MIL interfering over having DD babysat on holiday

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Name changed for this in case I get a pasting but don't really see why I should.

We are planning to go to Thailand next month with DD who will be 4.5 months old.

DH and I have agreed that whilst at the hotel complex we will leave DD with a hotel babysitter for four or five nights so we can go out and have some nice childfree nights.

We will only be a taxi ride away and will have mobiles.

DH has told MIL (although I wouldn't have bothered myself as don't consider it her business). She is worried as DD won't know the babysitter or the customs there.

I'm not worried at all as have been to Thailand a lot and the Thai people are great with kids.

Just wondered if IABU for being peeved that MIL is sticking her oar in.

I left my 7 year old ds with an American girl from the kids club one evening while we were in Thailand. We had got to know her over the 3 weeks we were there, she seemed lovely but in hindsight she could easily not have been. This was 15 years ago and I still feel guilty! Having said that, he still remembers a fun night of board games and even remembers her name!
Every single Thai person we met was charming with him but if I had it to do over again,I wouldn't. I remember an evening of unease which ended early rather than a fab night out.

When I say girl... she ran the kids club at the hotel and was about 25.

So when are you off on your hols then OP?

And I thought I was bad enough for even considering leaving 5m DD in local hotel room with monitor and regular checking while we had a meal there....glad I decided against it.

You are mad, basically. And who goes on holiday to Thailand with a 4.5m old?? . It was a military operation when we went to Ireland when DD was 4m.

I'm planning to take mine away, probably to Thailand too, and will leave him with a sitter while I'm there.

So I don't think YABU to do it.

But I do think she has the right to express her opinion. From what you posted she has just said it, not gone banging on and on and on about it.

In which case YABU about her saying something once.

Have a good holiday!

I wouldn't.

I'm pretty chilled with the whole 'dc asleep in hotel room, dh & I at function downstairs, check on dc every 30 minutes' routine, & I know I'm in a minority on here on that one.

However, I wouldn't go 'off site' leaving such a young baby with a sitter unless I'd satisfied myself completely as to how that sitter was registered/monitored & what they'd do in the event of a problem. I'd be confident in using sitters.co.uk in the UK. I can't see that being the case with a babysitter who's probably a random member of hotel staff.

Also, as others have pointed out, it's not necessary. Babies that young don't need to be settled for the night - her routines will be all to cock anyway - put her in a pushchair & take her to the restaurant with you!

Oh hang on...got sidetracked!

Re: the MIL, I do think she has a point.

Yes, you can tell her to butt out, but it's not like she's twitting you about dummies or boys with long hair or something equally trivial - she thinks you're running a major & completely unnecessary risk, & I imagine it's occurred to her that you might well tell her to STFU, & it could damage her future relationship with her ds, dil & dgc.

I think I'd be inclined to respect her for speaking up - even if I ultimately didn't agree with her.