Not AIBU, more is it acceptable . . . .

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to smoke in your own house when you have a non-smoking guest?

MN Jury . . . .what's your verdict?

I think if you are a smoker and have non-smoking guests it would be nice if you didn't chain smoke.

I don't ask her not to smoke as she can do what she wants in her own home just as I can tell her to bugger off outside when she comes to MY house.

I don't smoke indoors ever, (I'm a sometimes smoker) regardless of who owns the house, and I would make extra special effort to get completely out of the way of a non-smoker if they were around.

I spent the morning at A & E yesterday with dd1 as she was having an asthma attack - I wish her father and step mother wouldn't have smoked with her around in the house but she had little choice.

Dont go to a house where the person smokes if you don't want to stink of smoke or you get astham - leave them alone and let them smoke if they want to in their own home.

How many times did the aunties friend die VC?

Interesting to ponder what other things you should refrain from doing in your own home due to sensitive guests. Farting? Lugging a big edgar allen into the front room so you don't have to miss a minute of Eastenders if the urge for a big old dump comes upon you? Praying, especially if with ullulation and beating self with stick? Delousing self? Eating McDOnalds in front of hysterical whiny vegetarian?

SGB - not just McDonalds, I think it should be compulsory to eat the most hideous offal you can stomach in front of vegetarians. Then offer to make them a sandwich and use the same knife you've been eating with... [evil face]

It is possible to be really irritated/feel really ill by smoke without being asthmatic. I used to feel very ill at office parties before the smoking ban came in, but I haven't actually got a diagnosis as such.

All the smokers I know don't smoke inside their houses to avoid any passive smoking to their dc.

That said, and even though I am a rabid non smoker myself I still think it's your choice, your house.

They can always meet up with you for a couple of hours somewhere else like a cafe.

No they can't meet up in a cafe - no smoking in cafes and they can't go two hours without a ciggy

If the guest knows that you are a smoker in advance then it is fine. I just wouldn't visit.

"I did this today when a friend came over for coffee - but I did ask if it was ok beforehand"

Sounds perfect. Unless your friend is known to be massively shy and incapable of answering 'actually I'd prefer you didn't' - in which case they should grow some balls.

I went to a friend's house when pg who chain-smoked, we stayed overnight as well and I actually found it quite difficult to breathe after a few hours and felt terrible - I just wrote it off as experience but I wouldn't take DS there now because I felt it was so concentrated.

I don't think it's wrong to smoke in your own home when you have non-smoking visitors but as a non-smoker I would prefer you not to Or at least to smoke next to the back door or something. At the end of the day though if you are a smoker and I know you smoke at home it's my choice to come into the house so I wouldn't be mortally offended