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Original poster

To be completely p***ed off for being flamed in AIBU for having an opinion ????

138 replies

ThroughlyFedUp · 09/10/2009 18:58

Well, am I ???

OP posts:
Morloth · 09/10/2009 20:01

You can think whatever you like and on AIBU you can say whatever you like...and so can everyone else.

ThoroughlyFedUp · 09/10/2009 20:03

smoking2shoes - You didn't have to worry about aiming your comment at me as I was not the one who posted the original thread. I am in fact the one who dared to claim that I have NEVER b/f my sons and didn't like seeing my aunt b/f her 4 yo in a busy public place, whilst he played with the nipple on her other boob.
I actually, totally agree with you. I FF both of my boys from the start.

SardineQueen · 09/10/2009 20:06

She had both of her breasts exposed to BF?

daftpunk · 09/10/2009 20:06

op;

of course you are entitled to your opinion, and i agree with you, you don't necessarily have to have experienced something first hane to have an opinion on it.....

however, you are being unreasonable to start a thread about a thread.

ThoroughlyFedUp · 09/10/2009 20:07

imisssleeping - Well, that is your opinion & you are entitled to it. However, once again, no-one has given me any "facts" about extended b'feeding, so I can only go on my own personal experiences and until I am given proven facts, who's to say I am the wrong who doesn't know what they're talking about ??

ThoroughlyFedUp · 09/10/2009 20:08

Sardine - No, she disn't have both of her breasts exposed, but he used to put his hand down her top & "fiddle", quite obvious to anyone what he was doing.

DippyFarquhar · 09/10/2009 20:08

Your first post on that thread was this

"My auntie breastfed her 4th child (DS2) until he was 3. Sorry, but it was too much for me to see this child running around, eating sweets, then coming over, lifting her top shock and saying "Boobie pease mummy" whilst playing with nipple on her other breast at the same time.......Gross !!!

Needless to say, that actually put me off breastfeeding myself."

You describe pretty much what my DS1 (2.10) does and that you think it's gross. Cheers for that. Your reaction is precisely why I don't BF in public any more. Well done again. FWIW I don't mind BF him still and happy to carry on until he's ready to stop. If he want's a BF there is no distracting him.

If I said that seeing mothers FF put me right off using formula milk as it looks so gross and common that would be ok because I'm only stating my opinion right? Except it would be ignorant and ill-informed and I'd deserve to be flamed for it.

You can think what you like but maybe it's best to keep those thoughts to yourself if you can't handle people's reactions to them.

DippyFarquhar · 09/10/2009 20:08

Aah, fuck it.Wrong thread.

pointyhat · 09/10/2009 20:08

AIBU = flaming

We all know that

ThoroughlyFedUp · 09/10/2009 20:09

Sorry Sardine, just realised I missed your original post. Thanks for the advice

Tortington · 09/10/2009 20:09

exactly pointy - exactly

GhostWriter · 09/10/2009 20:11

No you don't have to experience something to form an opinion on it but to go one step further and start offering up the coincidental health of your dcs vs the health of your cousin as some kind of structured argument is merely highlighting your ignorance of a particular subject.

Might I suggest that aibu is not the place for you. If seeing a child touch your aunt's breast put you off bfing your own babies, as you say, then you're too sensitive for the rigours of aibu.

SardineQueen · 09/10/2009 20:11

I was going to say that getting them both out for a public feed was a touch extreme...

OP can I suggest that you try to think of a topic that is very very important to you, then imagine that you are on a thread and someone comes and very forcefully says that your very important belief is rubbish.

That is why people reacted as they did - BFing is a v emotive subject for a lot of people.

ThoroughlyFedUp · 09/10/2009 20:12

Ok pointy, maybe you know that, but I didn't

I do now though

ThoroughlyFedUp · 09/10/2009 20:13

But Sardine, I never said it was rubbish. All I said was I didn't like seeing my aunt b'feeding her 4 year old in public.

SardineQueen · 09/10/2009 20:13

Don't stop MNing though.

It has happened to the best of us. I know which particular topics to avoid like the plague...

GhostWriter · 09/10/2009 20:14

here

Benefits of continued feeding if you're truly interested which I suspect you're not.

daftpunk · 09/10/2009 20:14

i b/f my last dc until he was almost 3....nothing wrong with it.

JeremyVile · 09/10/2009 20:14

Agree with Bibbity, but also think that OP has had some pretty good explanations on this thread as to why her post on the other thread (havent seen it, just going by the c&p here) may have caused such strong reactions.

Also aibu is a it of seething pus and bile. Didn't you know that??

bibbitybobbityCAT · 09/10/2009 20:14

"AIBU = flaming

We all know that"

We don't if we are new.

And why should it have to, anyway?

DippyFarquhar · 09/10/2009 20:14

Nope, right thread. You could always have, like, looked away?

JeremyVile · 09/10/2009 20:16

...thats a seething pit,obv

Morloth · 09/10/2009 20:16

Posting on a board without first having had a good long lurk and getting a feel for that board is always a silly thing to do and virtually guarantees misreading the "mood" of said board and getting all offended.

JeremyVile · 09/10/2009 20:18

That old sausage, that aibu is a free for all is pretty lame.

Why would you want to tear someone a new one just cos you can? fair enough if its a subject you feel strongly about but, jesus, its all so very unseemly [prim]

GhostWriter · 09/10/2009 20:18

'I didn't like seeing my aunt bfing her 4 yr old in public' (though you say he was 3 in the previous thread, then say that he stopped when he started school, I'm a little confused)

vs

'It was gross !!!' and 'it put me off'. Then disbelieving the facts as presented to you by extended bfers with your representative sample of two children.

It's MN, when I first joined I got into a huge ruckus and I've read it back recently and I was a twat. I was new and didn't understand the frankness. I was also naive. I admit that now.

Just stay away from aibu and bfing.

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