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why the fuck is she messaging me still???

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TheLadyEvenstar · 02/10/2009 23:41

my exes g'f has been messaging me on FB asking when ds1's wanker sperm donor father is going to be able to see him. as she has to make sure her kids are prepared for the journey.

1- what the heck has it got to do with her?
2- DS1 has seen his father ONCE in 4 years
3- EX has never been interested until he picked up with this woman and her 4 kids
4- she is getting on my tits big time now!
5- she has requested ds1's friendship on FB 12 times now and I keep declining it
6- why can't she leave us the feck alone???

sorry am peed off!!!!!

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ErikaMaye · 05/10/2009 20:37

Good... I hope that helps a little.

TheLadyEvenstar · 05/10/2009 21:35

not as much as an AK-47

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mummygirl · 06/10/2009 08:43

OP, are you certain it is your ex IMing DS and not his gf throuhg ex's account?

TheLadyEvenstar · 06/10/2009 08:54

MG, it was ex typing i know how he talks iyswim? and it is the g'fs account not his. he deleted his one when ds1 added him.

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KimiTheThreadSlayingAxeKiller · 06/10/2009 17:51
Sad
TheLadyEvenstar · 07/10/2009 00:18

Kimi, I am in a better mood today!

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ErikaMaye · 07/10/2009 00:20

Glad you're feeling better today... Has anything else happened?

TheLadyEvenstar · 07/10/2009 00:25

I have had a barrage of text messages telling me how ugly and fat I am, how this is all my fault blah de blah lol

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ErikaMaye · 07/10/2009 00:28

Wow, that's mature...

TheLadyEvenstar · 07/10/2009 00:35

Erika yep

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ErikaMaye · 07/10/2009 00:37

Are these from him or her?

TheLadyEvenstar · 07/10/2009 00:41

his mobile but that doesn't mean anything.

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ErikaMaye · 07/10/2009 00:41

Either way - clears throar - Fuckwit.

BumptiousandBustly · 07/10/2009 06:56

Unbelievable, I am awed by your son and simply stunned by your ex and his girlfriend, who can behave like this!

TheLadyEvenstar · 07/10/2009 06:59

Bump, it is shocking to say the least....

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ErikaMaye · 07/10/2009 10:49

Its totally absurd, it really is...

wukter · 07/10/2009 11:15

Have you spoken to your DS, Lady? Must add to the chorus of compliments for him. Maybe the GF is trying to orchestrate a big happy family thing, thinking if he treats his kids that way how will he treat mine? Probably way off the mark ....

TheLadyEvenstar · 08/10/2009 21:55

Well after a day of him texting me and me replying pretty harshly but politely iykwim?

his GIRLFRIEND has sent this message to ds1's old account which I actually have to say I admire her honesty!!!

K.

I cant answer your question about what went on with you and your Dad when you were seven, I was not in your Dad's life at that time, however he has told me his feelings on this matter, it hurt him a great deal to cut ties with you, he found it hard to come to a happy comprimise with your Mum, he did not feel strong enough to cope in this situation, I know it is hard to understand but I can assure you that being a parent is the hardest thing in the world, it does not come naturally to everybody, only now with my support is he able to feel strong enouigh to cope and even enjoy becoming a good and strong parent and the wonderful things that children bring into your life, he has told me many times that he could have done more and should have, but I believe it is better late than never.

I hope this answers at least a small part of your thoughts, if there is anything else I can help you with please do not hesitaate to contact me at any time, also please show your Mum this as I dont want her to feel as though she is not included in this.

I will keep calling him your Dad as this is what he is, my children lost their Dad, unfortunately he died 11 years ago, just because they no longer see him and D , my son who you met does not remember him, he was only 1 when he died, well he is still their Dad and always will be. This is my opinion and I understand if you do not agree.

Anyway about you going out to Thorpe Park, talk it over with your Mum and let your Dad know as soon as possible before it closes.

L

Well what do you all think???

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colditz · 08/10/2009 22:09

GF sounds ok
Your ex sounds like a wanker and in all honesty I would not be encouraging your ds too much to see him.

The Gf does sound ok though .... but I suspect if your son were to choose to involve himself with his bio father, it would actually be his GF and her kids he ends up having a relationship with, as his bio father sounds like a worthlessmagggot infested piece of carrion, as your awe-inspiringly astute little boy seems to have noticd.

depends how he (ds) feels about seeing GF and kids really. It won't be about his excuse for a blood relative,

HowlingAtTheMoon · 08/10/2009 22:09

She actually sounds more balanced than your ex! Still I think they should just let it be, when your son wants to see him he will, your ex is just emotionally blackmailing your son.

TheLadyEvenstar · 08/10/2009 22:19

Colditz, you hit the nail on the head! the bit that stands out to me is

"but I can assure you that being a parent is the hardest thing in the world, it does not come naturally to everybody, only now with my support is he able to feel strong enouigh to cope and even enjoy becoming a good and strong parent"

WTF so he was not grown up enough to be a parent as a single man but now he has someone else kids to look after he can???

DS1 wants to see him but he wants him to come to our area.....

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