To think that if you invite someone over for a 'sleepover' you give them a mattress, some cushions or a lilo to sleep on?

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And not just show them the floor

DS was invited to a friend's house for a sleepover last night. Came back today grumpy and tearful, and it turns out he and the other boy who'd been invited were both told they could put their sleeping bags on the floor of the invitee's bedroom to sleep.
(Child whose house it was slept in his own bed)

He says he was cold, and the floor was hard, and he didn't sleep at all .

He's 9, and not new to sleepovers. But if we have his friends over I aways make sure they have either a futon mattress, a lilo, or at worst, the sofa cushions to sleep on.
I assumed this was the norm?

I'm a bit annoyed that the mum didn't even mention it - I could have easily given him a lilo to take!

summer

Lying awake, cold, for 8 hours doesn't seem much of an adventure...

Of course he'll get over it - has done already. But why make someone so uncomfortable when you don't have to?

Just seems the height of bad manners to me - to invite someone if you can't properly accommodate them?

We are obvously nesh in my house - and you know what? Don't care! We just like a bit of comfort!

we have a pull out under one that pops up to the same height.
they can aslo lie three across liek that

Wasn't particularly thick carpet by the sounds of it - like an IKEA woven mat on a wood floor?

I was brought up to give up my bed to guests at sleepovers and always had the camp bed myself.

It's not the done thing now, and I always think and feel as I do what everyone else does and put the guest in the camp bed (to avoid setting a precedent that other people don't want to follow).

Hulababy - us too!

What does nesh mean?

And I don't think YABU OP. I'd never allow a guest to sleep on the floor. I'd sooner sleep on the floor myself and give them my bed.

I would expect my DS's to sleep on something other than just the floor too.

I would always provide something.

did you never sleep on the floor for a sleep over?

lying awake, cold, for 8 hours - did he have no fun at all?

Just seems a bit ott to get precious about providing pillows for a sleep over and then call the boys parents bad mannered....

but then that is why this is aibu.....

We always offer spare beds, sofa cushions, camping mats etc.

Floors are bloody hard and uncomfortable IMHO

BalloonSlayer I was thinking exactly the same thing. Guests should get the bed or at least be made just as comfortable!

I offer nothing. I loathe the whole concept of sleepovers unless they are to do a dear friend a favour.

I'm sure we always had cushions or something to sleep on, never just a sleeping bag on the floor, and I wouldn't invite someone for a sleepover without being able to provide them with a mattress or cushions etc either.

So no, YANBU! Poor DS

Ikea mat on wood floor sounds horribly hard. Would need at least a camping mat IMO.

Summer - not sure I really understand where you're coming from??

Yes - he enjoyed seeing his friends in the early evening etc, but then the whole thing was spoilt by the 'sleepover' part of it and he came come upset and very, very tired (much more so that from any other sleepover).

It all seems a bit pointless. If I'd known he was going to be shown the floor I'd just have suggested I pick him up instead.

I don't think floors are really the done thing any more, we are all more comfy these days.

YANBU. Folded duvets, sofa cushions - fine. On the floor just isn't. Why are children different to adults? It really gets to me they are treated as lesser beings sometimes. It's not because it's the floor, it's the fact it was cold, hard and uncomfortable. I got 2 double blow up beds in Tesco for £5 each for future friends of DS' crashing here, isn't rocket science.

Hully - especially your guests if they get a nice soft llama to sleep on (as implied earlier).

Surely as a child you had sleepovers and slept in a sleeping bag on the floor? It's hardly roughing it. Softie.

YANBU, the mum should have metioned it so that you could have provided something soft to sleep on, or should have put a duvet or cushions down to soften it, well thats what we used to do.

Grimma - ah, one of the rare people who reads the thread.

When my llamas have sleep overs we provide cashmere blankets and patio heaters.

I think perhaps some children are less bothered by it then? DS is tall, skinny and bony - has no 'padding' as one of my friends calls it .

And no, actually, I never slept on the floor as a child - had camp beds/ sofa cushions etc.

I've always valued a good night's sleep, personally....

Hully - you don't live in a pub by any chance do you? (Went to one recently which had llamas.....)

I try to live in pubs, but they ring bells and mkae me leave. My llamas are allowed to stay thoguh.