Hubby put my beautiful pushchair in his manky boot when I specifically asked him not to!

[cancantcan]

Bit of background, I'm VERY careful with my pushchairs, and like them to look nice. about 2 months ago, my husband put a pushchair I had sold in the boot of his car (which is filthy as he carries oil etc around in it) without my knowing, and it ended up with a manky stain on it and I ended up scrubbing it clean at work while waiting for the courier. Needless to say I was NOT impressed and forbade him ever to put my pushchairs in his scabby boot ever again.
Fast forward to today. He forgot to pick pushchair up from my mums when he collected DD yesterday, I forgot tonight, I had arranged to get it tomorrow, but then he got time wrong for a meeting at church and thought he would do me a favour and nip up to get it tonight for me, which I greatly appreciate BUT despite me having specifically asked him to put it in the front of the car which I know is clean, he has ignored me and put it in the boot. I have just paid £80 for a new hood and footmuff from poshbugs (he knows this and knows how much it cost me, and that I have saved my own hard earned cash). He cant understand why I am so pissed off that he ignored me.

am I being unreasonable to be angry at him for risking ruining £80 of covers when I specifically asked him to put the pushchair in the front?

I think this has rather got away from the real question I asked - I definately didnt ask if I was being unreasonable to still have my 3 year old in her pushchair from time to time, I make those sort of decisions on my own as only I am in possession of all of the facts and know my personal situation and my DD best.

Georgimama, before you suggest anyone just go and have another baby, please do remember that not all of us are so fortunate that this is an option, however desperately they want it (and yes I do desperately want it, and no I cant have another)

cancantcan i completely understand as i am the same with my pushchair, why would i want it ruined when it cost nearly £200. Like others have said if you paid that for a pair of shoes that you get mud and dog shit on you would be pissed off if your dh rubbed them in oil.

Also dont worry my ds is 3.3 and still goes in his buggy regularly as hes very lazy and also its a 2.5 mile walk to his nursery and back and its too far for him to walk all that way.

I don't remotely understand pushchair-as-accessory craziness (sorry), but that aside, if you tell your DH that it is important to you and he repeatedly ignores/forgets, then I can understand your irritation.

Wow OP I think you need to chill out and have a good shag to remember whats important in life.

Gosh chill out, for the price of covers you could have bought another pushchair get real!

Also a pushchire is going to get dirty and covered in food, mud etc dont be so anal, you can always wash the covers gosh chill

I feel some sympathy for the OP as I've had some moments of post-baby-craziness: "NOOOOO! Use the ORANGE cup not the BLUE one", "NOOOOO! Don't you dare mix those playdough colours" etc. But the pushchair is probably an inanimate object so on reflection YABU.

Georgimama some NT 3 yo do need pushchairs sometimes. Some 5yo ones do to, like mine. As it would be the social nice norm not to judge a SN child in a pushchair it might be nice to extend the courtesy to a NT child in one too. AS well as their parent.

OP - yanbu to ask your dh to respect the things you care about, and what is essentially your hobby. Although his car may be his passion so he might have felt a litle about putting a pushchair in the front. To you in it is a sparkling chariot, to him it looks a bit festering and could play murder with his upholstery

its a pushchair

Um, you can be NT and have mobility problems...

Cancantcan, I think I love you, you potty loon. Have you thought about using your interest in this subject for setting up a blog or similar for lesser informed?

Being a prammie no different from being an Imelda, IMO, except your obsession makes you money. Bravo.

And yes, some men are crap at remembering stuff that's important to you like this, however, do you think that he was trying to annoy you? Make a point?