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to be sad that a couple of my Facebook friends have deleted me for no good reason.

26 replies

pigletmania · 04/11/2009 08:39

Aww the rejection

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diddl · 04/11/2009 08:41

YANBU to be sad, but maybe they feel that they dohave a good reason!

ItsAllaBitNoisy · 04/11/2009 08:41

I deleted a few recently - you weren't my friend were you?

MadreInglese · 04/11/2009 08:41

lol, it's the ultimate modern insult

MadreInglese · 04/11/2009 08:43

are you a spammer?

Farmville
Farmville
Farmville
Farmville
Farmville
Farmville
Farmville
Farmville

I would delete you then

pigletmania · 04/11/2009 08:43

i dont know Itsallabitnoisy, its not like we had any arguments or fights, mabey they were deleting people that they dont communicate much with anymore and scaling down their friends list

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pigletmania · 04/11/2009 08:45

no I hate those stupid requests that people send to you, i just go in there have a look at what everbody is doing, send a few messages to people and look at photos. Oooh that Farmville, Mobwars so annoying

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ItsAllaBitNoisy · 04/11/2009 08:58

You can hide Farmville and any other annoying ones.

thesecondcocking · 04/11/2009 09:03

if you do bejewelled,farmsville,god damned mother fucking quizzes or post updates about your bleeding kids then i'd delete you too- here are some examples of my own bugbears..

'moomoo just cut a tooth so proud of my beautiful clever boy'
'hattie has a temp of 49.6 deg-had no sleep,need to have a shower and go to supermarket' (not really interesting is it?)
i quite like the pass agg ones-
'X wonders why SOME PEOPLE find it necessary to ruin OTHER PEOPLES day'
and text speak,sweet christ-any 'lols' or GR8 and i am sooooo unfriending!

HTH!

wannaBe · 04/11/2009 09:20

but were they real friends?

Or were they just names on a contact list in order to boost your perceived popularity.

Some of my facebook "friends" have over 600 friends.

I only have 59 friends and I need to go on a deleting spree. But then will people get offended?

BecauseImWorthIt · 04/11/2009 09:24

I have loads of MNetters as my 'friends' - some of whom I have no idea who they are, as they use RL or different names from the ones they use on MN.

Some I have got to 'know' a little, others just stay on my friends list - but I'll probably cull them at some point. Just don't want to offend anyone!

So unless it was a RL/close friend, I would doubt that the deletion has been a personal one.

posieparker · 04/11/2009 09:24

I deleted some people, apparently, they sent me a I had no idea....I hadn't done it.

pigletmania · 04/11/2009 09:42

No i dont regularly post status updates at all cant sant those mundane ones. No they were not real friends, ones i used to know from school and have not see in about 17 years

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ItsAllaBitNoisy · 04/11/2009 22:59

Don't be sad. Facebook is a PITA.

ThatVikRinA22 · 04/11/2009 23:57

ive got FB, i havnt got a fucking clue who most of my friends are!

dont be offended. i bet i get culled soon too!

VengefulSinner · 05/11/2009 00:20

I recently deleted over 100 'friends' that were all people I had known previously but have no contact with now.

I had the frame of mind, and still do, that Yes, I did know these people. But a long time ago and no contact with them now other than reading each other's status updates vis FB.

Therefore why would I want these people seeing pictures of DS, my current life and knowing what I am doing when they know nothing of me in RL per-se.

Think nothing of it and carry on as usual

ViveLeCliche · 05/11/2009 00:39

Do you actually know specific people have disappeared or have you just noticed your friend total has dropped a few? I ask only because I have a few friends who sometimes disappear and reappear because they suspend their FB account for a few weeks and then reactivate it. So it might not be as personal as it seems...that's what I tell myself anyway...

DandyDazzler · 05/11/2009 00:49

thesecondcocking - unfortunately I've seen all the type of status updates you mentioned.

I had one FB friend (now deleted) who managed to work both lols and passive aggressive digs into her status updates. She was special

Eve4Walle · 05/11/2009 06:00

Someone dropped me last week. I was a bit surprised, but I didn't like her much anyway and she was always a PITA when I knew her at work years ago. She can fark right off!

EyeballsintheSky · 05/11/2009 07:04

I have been deleted by someone I worked with until the summer and who I got on really well with. She hasn't deleted anyone else in the office.

I was also deleted a while back by my current job share and the person who did my maternity cover. Again, no probs that I knew of. I must be horrible

serenity · 05/11/2009 07:40

My facebook figure goes up and down all the time (must be those suspended accounts) but I can never work out who it is that goes, which means it's probably a MN person (I have a few people I know are MNers as they're the only 'random' people I'd have, but I can't remember which MNer they are - and it probably works the other way too)

I reckon that if I can't figure out who's dropped me we can't actually be that close.

KatsMother · 05/11/2009 08:17

Serenity, I tell myself that, but it still makes me sad when it happens. I'm FB friends with a few people I haven't seen since school and although I don't expect we'll ever be proper friends again, I'm reluctant to remove them because I wouldn't want to offend them; it's not that I actively dislike them.

Silly,isn't it? If we as adults can get funny about it, there's no wonder it stirs up all sorts of rubbish between children.

bellissima · 05/11/2009 08:44

I'm on a just never use it, unless I get a message saying someone has sent me a message via it iyswim. Wouldn't notice if anyone deleted me (okay I'm just not branchee/cool whatever the mot du jour is - but anyway is Facebook branchee/cool these days?).

alwayslookingforanswers · 05/11/2009 08:47

Madre - you know that you can hide applicatins from your news feed if there's too many of them

(is happy she no longer sees Mafia wars plastered everywhere )

I was dropped suddenly by a MNer the other day after I pointed out that "HACKER WARNING POST TO ALL YOUR STATUS UPDATES" - was merely a pita and not really helping - she got a bit arsey with me and dropped me.

wannabe - I have 100's of "friends" - majority of them on limited profile (ie they can see sod all about me) for various games I play

Chickenshavenolips · 05/11/2009 08:49

I cull regularly. I add people sometimes just to be nosey, then once I've satisfied my curiosity...cull!

MrsJamin · 05/11/2009 08:49

are you sure they are still on facebook? they may have left altogether?