To be angry that DP fed the DC pizza for breakfast?

[LyraSilvertongue]

This morning. We'd run out of milk and bread (my fault, didn't get round to shopping yesterday) so he put a pizza in the oven for them instead.
He sees nothing terribly wrong with it ("it's just bread and tomato and cheese" says he) but my point it it's essentially junk food, laden with salt and fat. Not what a child needs to keep them going through a morning at school.
And we did have bread rolls in the freezer, which can be defrosted in a couple of minutes, and eggs in the fridge.
AIBU or is he?

But why ere you angry? I really don't understand this business of being angry with the other parent when they do things differently.

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More annoyed/irritated than angry Seeker.

When I saw the thread title I thought it was cold pizza from the night before and was ready to jump in with my motto from my student days "cold pizza - breakfast of champions".

Am very impressed that he went to the trouble of cooking them pizza

The reason I would be irritated by Pizza for breakfast, is that if it was in the fridge, it would mean I was planning to serve it for tea that night. If it was in the freezer, it takes c20m to cook, and we don't have that long to spare in the morning.

But why is it impressive for a man to cook breakfast? If I cooked breakfast no-one would be impressed.

Would he have seen the cobs when he got the pizza out of the freezer?

In which case YANBU!

Yes, and the frozen pint of milk. He tends not to notice this stuff.

Well, if you lived in Germany or Holland, you would be having bread and cheese and cold meats for breakfast - a sor tof cold pizza!

Mind you, I speak as the mother of a child who had taramasalata, pitta bread and olives for breakfast every day for about 6 months. And who had cold roast potatoes for breakfast on Monday and tonight had two helpings of apple crumble and custard for supper because she was eating alone, and I couldn't think of a sensible reason why she shouldn't!

And whose 89 year old mother loves cold curry for breakfast!

curry + rice is eaten for breakfast by billions of people.

Cold pizza is also a perfectly adequate breakfast. Not sure I could be arsed to cook a frozen one though. The larder would have to be pretty empty before I dished that up.

Although come to think of it we never have frozen pizzas so it wouldn't be an option anyway.

Ha ha! My sister and I used to cook ourselves pizza for breakfast! We would get up about 6am to watch cartoons and eat Pizza and chocolate cake. This was usually on a weekend though, bit much for a school day. As I recall Mum and Dad did not approve but of course the alternative was to get up abominably early on a Saturday to supervise breakfast so they never did anything about it.

That´s a bit of a generalisation, seeker

School age children are increasingly having cereal, and musli has been popular for a while.

Impressed by the taking the time to do it and the resourcefulness of going oh there's something that will fill up the kids, lets do that. Not some sexist comment about being impressed by a man cooking; my DH does all the cooking in this house.

TBH I think rolls defrosted in the microwave are pretty horrible, and I would have expected that I would have to leave milk out to defrost rather than sticking it in the microwave. No idea about the milk though.

mmmmm yum I could do with some curry in the morning.

diddi - sorry, I realize that I was perpetuating racial stereotypes! But you must admit that some Continental Europeans do, and I was trying to suggest that not everyone thinks that porage is the only possible breakfast food!

YABU but since I spend a ridiculous amount of time silently biting my knuckles at my dh's parenting, I can't talk. He's a great dad but he didn't have the warping experience benefit of my upbringing where my mother's top phrase was 'You must learn to Ration your Pleasures.'

People are funny about breakfast though. I give ds fish fingers quite often - modern version of kedgeree IMO - and people who are around at the time have been known to or laugh. Very odd.

choosy - I was at boarding school in the 80's and fish fingers were standard breakfast fare. As were fairly standard things like bacon, sausagesm tomatoes, beans and eggs (never all together mind you, only one of them at a time) and slightly weird or offputting stuff like kippers and liver sausage...

must admit my favourite thing for breakfast - usually only if on holiday in spain - is a slice of tortilla. great start to the day!

i think the pizza incident sounds perfectly fine, but it seems to be part of a bigger trend of your husband indulging the children with treats (I am assuming the children thought the pizza was a treat), which may explain why you are annoyed and most of the thread is not.

do you share parenting 50/50 or are you around more than your husband? if he's not around as much, he may be grasping for ways to make time with dad special - perhaps you can have a chat with him and find some ways he can direct that into something more positive (my husband reads them Harry Potter out loud, which they love).

also, are you a controlling person? I don't mean that in a rude way, but if you are you may be applying a double standard - in other words, when you give treats it's justified, when someone else does it, it's out of line. Just a thought. I know because I can tend that way myself.

Oh yes, forgot to mention: at our house we have a tradition in our family that on birthdays we have cake for breakfast. The kids love it, so much so that my oldest recently decided to announce the fact at school assembly. I though it was hilarious. That's what childhood is for.

Oh dear OP. I wonder what you think of my dh giving ds (4 nearly 5) left over apple crumble (all from our own garden) and custard as breakfast when we haven't run out of milk and cereal.

If you say pizza is junk food laden with salt and fat, then why do you keep it in the house?

So, yes, I do think that you are overreacting ever so slightly. That is better than having no breakfast at all surely?

The alternative wasn't 'nothing' though, was it. There were other options. He opted for pizza.

complete over-reaction

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Bloss, I already answered your question.

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