!" She means well, but with her asking me every day and everyone else texting every few days... Its enough to make me want to disconnect every form of technology and burry my head in a pillow for the next however many weeks!!!

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MmeGuisingt · 05/11/2009 11:25

Never ever tell people your true due date. Lie and tell them you have another 4 weeks to go.

Sorry, too late for you ErikaMae. I would tempted to go with the "oh, had the baby a week ago, did I forget to tell you" line.

Or text back, "leave me alone or I will go on Birth Strike"

slushy06 · 05/11/2009 11:27

I had this from MIL and I went 10 days over by which time they were calling twice shown no interest through the rest of the pg though which really bugged me.

I ended up hiding in the bathroom when I was in full blown labor so dp could tell her at her usual 9pm call that there was no sign yet . I did that because I felt hounded and just wanted some peace and quiet.

ErikaMaye · 05/11/2009 11:33

I am not telling DPs mum I'm in labour until after the baby has arrived

@ Birth Strike!

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Trikken · 05/11/2009 11:36

YANBU at all!! A thousand percent agree.

unplugs the phone, switches off mobile, sticks head under duvet.

KimiTheThreadSlayingRocket · 05/11/2009 11:38

YOU ARE BEING UNREASONABLE JUST HAVE THE BL**DY BABY ALREADY

You know I loves ya really

TootaLaFruit · 05/11/2009 11:39

I made the mistake of texting all my friends the moment I went into labour - with no idea that it would take 36 blardy hours to actually arrive. I had constant, hourly texts for the next 2 days "ooh, have you had it yet?", "text me AS SOON as you have", "what's taking so long?" etc etc.
This time round I'm keeping shtum until the baby's here

ErikaMaye · 05/11/2009 12:11

Kimi don't make me wheel you over.

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LadyOfTheFlowers · 05/11/2009 12:19

I learned my lesson the last 3 times!

This time I have added 2 weeks on to delivery date. Ha!

Last time DHs gramp called every day near the end to ask, eventually on day 4 overdue, I grabbed the phone off him.... 'Clearly not Ralph, seeing as you have rung us on the home phone!'

GlendaTheGrizzlyPiggy · 05/11/2009 12:37

I know how you feel, this drove me mental. I had my mum, MIL, two close friends, DPs brother & my sister texting me daily (mostly more than once) for a month!

I was 15 days overdue when DS was born & thanks to g&a sending me a bit loopy when MIL rang after 5 hours in labour I screamed "I'm working on it ok? Now F*CK OFF!"

stickylittlefingers · 05/11/2009 12:43

It drove me mad too!

"oh yes, thanks for reminding me, I knew there was something I meant to do today. Got to feed the fish first but I'll do it right after"

But nice they're interested.

ErikaMaye · 05/11/2009 12:56

Glenda That really has me giggling.

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